Hey All, I am writing this to express how I am feeling since last 1 year now. This post will be a bit lengthy but I would be grateful if anyone could help me even a bit. I moved into a new company 1year back and due to bad work environment I left. I took a months break and joined a new company now. I have a total 5 years of work experience, my salary is extremely good. ( I don’t worry about this at all for now)
My problem is I don’t know what to do in my life. I guess I have quarter life crisis.
Earlier I wanted to do music and act , I took professional classes and left because I felt bored idk why. I felt like I need someone to guide me and handhold me since I know no one in this industry. Talking about my job I have always moved into roles I loved every bit of work and I m very sincere and hardworking. I stopped working out , I stopped cycling, I stopped painting. I stopped liking everything literally. Idk how to get back at things. I feel I am gonna die anyway why I need to do this , or that or etc etc. I even took counselling but it did not seem yo help me.
Idk what to do. Please share your experiences too and what I need to do.
Hey @LankyEmbassy , I would suggest why not do truth seeking towards these feelings. You said you love your job, right? Why do you love it? Why not do more and more in it? Why do you feel something is missing in your life? Is it because of social comparisons? Is it because of the damn social media? Do you feel you aren't living your life? You can define the standard or the life you want, there's no rule out there that life needs to be lived a certain way. If you think you aren't doing stuff apart from your work and you really want to, Just figure out what those are and go do it!
Thank you for taking out time and replying, it really means a lot. ❤️ I have come to a realisation that I have done all these work/job in my life because someone appreciated it, be it my manager or immediate colleagues and they said you’re good at it so you have to keep going or there was some kind of anger inside me. In my first job although I did the same work as folks from IIT, I was paid less and it was rubbed on my face that you’re not from IIT, hence the less pay and I felt like shit. I felt like IIt is everything and to overcome that I worked harder and made sure I reached the same salary as the IIT folks were paid. Soon after that I reached a stage where I earned more than I could ever imagine. Like my salary increased 200% and I was extremely overwhelmed and felt like hard work literally pays of everything. But, only to realise that all these dreams were never mine, I was forced to do all these because of how people treated me.
I have worked in 3 organisations so far. My experience in the third company has been bad because my managers were extremely bad and mentally harassed me. So I quit. I din feel like I was appreciated even a bit for all the effort I made and helped the company.
Also about social media, I am not on Instagram or Twitter or any other. I have stopped using all of this like 2 years back. I just listen to music on Spotify and YouTube.
I just don’t know what I want, my mind is just not working.
Why do you want handholding of something you like? I think if you really like some interest, you would learn it yourself by online content or by taking one time online classes. You just need to identify what you like and just indulge in that. It looks like you might have some level of depression, but we folks are not qualified to conclude that. You should visit some psychologist to ask the same. Because for normal folks, one at least has some interest to indulge in- either reading Books, or visiting new places, or watching movies, or Gardening, or keeping Pets. There are lots of things, which are interesting…
So I have been learning music , but when I said handhold, I meant someone in the industry could guide me. And I want to look out for that reference.
Yes, but you wrote something like “one to one guidance”, that would be a bit too much to expect in my opinion. There are several trading experts who undertake online trainings by charging hardly 20K or so. You can try one of those trainings and see if it helps.
If counseling didn't help you should try another counselor. This is exactly what they help people figure out.
Try speaking to Mahesh from InnerSight Bangalore, he's very experienced and good at his job - +91 98869 10917
Thank you. ❤️ will try to reach out to him.
I agree with that comment. Counselling guidance will differ from person to person. Try another psychologist. To my understanding u have reached ur financial plateau. If money is not something that will motivate u to live, find what motivates u.
Yes I did. But not helpful.
@LankyEmbassy I think you have to somehow challenge yourself for the next thing
Not job, anything which you want to improve or which drives you.
Not sure if this also can be done by a relationship maybe (just suggesting)
And at some point most people come across the big question of what they are doing with life, life is not roadmap so it’s okay if you get these thoughts sometimes
@LankyEmbassy start working out and things related to physical activities, this helps in giving mind clarity and overall health
I think you need to travel to find out happiness or whatever you are looking for. You will get to know that everyone have their own problems and it’s not easy for many people even to survive in this growing world.
Hey @Budapest I have been thinking of this lately as I read it somewhere earlier that it would at least give me a perspective towards approaching life like you said. I need to do solo travelling to realise this and speak to a lot of people.
Yeah, it actually helps. Telling you after my personal experience. And yeah believe me in the end you will laugh at you or your problem like what all are you thinking of.
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