I just found out today Iāve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out sheās been cheating for a few months but sheās only just told me now because sheās fallen out of love for me and sheās fallen in love with him, so sheās leaving me for him.
She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.
Even though Iām so heart broken and havenāt stopped crying, I do forgive her because itās true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head āitās fine, ill make it up to her next timeā.
Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I wonāt have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.
But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so heās richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day heās free to spend time with her, and his company doesnāt notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile Iām working 12 hours a day
She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldnāt notice.
Now I feel really broken, Iām in no mental state to be working I canāt think about anything else I have deadline for work today and Iām just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.
I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I donāt know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.
or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?