Ah, the classic "I wasted my engineering years" saga. Don't worry, you're not alone. Just remember, regrets are like mosquitoes, they only bother you if you let them.

indeed but I wanted to know what sets apart the more successful ones from the herd? what did a 30 once do wrong that some 22 yo did right?

I feel that we often don't take enough time to reflect, and as I'm currently interning and preparing for a fulltime position, I'm curious about what sets people apart a few years down the line. Suc...

I feel that we often don't take enough time to reflect, and as I'm currently interning and preparing for a full-time position, I'm curious about what sets people apart a few years down the line. Success is subjective—what might be a personal achievement for me could be different for someone else. But when it comes to having more "Eureka" moments at work (if those exist), enjoying the work itself, receiving monetary validation, or hitting career milestones, how does that vary? If most of us aim to live a healthy life and earn a good income, where do we tend to make mistakes that lead us from having the energy and ambition to achieve something in our 20s, to feeling worn out or unfulfilled by our 40s?


it boils down to 4 or 40 for me and i know that kinda stupid because I let the 4 years of engineering pass by but yes, i am okay to live with 4 years of regrets but not 40.

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pov on mistakes- Grapevine

Recently, I've completed 1 year into my role and my CTC is 16LPA. The company is a startup, and I've got ESOPs which are included in CTC.

It has been an year, and I'm thinking of making a switch. But still can't decide whether I should bet on ESOPs and stay, or get a higher pay and switch?

The company culture is pretty good, and it's a remote role, plus not much work load. :) 

But apparently, I'm worried if everyone else is making a switching companies with a 50% raise, why should I stick with 10% appraisal at a single company?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

1 year into job, what to do next?

Product Marketing Manager

I just hit 30 and it feels... different. Not bad, just not what I expected. My 20s were a whirlwind of possibilities, but now I'm wondering if I'm supposed to have it all figured out.
How are your 30s different from your 20s? What changes - good or bad - caught you off guard?

How are your 30s different than your 20s?

This post just punched me in the gut. I remember waking up on my 30th birthday and just... staring at the ceiling. Wondering where the hell my 20s went. 
  
 You know what's weird? I miss the chaos sometimes. The shitty apartments, sasti daaru, the all-nighters with friends, thinking we could conquer the world. Now I'm here, with a decent job and a place of my own, and some days I feel more lost than ever. 
  
 The other day I caught myself getting excited about buying a new vacuum. A vacuum! 25-year-old me would've laughed his ass off. 
  
 But it's not all bad. I actually like myself more now. I don't take as much crap from people. I know what I want in a relationship. Still, there are nights I lie awake wondering if I'm doing this whole "adult" thing right. 
  
 I guess what caught me off guard the most is realizing my parents were just winging it too. We're all just trying to figure it out as we go :) 
  
 To anyone else feeling this: you're not alone. We're all a little scared, a little excited, and just hoping we're on the right track. Let's be kind to ourselves. Maybe that's what our 30s are really about - let’s fucking go!

Investor

What are your thoughts when people say "Enjoy your 20's" ? do you agree?

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

I will be starting my career in tech as an FTE next month. Although I wanted to start in a PBC, life had other plans for me.
Need some advice or maybe something which you wish you knew if you were my age for a successful career in tech.
Learning and growth at utmost priority, don't care much about wlb at least till I am not 30
PS : base is 17 but have a huge amount of loan to repay.

Need advice from millennials

At young age you should focus only on 2 things, career and money.  
  
 Career: Try to learn as much as possible in whatever you do. Take initiative and show enthusiasm for anything new. Anyone can code, but people who take initiative and has the ability to learn new things quickly are the one who make it big. Build a good relationship with your colleagues. Your network is your networth.  
  
 Try to get as much clarity in life as possible. Talk to seniors, learn about their journey, why they made certain decisions. Trust me having clarity in life as to what you wanna do in life is a cheatcode.  
  
 Money: No matter how much you make, you can always save money. Invest that money into index funds. Investing early on in life will put you years ahead of your friends. Compounding is real. Here's a simple rule you can follow: 50:20:30. Spend 50% on basic needs, 20% on your wants and invest the rest 30%.  
  
 Don't buy expensive things just to show off. Literally no one cares.

Product Manager

Software Engineer

/s

[ also hoping to have some responses from people in their 30s & 40s for insights ]

pls don’t say boards dene ki jagah crypto kharidna tha 2014 me🫠

What’s your biggest regret in life?

