My story as a woman in this city
I'm still hesitant to share that story so please bear with me. I was at Church Street Social yesterday night to meet some of my college friends. After a few drinks and a nice dinner at 12:30ish we decided to leave.
Since, Uber was taking some time I was sitting w/ a few of my friends and talking. As soon as one of our guy friends left for home two women suddenly approached us and demanded for cash. We obviously denied and started walking away from them.
So, I am not a very strong woman and I am slightly anemic, one of them suddenly pushed me back. My friends started helping me recover and also started to verbally fight with them. Thankfully, a security guard from the nearby restaurant shooed them away.
I am obviously very worried about this incident and do not want to discuss this with anyone. I am too scared tbh and have moved in with few of my friends for some emotional support.
This is also the reason why I am venting out because I just want to feel heard and understood rather than be told about what I should or shouldn't do.
Hey OP do let me know if you’re interested in taking up any action. I work with St Broseph , we’ll be helping you with any assistance that you need.
Really sorry to hear that this happened to you. Not really the experience one should have in BLR.
Glad to know st broseph has an army now and a presence outside reddit as well.
Yeah. We’ve decided to expand so that it’ll actually help in reaching out to more issues faced by people in BLR.
We’ve got WA groups and Discord servers now. As well as Chapters for every area so that it’ll help mobilise support sooner and we’ve expanded to Hyderabad as well.
Might get him on here one day to do an AMA 😂
Not to demoralise but If it's beggar/vasooli kind of "they/them"
I'll share incident from 2018, what they did with us in a general compartment of passanger train (we were traveling form jaipur to delhi), they entered in large gang and demanded directly 100-500₹ for their blessings, whoever denied started slurring anything form "aye babu, choos dungi", to "khada nahi hota toh sath chal le", some even inserted their hands into shirts, scratching chest to check manliness of victim.
Absolute chaos, kind of harrasment, after that incident not had the courage to even get inside a unreserved train.
Maybe too soft for the "real world" I can't express how violated I felt even after just being an paid observer.
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Don't mean to sound insensitive...
But you need to wake up to what the world is. Be strong... Mentally and physically and ideally financially. The world isn't a rosy place. It will be, if you're strong.
Let's assume if, instead of kinnars, there were older men or teenage boys or girls or auto drivers gang ,who pushed you and asked for money. Would that have changed that they out unnumbered you, out strengthened you? You would still feel the same, still hurt, still had to keep yourself safe. So how can you not be hurt, how can you not be unsafe how can you manage to handle such situations is the answers you should look for. The world isn't a fairy place . It never was . It never will be. 2018 Gurgaon sahara Mall, similar incident , the group next to me suffered same, they came to me, i take out 100rs note, give it to the cigarette shop next to me and tell them to collect 100rs of my due from pan shop . Irrespective of their age, gender all they want is money. Money is in my pocket. I take out money from my pocket and give it to cigarettes shop. Now they don't come near me coz i have told them where the money is. Its called pledging. My village uncle did this all the time with hookers . I learned from there. Its like bees roaming over honey. Change the honey spot. Also, as a brother to a sister, never put yourself in such a position where you can be out powered 1on1. I am a man, been to good and shady clubs, never put yourself into that position. Unless your friends were boxers you were idiot to wait for the uber on a road. Stay under the roof untill uber arrives.