SnoozyJellybean
SnoozyJellybean

Turning into a workaholic is ruining my life

I have been into programming since I was 15. I have been working in the IT industry for the past 8 years and have been very successful in my domain because of my will to solve problems at work as interesting puzzles.

But this interest has slowly and gradually formed a huge part of my life to a level that if I am away from it for sometime, it gives me anxiety.

I am afraid this will affect my other parts of life like giving attention to my family, spending ample time with them.

As a process, I started to have no code Saturdays so that I am completely away from my laptop and spend time doing other mundane things. But this has not reduced the anxiety.

Any suggestions for reducing my workaholic nature ?

20mo ago
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PerkyKoala
PerkyKoala

u need a girlfriend or a mba

SnoozyJellybean
SnoozyJellybean

I am married to the love of my life 😅

PerkyKoala
PerkyKoala

If u are in Maharashtra go to torna, rajgad, raigad, forts ....away from tech...nature :)

WobblyPancake
WobblyPancake
Meta20mo

Start smoking up. Weed is the ultimate motivation killer. You will appreciate the life you have.

SnoozyJellybean
SnoozyJellybean

I need suggestions to sort my situation not to distort them 😆😆😆

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka

Please never resort to drugs. I’ve seen so many folk use drugs to chill. Does not lead to happiness in the long run. And definitely no fulfilment

GroovyMarshmallow
GroovyMarshmallow

Start gym and I think it’s in your blood to be problem solver. Rather than running away from something accept it and yeah whenever you get anxious open the laptop and build something

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka

I agree with this. This is something I do myself. When work gets too much and I’m limited by my area of influence, I try to focus on working out. I have a lot of energy and I want to do a lot. It’s just about focusing that energy.

Another thing is trying to start your own thing with small steps

PerkyNarwhal
PerkyNarwhal

I wish I was like you

FluffyNugget
FluffyNugget
Plivo20mo

You need more detachment to have any effect. People literally go on retreats or far away from society for too long to really get aligned with themselves. You seem to be at that infliction point.

SnoozyTaco
SnoozyTaco

Try to build a routine that does NOT involve work. I have recently joined cult fit and try to go there atleast thrice a week. I have found it to be very useful and relaxing. Also, as someone said in the comments, try doing new things. Join a couple's pottery class with your wife, join a weekend painting class, try rock climbing. Additionally, try planning adventurous activities for the future. This will give you something to look forward to. For example, I'm planning to go to one of the highest ski resorts in the world which is located in our very own Kashmir :) the season starts from Dec and ends in March.

SnoozyTaco
SnoozyTaco

Start small and try making improvements in your lifestyle. This will invariably help you improve your mindset which might lessen your anxiety. Good luck to you!

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