My mother called me yesterday and tells me she got scammed for about 10 lakhs and needs money by Monday. She has 4 lakhs and I will have to cover the rest. Turns out she let a friend take a loan in her name and this friend gave fake jewellery as collateral. The friend took loans under her husband’s name and my mom’s name, she divorced the dude and escaped. The bank called my mom and has asked her to pay, now they’re filing a case against my mom for fraud.
I’ve spent my weekend talking to advocates and friends, and looks like the only way to get out of it unscathed is to cut a deal with the bank saying we’ll pay the money back and they don’t press charges in return. Contesting the bank is going to take time, money and the risk of my mom losing her job.
As an older daughter who grew up in a broken family, I’ve spent my childhood and adulthood protecting my mother and sibling. I finally landed a well paying job 2 years ago and now the responsibility extended to providing for my younger sister and my mother financially which I’m more than happy to do. I’ve worked hard the past few months to save what I have right now beyond what I give my family, use to sustain myself and finally felt happy about the position I’m in.
Now I’m heartbroken. I’m going to be emptying almost 70% of what I have so far for this for paying the bank and the lawyer. Especially for something that’s not even my mistake and something that could have been easily avoided. I’m not in a place to direct my anger at her, I know it’s a hard time for her as well.
6 to 7 lakhs might sound like a small amount to some but I don’t have the privilege to throw money like that. I don’t have fuck you money. I don’t take money from friends. I’m 25 and literally just started my life 2 years ago after working for peanuts.
What’s even the point of working hard, leading an honest life if this is how it works? It’s just truly unfair and I don’t know how to deal with it.
Me too venting in this space.. //Start if rant
My father too was frauded by a builder whom we had entrusted building flats on our plot of land. Fcker took booking amount from multiple people and left construction, claimants now coming after us saying its our responsibility to refund even though my father didnot recive any amount.
I had to take 18 lakhs loan for my father to complete construction and am all the time calling advocates in assesing risk from claimants who come barging at our home and building site with threats of filling FIR.
Every month my one third salary goes in Loan amount, had got a ideal wlb good paying job 2 years back after battling unemployment and low pay for many years.
Had planned to take wife and kids on vactaions for making up for lost time but now struggling to fulfill basic needs for family, forgot about vacations.
Have taken risk and moonlighting but it becomes hell on days when there is clash between jobs and sometimes lash out on my kids and wife and parents and then get hit by double guilt of not being strong enough.
Dont have any backing to face cheat builder who has backing of police and politicians, claimants coming after us as they have recognized us as soft target.
Preparing for 10 lakhs more expenses in multi year litigation trying to probe my fathers innocence.
Fcking jealous relatives enjoying all this from distance.
Fck this world.
//End of rant
Hey @Sapthinker So sorry for this battle you're fighting.
I hope you stay strong in it, as you have so far. It's really nice that you are fighting so much of this battle, taking a hit on capital and your own fun.
I hope you're stoic through all of it. Find strength to withstand it all. If you feel too down any of the days, feel free to share here, we are here to support/hear you 🫂
That’s so unfortunate. Safe to say I partly understand how this feels if not all of it. One of the biggest feeling I’m left with more than anything is that I’m proud of being able to support my family in need. The amount of sacrifices you’re doing to help them out is massive. So take it from me, I’m proud of you. You’re kind and your family is lucky to have you. Even if things are tough right now, your future will be bright. Stay strong ❤️
You're just 25. You have at least another 20 years of work ex to go by, if not more. You'll make loads of money in years and decades to come. Do the right thing. Pay off the money. You, your mom will sleep well.
this is heartwrenching on so many levels, may god take care of you 🥺
Contact Deepika Narayan bharadwaj, she's a reporter covering such cases of women taking advantage of men and Indian systems. Hopefully she can help you out as well.
Really sorry for what you're going through, I hope you pull through it. Stay strong ❤️
+1 to this advice.
Our Indian police and judiciary systems are so crooked corrupt that judges and police will be much likelier to pay attention to your case if there's a social media (or even general media) bawaal. Judges usually won't do jackshit in such cases unless something brings the case in broader public scrutiny.
Who was provided with collateral? Bank or your mother?. If the collateral is with your mother, why not just take the loan against the gold from bank itself. A little bit of basic discussion among family would go a long way
The jewels are with the bank and hence the legal complications. I wish she discussed it with me, but I just have to play with the cards I’ve been dealt with.
The jewels are collateral to bank but the loan was taken in your mother's name? Bank has a appraiser who does the gold check. Looks like bank may be involved. Are there any evidence that the loan was given to the lady and the collateral was also hers?
Threatening is a easy option for bank to collect dues from the the middle class. Don't fall for it. Check with a lawyer, if it is a civil case, it can be dragged on for years and eventually bank can write it off as bad loan.
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