Hey guys so not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but I really need help from wherever I can get.
So I was never into pornography until college happened in 2014 and I had a single room all to myself and unlimited high speed internet.
It started with watching porn on weekends and snowballed into doing it daily over the course of the next 4 years.
Not only that, as of today I am spending so many of my productive hours (3-4 hours) on sites like Omegle hoping to meet someone with the same fetishes as me. (ik foolish me) Not only that I do the same on Telegram, Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Discord etc. I know I'll never get anything worthwhile here but I am deeply addicted to this expectation that I will.
Today I haven't come out of my room. Since 9am when I woke up, I have only been looking at porn and at these sites doing God knows what! (It has been 8 hours) ☹️
Not only these, once or twice I had a chance to get intimate with a girl, but I could not keep it up and ejaculated within a minute.
Guys I have ruined my life. Please guys I am begging you, I want to pick myself up and make a man out of myself and live a happy life. I am very very sad and depressed. Please help me if you can. It has been 10 years, I am 28 now and I can't take it for one more day. 😭😭😭
Seek professional help. Now.
No one here is qualified to help you with this.
You also need an accountability buddy - sibling or parent. So you have to confide in someone who'll help with the counselling you'll go through and follow up to ensure you stay the course.
Consult a professional ASAP.
Do not look for advice on the Internet for now.
Hope you come out stronger
The first thing I would say is to consult a professional doctor and get immediate help. Meanwhile follow some steps such as don’t be alone, don’t stay at home or PG alone. Either go out in malls, coffee shops or multiplex. If you stay alone you will feel the urge to watch it. That’s why you need to be amongst crowd for next few days. Meditation won’t work as your mind is too much affected by porn. You need to break the habit and for that, don’t open your laptop except for office work. Don’t work from home, go to office, stay late as much as possible as you will not dare to watch porn in office atleast. Even simple stuff like online games will help. Just break the addiction of porn by keeping yourselves busy in something else, even if that is anything as long as your are not alone.
Get busy and don’t allow the lapse to happen like live in a shared room . You have to avoid situations where you can do it .
When I was busy for a week in some important work these thoughts vanish. Also realise porn is not real life and is just artificial stimulation which is harmful in the long run. It’s just a shortcut for pleasure it’s like eating junk food everyday . You know you will feel bad if you eat such food everyday.
You need real world thrill like travel, sports, romantic relationship or something inspiring goal. This is just an easy shortcut that will ruin your life .
Also watch this movie sooner rather than later “Free solo” for inspiration . Focus is required 100%
Thank you so much, I will definitely try this
Join bjyus or ola or any of those amazing life changing startups. You will not have time to breathe. Of course take a loan before you join them so that you are not tempted to quit within 2 days.
This actually seems like a good suggestion
Get professional help.
Join a Gym and start working out. That's a good start.
Also, don't try cutting the habit off right of the hat. Keep a goal, first skip a day, then 2 and gradually end it. Otherwise you'll end up relapsing.
Thank you buddy! I will definitely try
See a good therapist. Should help you for sure. All the best.
I was preparing to say something until I read the last sentence. Man, seek professional help. For your own fucking sake.
Seek professional help, of course.
But here is what YOU can do.
Last, I read somewhere that if you like to watch some other guy have it with some other woman ( or a woman you desire), you are into being a cuckold, are you? Trust me, this has been a trigger point for many folks
Thank you for helpful advice!
Yes you guessed it right, I am into cuckolding and consider it to be my biggest fantasy tbh. The thrill I feel when I imagine my wife doing more for another man than myself is indeed amazing! Should it not be like that?
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