ZoomyDonut

You can never be happy

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you.

I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with.

My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more.

The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me.

My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls.

Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck.

I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

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MagicalQuokka

Stealth13mo

Hang in there, friend. I can assure you that you can find happiness in the workplace. What you're experiencing is common but definitely not the norm. There are many places out there where people are decent and you wouldn't be treated so pathetically. I hope you find the opportunity to move out and cut yourself off from the vile people at your present employer.

ZoomyDonut

Thoucentric13mo

hopefully we get there soon. I can’t wait.

FluffyNugget

Plivo13mo

never be truly happy at workplace* Ya that’s just how it works. Even if u loved something like music and suppose u r a singer, once u get into the industry - u realise it’s too commercialised. Anyway, I would encourage to find happiness outside workplace.

ZoomyDonut

Thoucentric13mo

I completely agree. It ruins your fucking mood.

ZoomyNugget

Tesla13mo

Work is work, pure survival. Passion is bullshit. Searching for happiness in work is a waste of time.

ZoomyDonut

Thoucentric13mo

I agree

PeppyNarwhal

Swiggy13mo

That's such a sad reality! What I've learned from the corporate world is to treat your company as just that—a company, with very few or no expectations. You're paid to do a job; do it and go home. If you have good colleagues, you can befriend them; otherwise, just mind your own business.

Caring about others is a principle that applies everywhere, not just in the corporate world. In reality, if you have even a handful of people who genuinely care about you, consider yourself fortunate. Not everyone has that. :)

ZoomyDonut

Thoucentric13mo

what you said is the underrated reality

CosmicNugget

Stealth13mo

I was happy as intern earned 12k a month then after 3months got 17k got little bit happy then after 6 months got 8LPA package and then the level of happines shut down I means I didnt feel anything when money hit my bank account and from my personal experience most of the people in corporate are good but there are exceptional cases like you had one.

All this happen in a year and now I came to a conclusion that I found happines in Seep, chilling with childhood freinds and laying down or sitting in peaceful state of mind.

Find your happiness brother and fyi nobody is happy here even the ones you thing they are the most happier person they maybe there also f**ked up but they dont show to anyone.

we all are in pursuit to happiness....

GigglyWalrus

Nielsen IQ13mo

Nicely said. I find myself being very unhappy at work with fake friends but when I chill with my childhood friends, my happiness is on next level

WobblySushi

Stealth13mo

Somehow it feels that the friends we made during our childhood are the only ones we genuinely find pleasure in their company.All the rest i.e from college and upwards only became friends out of mutual benefits.

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