Adulting4mo
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Seeing parents getting old and inactive 🥲
DerpyPickle
Struggling to feel excited after moving back home. Can anyone help?
So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?
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WobblyPancake
Meta13mo
If your parents are open to it you go for renting a place in the same city. You will be close to your parents for support and work and also have some privacy in terms of what you want to do.
Now in regards to you getting bored, I dont think its the city, some people can make friends and socialise anywhere while some cant. You dont need to be with people to spend quality time. Buy console, score some good quality weed, watch TV, all you need are 1-2 decent friends to accompany you in the above.
In terms of your relationship, I was in a very similar position some time back and had to move to my hometown due to parents health issue and leaving my girlfriend behind. We decided to get married rather and got married super young, younger than you are now. An amazing call since it solves 2 points, 1 your girlfriend is with you and 2 you now have a friend to make plans with. You also have now unlocked travelling, travel the fuck out of this world with your SO.
DerpyPickle
Stealth13mo
Hi, Thank you for taking time out and typing such a big message. Really appreciate it. Also sorry for my ramble while your comment is much better formatted. Unfortunately I cannot edit posts here it seems. My parents wont be okay with me getting another place. My mother will think I am doing this just so that I can party peacefully. Even the peace of smoking up is gone since I get paranoid of going home and getting caught. Yeah maybe I cannot get new friends here or I am just very stuck up on the kind of bonds I got in college which were amazing! With respect to the relationship, nice move and congrats on your marriage. Will think if thats a good idea though I am not 100% given where we are in life and relationship.
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