Business Analyst

As I'm entering a new stage of life, I'm starting to reevaluate my career priorities. In my 20s, I was all about climbing the ladder and chasing prestige. Now, I'm more focused on finding work that aligns with my values and allows for a balanced lifestyle. 

Have any of you gone through a similar shift? How did it change your career trajectory? And how do you define success for yourself now versus when you first started out?

Redefining success: How have your career priorities shifted as you've grown older?

Man, this hits home. I used to be all about the fancy title and corner office. Pulled 80-hour weeks, missed family events, the whole rat race thing.

Then my dad got sick last year. Spent a lot of time in hospitals, thinking about what really matters. Realized I couldn't remember the last time I took a real vacation or had dinner with my kids without checking emails.

Ended up taking a step back at work. Less pay, but more flexibility. You know what? I don't miss the stress. Sure, the ego took a hit at first, but I'm actually enjoying work now. Plus, I'm finally learning my kids' friends' names!

Success for me now? It's about having time for the people I love and work that doesn't make me dread Mondays. Still figuring it out, but dekhte hain baaki :)

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Wanted to say Hi, what do you do, how do you see current phase of your life, how do you look at your career so far, and what do you plan to do in next 5 years, etc.

Any 40+ Grapeviners here?

Solution Architect

So, I have heard multiple people that 20s is about exploring. Explore different jobs, work style, people etc , you name it!
   I believe with that, you cannot think of earning as exploration into different roles results in being at the same level across roles.
   1. What would you do or are currently doing about this? 
   2. Do you agree that 20s is about exploring?
   3. Did you explore in your 20s or did you try to climb the corporate ladder? 
   4. Would you do things differently if you had the chance?

People in/were in your 20s, what would/did you do?

Drop the western view of fun - Clubbing,partying,getting high/laid anyone can do. You don’t need any hard skills for it.  
  
 You have to change your perception of fun - I am a strong believer that 20s are for building your self. 
  
 Get Up Early - Explore your religion/spirituality - Work Hard - Don’t burn yourself out but ya the seeds you sow with hard work will pay on later in life.  
 Go Workout - Go for a Run- Go to the Gym it’s gonna help you live longer. 
  
 Eat healthy - Quit Smoking  
  
 Own Your life - Set Goals - Figure out your 2-5-10 Year Goals.  
  
 And When you have started this journey feel free to out with your friends create movie worthy stories and find the love of your life.

Growth Manager

Consultant

I made some wrong career choices and have ended up in a career that makes me really miserable. Have anyone of you changed your fields late in the game?

Have any of you guys done masters in your 30s or know someone who did?

Brand Marketing Manager

I've turned 27, roughly 3yoe earning 50k which is low but I'm upskilling. Currently due to layoffs, AI news and just a very unhealthy state of IT things are getting very depressing and I personally feel like I've already lost or missed in life. 
People are planning to get married around me everything is so sudden. 

People of grapevine, what advice would you want to give people like me who feel lost. 
Any general advice such as financial planning, lifestyle changes or just tech advice any advice which has helped you to live peacefully and comfortably would be greatly appreciated.

FOMO in tech

Advice : Please stop with the tutorial and enrolling in courses after course. Doesn't take you anywhere. Been there and done that.  
  
 You will end up with stupid clones which does seem like a value add in your resume. It's just there in everyone's resume.  
  
 Build one project, one solid project, maybe something to do with MFE. Not CRA react app but something with webpack if you prefer. Maybe a ecom app with seperate mfe for order and billing. Show the interaction between them, post on Twitter while you build. Share insights and maybe you will end up being in a recruiter's eye.

Frontend Engineer

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Hustle culture is a scam to brainwash employees. Any views?

Learnt it early on.   
     
  In my previous organisation, my manager used to give me the same feedback in every 1-1 I had with her, that am not active post my work timings, I don't extend and work. She would say, I am not required to be active on slack outside my working hours or on my offs. However, I should check the updates and acknowledge it even if it's my off or outside working hours. I saw my other colleagues doing same and when they did she would ask some or the other updates thus indirectly they had to work even on offs/outside working hours.   
     
 I worked there for 1 year and didn't give a fuck about her feedback. I would just say, yeah I'll do but never did.    
     
 This month, they laid off and I was among other people who was affected. I am glad that I didn't sacrifice my health and personal life for this bullshit.

