This week’s introspection
I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.
So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.
I realised that, Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)
My current daily routine is like this: Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.
School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.
Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.
I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
- I’m the only son of my parents.
- If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.
That’s it 🙏🏼
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Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho
Kaafi accha suggestion h, Mai khud bhi kaafi walk karta hu- Target around 40-50 km every week. although Indian roads are shit, but when you walk within the city you see the real India, lot of people still struggle for basic necessities in life. Try it, you'll feel good @FireHawk
Ade l****, tu ga**u h kya ? Why you like this bro ? Chill ! Yeh kya spark, fire, kaddu lassan pe fase ho tum 🫠.
Ek kaam kr. Ping all your friends. See if you can meet 2 or 3 of them this weekend. You people aren't kids anymore. Adults ! So, have the conversation of life, work, love and thoughts that are haunting you. Maybe your friends have been through the same journey. Maybe they know or know someone how to deal with this. Maybe that's how you were destined to meet your friends again in life and reestablish that bonding of friendship. Being the only son, its hard to not have anyone of your generation to talk about personal stuff. That's why we have friends. So go meet and bond with them.
This might sound a bit creepy, but imagine the time when your parents leave you forever. Maybe you and your partner don't have that good bonding. No close cousins or relatives to talk with. This is where friends come to hold onto you. Bruh, psychologically speaking, all humans are extroverts by default. We are born to be social creatures. There is no such thing as introvert. It's all just mindset. So, take a chill pill and go hang out with your gang. Also don't worry if your life has been repetitive like you've mentioned. I know people who run businesses, are social media influencers...who earn 10x than what I do, but they don't have time to spend that money with family and friends. They can only spend with their co-workers and employees. Yes, you will say they'll make enough money, then retire and enjoy the rest of life. But bro, life todi na rukti hai ki "chalo bhai, mai abhi aapka life aur age freeze krti hu. Aap bohot saara paisa kamao. When you've earned enough, I'll unfreeze and you can enjoy your jawani and rest of life". Nhi na ? Toh kis baat k tension leneka ?
Just keep doing good things, take care of yourself and your family, live a relaxed life.
haha, me similar chiz likhne ke liye comments khole the, but nice to see some people give real advise.
My friend. You are more beautiful and important than you realise. Don’t think this way.
Power on. There’s so much beauty in life you are about to see.
Been there. Few things have helped.
- Having a routine -- feeling accomplished while doing small small activities daily
- Being mindful -- eating lunch be mindful of the taste, texture of food; while working out be mindful of the breath, which muscle is getting streched etc. in short try to be attentive -- small things in life cam give joy this way 3.long term -- try meditation -- i did vipasanaa, you can try what suits you
Amazing pov man. thanks!
Agreed 👍 and start having gratitude for everything in your life. Everything right from the parents to whom you were born, the mind and the intellect you carry, the food you eat, the place you live in, the clothes you wear, the contribution you make to the world as a part of your work, your sense of sight, hearing, walking talking and even the chocolate you can afford to eat, too many things all around you. You'll start noticing the gradual change in your mindset just 10 days. You are blessed.
Thankyou so much for writing this!!! It seems like someone wrote what I couldn't put into words. Ab jab job hai salary acchi hai, then parents wait me to get married. I never ever had a bf because my circumstances made my priorities different. Now I think its too late for everything, I'm 27, and my life is eat, sleep, code, play and sleep with all thoughts alone!!!!! It pains It pains a lot bro
Most of us have been struggling with same thoughts and life crisis.
Kindly consider travelling to different places every 2 months. It keeps the spark alive.
Also try inculcating some hobby apart from Gym.
sun bhai yeh spark nhi bacha etc is sab ke bare me gand mat mara , oo life is so sad i want to die etc etc, my foot, clearly you dont come from a family where you can make the world your playground , and money is flowing like river. so you have to get up and work everyday, life is supposed to be hard and you are supposed to be tough. you say you go gym everyday ? go get a six pack, then rethink about life.
dont be a slave to your emotions bro, dont look for sympathy from strangers in comments, you dont need people pity over your situation, what u need is a real friend slap you in your face and tell you "take step and change what you dont like about your life", saying shits like i dont want to live, etc. crying online, wth.
Bhai Ghar Chala Ja thode din, and don’t stay at home there, step outside, try to participate in local events. Play cards/indoor games. Try to play cricket/football jo bhi loved playing.
See people in your hometown might not seem as cool at first but they’re happier and you’ll get happy being with them if you let go of your ego on what is cool and what is cringe
for everyone creating posts in Hindi.There are a lot of people here with other language as their mother tongue.Other mother tongue people never post in their language.You have to understand and respect that.Either post in English or don't post it.
Dude!! This is a low blow, the guy out there is venting out his pain and first of all it's really difficult to put these complex emotions into words! Now you want that to be translated too? One thing is since it's kind of personal traunma venting ypu can chose to skip else if you are so keen use Google translate. But please stop debating with people over nonsense topic, he is clearly already in distress and mother tongue can only do justice to his emotions and above all, it's his choice!!!!!
Agreed