SquishyTaco
SquishyTaco

How to deal with a condescending manager?

I have recently joined a startup as an APM (My first PM role) and my manager is teaching me the bits and pieces of Product Management. The issue is, while he's helpful and experienced in this field, he sometimes talks to me in a very condescending way which kinda hurts me. I agree that I have a lot to learn and getting a job as an APM is a big thing, especially when you've been in a specialist role for all your life but I still don't get the point of patronizing your juniors. I'm trying to get better at writing documentation and specs but I get very disheartened after every spec review meeting I schedule with him.

Any tips for handling this? And what are some ways to get better at writing documentation and specs?

16mo ago
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FluffyMuffin
FluffyMuffin

Throw emotion out of the equation. Don't bottle it up. Focus on your life. Ignore pricks in general. In a long enough timeline, they are just blips. In corporate, you never know how soon you'll end up with a new boss

BouncyMochi
BouncyMochi

If he is behaving the same way with everyone, then he is a prick, let it go, you can't change it. If he is behaving like this only with you, then he probably expects you to up your game, or is disappointed in the quality of questions you ask. Remember even he has expectations from a new hire, teaching you is not his job, delegating work and expecting output is...

QuirkyPotato
QuirkyPotato

Can you help with some instances where you felt he was condescending?

TwirlyDonut
TwirlyDonut

Learn on the job, make notes when you feel bad and take it up with your manager. If it’s not working, based on your situation take a call. I can’t stress enough how mental health is important at early stages of your career, it can make or break a person’s ability to think straight and carry that into your leadership role if it’s negative.

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