ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut

You can never be happy

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you.

I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with.

My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more.

The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me.

My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls.

Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck.

I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

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MagicalQuokka
MagicalQuokka

Hang in there, friend. I can assure you that you can find happiness in the workplace. What you're experiencing is common but definitely not the norm. There are many places out there where people are decent and you wouldn't be treated so pathetically. I hope you find the opportunity to move out and cut yourself off from the vile people at your present employer.

ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut

hopefully we get there soon. I can’t wait.

FluffyNugget
FluffyNugget
Plivo18mo

never be truly happy at workplace* Ya that’s just how it works. Even if u loved something like music and suppose u r a singer, once u get into the industry - u realise it’s too commercialised. Anyway, I would encourage to find happiness outside workplace.

ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut

I completely agree. It ruins your fucking mood.

ZoomyNugget
ZoomyNugget
Tesla18mo

Work is work, pure survival. Passion is bullshit. Searching for happiness in work is a waste of time.

ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut

I agree

PeppyNarwhal
PeppyNarwhal
Swiggy18mo

That's such a sad reality! What I've learned from the corporate world is to treat your company as just that—a company, with very few or no expectations. You're paid to do a job; do it and go home. If you have good colleagues, you can befriend them; otherwise, just mind your own business.

Caring about others is a principle that applies everywhere, not just in the corporate world. In reality, if you have even a handful of people who genuinely care about you, consider yourself fortunate. Not everyone has that. :)

ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut

what you said is the underrated reality

CosmicNugget
CosmicNugget

I was happy as intern earned 12k a month then after 3months got 17k got little bit happy then after 6 months got 8LPA package and then the level of happines shut down I means I didnt feel anything when money hit my bank account and from my personal experience most of the people in corporate are good but there are exceptional cases like you had one.

All this happen in a year and now I came to a conclusion that I found happines in Seep, chilling with childhood freinds and laying down or sitting in peaceful state of mind.

Find your happiness brother and fyi nobody is happy here even the ones you thing they are the most happier person they maybe there also f**ked up but they dont show to anyone.

we all are in pursuit to happiness....

GigglyWalrus
GigglyWalrus

Nicely said. I find myself being very unhappy at work with fake friends but when I chill with my childhood friends, my happiness is on next level

WobblySushi
WobblySushi

Somehow it feels that the friends we made during our childhood are the only ones we genuinely find pleasure in their company.All the rest i.e from college and upwards only became friends out of mutual benefits.

TwirlyNoodle
TwirlyNoodle

Enjoy your 32 LPA dude, let them crack jokes. In Kaliyuga there is nothing like good friends, everyone is selfish. Just focus on making money. Focus on things which you have and learn to appriciate them, not everyone will get everything.

TwirlyCoconut
TwirlyCoconut
Meesho18mo

If you can't beat them join them 😁😂

SqueakyQuokka
SqueakyQuokka

That is not possible, I can't lower my dignity.

MagicalBurrito
MagicalBurrito

@RichBrain78 alt account?

FloatingQuokka
FloatingQuokka
TCS18mo

Dekh Bhai ! Get a thick skin and choose your battle. carefully . Don't agonize over workplace stuff.

ZoomyDonut
ZoomyDonut
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BouncyBurrito
BouncyBurrito
Student18mo

Bhai sorry to say bade chutiya teammates h

SwirlyPanda
SwirlyPanda
Zomato18mo

These are the cons that comes with being an outlier/overachiever. Only way to tackle is to not expect friends at workplace. You had our own struggles and you fought your own battles to reach wherever you are today. Not everyone can understand that. So Mind your own business and don’t undervalue yourself.

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