Meh, to each their own ¯_(ツ)_/¯
If a girl wants the guy to pay and finds a guy who wants to pay, great
If a girl wants the guy to pay but the guy wants to split, also good, now you know you're not compatible, what's there to whine about?
I used to always pay everywhere with my ex because I was financially better off
With the one "date" I've been, I paid
I think I'm the kind of person who automatically reaches for the tab ¯_(ツ)_/¯
But I've been to dinner with someone from my industry and in this case he wouldn't allow me to split/pay (I saw the point, obviously, he was the senior between the two of us and I'd have done the same thing if the situation was reversed)
I don't understand the shaming, honestly