You know those type of people? The ones who believe they know everything, everyone else is beneath them, but in reality are extremely stupid?
The ones who will never admit they are wrong even if you show them why? The ones who will try to demean you at every step of the way cause it gives them pleasure? The ones who you just want to punch as soon as you see them in office?
Yeah, I know you’re thinking about atleast one person while reading this. My question is what has your strategy been in dealing with these people?
So far in my journey, I haven’t faced any sadistic manager, so that has been great, but the people, my god, some of the tech guys in my teams have been absolutely the most frustrating human beings I’ve encountered.
Ofcourse the first thing to do is to take a step back and reevaluate whether if it is you who has been the actual asshole all along, but after that, if you are still convinced that the other person is nothing but the living embodiment of satan, how do you guys go about dealing with them?
I’ve cliff at my desk. Cliff is my pet support rock. I throw it at people who annoys me, which makes me happy! Beware of Cliff. Okay Bye!
I have a bugger in the office of a similar character but is also an important stakeholder.
Following steps i did to make sure that he he not staying rent free in my mind post office hours
Stopped verbal discussion and went full digital with him. Only via emails
Stopped attending Teams calls in which he is part of.
Reached out to other stakeholders and informed my rationale of not attending unplanned Teams meeting in which he is part of. Also demanded other stakeholders to mention agenda clearly for the virtual connects so that this bugger does not hijack the meeting with his agenda
Gathering info related to his inefficiencies ( took some time) and prepared a brief note to management showcasing how he hides is inefficiencies and mistakes by blame /diverting it to others).
I was seated beside him. Now I switched seats to avoid accidentally punching him.
Adding on why he was being an asshole to me.
I have recently switched companies and here I have been tasked to set up a new function from scratch.
This bugger was insecure as he was expecting to get this role and to get elevated prior to my joining.
how's scm in comparison to swe/ sde? also is mba necessary to break into.
i know this question is completely random so feel free to ignore
Interact less physically and more digitally.
Sometimes use their sword 🗡️ to wound him/her if required digitally ⚔️
Avoid physical interaction if u don't want therapist meet-up
Ayo, that’s my boss 😂
@mujheGharJaanaHai Most of these folks are emotionally immature and they feel insecure deep inside and that's why they behave like this.
The best way to handle them is to become assertive. It's like tresspassing. You should not allow these folks to cross the boundary, and if they do, immediately tell them that they are crossing their boundaries and never be on the back foot, for example– never say- "Ohh, please don't say like that" and instead you should say "I didn't like the way you spoke to me just now." It will land you in a stronger position.
Also, don't just get into any arguments with these folks, it's useless, instead, you can let them know when you are ready to have a conversation. You can say, "I am going to respond to you about this later today"
These are some tactics to handle tough nuts.
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