TwirlyMochi

Some serious dating app problems in Bangalore

I’m a product manager. Married 33M - currently in sabbatical and exploring new ideas.

Dating as a market always fascinates me even though it’s a hard market.

So, I talked to 35 men and paid them in Amazon vouchers to know their dating life experience in Bangalore. Condition was they must have interacted with 10+ women irl from dating apps and they have to show me their dating profile and chat history for most of the folks.

I’m going to give some approximates numbers as I counted it manually but can promising <5% error.

Total interviews 35 all men Avg age group 27 - 23 youngest and 39 oldest Total in-person dates 671 Date in a restaurant 603 Movie date 33 Misc 35

1st date hook-up 205 Hook-up after one date 107 Never hooked up 359

Out of never hooked up 359 F ghosted/blocked/said no 301 Mutual 33 M blocked/ghosted/said no 15

Out of 205 1st time hookup 2nd time or more hook up 25

Out of 107 not first time hook ups 2nd time hook up 18

I have a much bigger data set but seems like there can be a pureplay anonymous hook up app needed. Most of the women, are looking for a safe sexual experience on dating apps and not trying to find life partner here.

This week starting to interview girls between age group on 23 to 35. Same condition applies - please DM. Also, I am offering 3K Amazon voucher (for men it was 1K) and of-course NDA.

What do you guys think?

6d ago

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MagicalHamster

Stealth6d

Man, this sounds so intriguing and depressing at the same time.

TwirlyMochi

Stealth6d

Why depressing? Just curious no opinion

JumpyBagel

L&T Technology Services5d

Haha, who knows this might lead to increase in STD's due to this hookup culture and adult apps

TwirlyMochi

Stealth6d

Got two DMs on what happened after 33 more than 1 hookups

23 never hooked up after the 2nd time 9 continued and 3 got into actial relationship - not a single one was >3 months 1 count missing - sorry messed up somewhere in my notes

CosmicLlama

Freelancer6d

Not a single one got converted into a long term relationship.

Being a public forum,forced to maintain decorum But for the lack of a better word, online dating apps are starting to sound like tech enabled brothels.

From now on, My msg to people in the marriage market would be " if they are/were in a dating app. Avoid them". It's a red flag

JumpyRaccoon

Indian Army5d

Not surprised at the conversion numbers simply because the interviews have been done only on folks who have had a minimum of 10+ dates. It's basically a fuckboys vs duckgirls interview session. And they keep attracting each other like a charm and we shouldn't even be surprised. Because the ones who are serious on these apps are usually the most boring profiles around and they hardly land any dates, forget getting laid.

BubblyBurrito

Freelancer5d

Funny how you generalized. I am 27M, went on 20+ first dates. Hooked up once. 3/4+ second dates. Met my future wife (marrying in December) in the last.

DancingTaco

Quest Global5d

You’ve collected some great insights, and I have a few questions that I’d love to hear your thoughts on

Did you notice any patterns in the physical traits of the men who had more success on dating apps?
Did the men who had frequent hookups share any common physical features that seemed to make a difference?
Did you notice if men with higher salaries had more success, or did money not seem to play a major role?
Were most of them working in tech, finance, or other industries?
How much do looks matter on dating apps based on what you observed?
Did any specific features, such as dressing style, facial structure, or even ethnicity, seem to influence success rates?
Did you notice if confidence, texting style, or bio quality had a strong impact on getting matches and dates?
Were men who had more success on these apps using paid features like Tinder Gold/Platinum, or did they manage without it?
Did being an extrovert vs. introvert affect a man’s chances on these platforms?

SparklyBiscuit

Tekion5d

Asking real questions

JazzyQuokka

Infosys5d

Exactly these are the same questions i had

QuirkyUnicorn

Stealth5d

That’s sad. Why would you ever sleep with a women that has slept with multiple guys. Is that the man you are? Ask yourself

ZippyCoconut

Exotel5d

This applies to men too but you conveniently skipped to mention that. Toxic masculinity.

CosmicMochi

Mercedes-Benz Group6d

Are you sure women are not looking for a partner on these platforms? Some of my friends(women) are on the dating apps and are looking for life partners.

TwirlyMochi

Stealth6d

Yet to talk to women to understand this. Please share my post with your friends if they want to get interviewed.

QuirkyRaccoon

Wipro5d

You mean they are looking life partners on Dating apps (Online brothels) instead of Matrimony apps?
Strange... isn't it? Or they're hiding their lust in name of life partner?

ZippySushi

American Express5d

Um, as a 28 female who’s used these app for a short while - I can tell you I’ve been looking to find love the whole time. The (very) few dates where I have hooked up with the guy was because
1- the guy pretended to be something else and saying all the right things just to get in your pants and then suddenly act aloof or disinterested- forcing the female to ghost or stop reaching put out of her own self respect.

Have been taken undue advantage of the vulnerability - under influence or just pressured into hooking up. This again forced me to block the guy.

The reason I’m telling you this is that you’re making a very big assumption that “most women are looking to hook up” which is just not true. CORRELATION IS NOT CAUSATION. Dating apps anyway are equivalent to hook up apps these days. We do not need another one glorifying the already f*cked up dating scene