Customer Success

Program Manager

Thinking of getting into product and starting fresh, but the reduction in product roles going forward makes me think will I do another career step mistake . Please suggest

System Engineer

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Women of grapevine, if you had to share one advice with your younger self what would it be?

Human Resources

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

A lot of noise around AI taking coding jobs, which i fear might be real. Like not completely but you get my point. So how should one upskill themselves (especially the average folks, top 1/2% will not be affected in any field imo) for the upcoming shift? Like will data analytics/science or maybe ai/ml engineering jobs be on rise ? Should be start upskilling in those fields or any other suggestions? I would really like to know it from someone who has good experience in the industry or someone with good insight. Thanks

Jobs which will be created /not impacted by AI

Software Developer

Ever since 2020, it feels like years have passed within weeks. I can't possibly explain this in words, but for some reason, time has been passing a bit too fast. Before I realized it, my graduation was completed, someone who would seem a grown-up to the person I was before the lockdown. Festivals don't seem to make me happy now, and neither does having friends and going out with anyone...everything seems normal and everything goes by before I can process anything on my mind. Is it just me? I can't feel any emotions like I used to, is it something that all grown-ups go through/suffer with?

Is Time Really Passing Too Fast Now?

Because we’re doing too many things. Weekdays are slammed with work, weekends are slammed with relatives, weddings, friends, chores, functions, outings!  
  
 Even till late in the night the screens are lit up and many us forget time. But the time you look up from the screen is an hour past in 15 mins.  
  
 We should sit. Do nothing. And just notice how slow the world is. Even for an hour or couple of hours.  
  
 Morpheus : It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.

Product Designer

10 years of schooling, studying hard during festivals, sacrificing my playtime, my childhood for marks..
2 years of high school - Completely cut-off from the world for a good college.
4 years of hard work for a job for a below average salary!!!

On the other hand:
Some random chai wala earns in lakhs.
Some MLM meme girl, living a luxurious lifestyle.
Insensible people are valued in society.
Even a 12th fail selling beer in his family shop lives a better life.

All the hard work I did is in vain? Whatever I did till this point of time was useless? What's the point of an endless struggle, if my destination has more struggle? Something is really wrong..

I have lost all my motivation 😞

What am I doing wrong?

Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by scamming people with MLM schemes? Would you respect yourself? 
  
 Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by running a tea stall? Would you respect yourself? 
  
 Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by dancing on reels? Would you respect yourself? 
  
 Scamming people is illegal, immoral and unethical. 
 Running a Tea Stall is nothing to be looked down upon. It is honorable hard work, regardless of perceived status. 
  
  
 Dancing on Reels -> gaining followers -> being valued by society is nothing to be looked down upon. Creative pursuits, regardless of platform, are honourable hard work and deserve appreciation and respect. 
  
  
 There are people earning millions of dollars doing OF. It depends on the individual whether they are happy doing it or not. 
 So please don't get demotivated. 
 If you see yourself entertaining people by all means work hard on social media. 
 If you see yourself in the food and beverage industry by all means work hard to get there. 
  
 But if you don't see yourself doing all of that and you see yourself doing what you're doing now or something similar but just earning much better, with a prestigious title tied to your name, and being valued and appreciated more by people, then just accept the fact that you've just begun to climb the mountain. Though it's a long and hard climb, it's worth the view. 
  
 Hard work never goes to waste. Work harder and smarter. You'll get where you want to. But decide where you want to go. Stop looking at people who are not even in the same race as you.  
 It's like cursing your destiny why am I not born at Ambani's place, it's if no use. Think and take action only about controllables and leave rest to God.

DevOps Engineer

I know its a cliched question .. but how do you guys really know what you want to do with life ? I am 27 years , i have been mediocre my entire life .. i am yet to figure out what to do with life .. i have a decent paying job but not content with life in general any thing that anyone did and gave some results .

Advice needed

Seeing so many posts about APMs and people in Product earn so much, I feel sometimes  a Lil overwhelmed. I am underpaid.Period. But I am fine cause I am learning and take a leap whenever I want.😊

Underpaid

Associate Product Manager

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

By plan, I mean 
- After what networth you want to FIRE?
- By what age you think you’ll achieve that Networth?
- How are you going to build that networth?
- What are you going to do after you FIRE?

Those who want to FIRE, what’s your plan?

10 crore 
 - current 7 crore  
 - will reach there in 1 year  
 - currently 37 yo and 1 kid  
 - will focus on teaching, coaching and freelance consulting

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