Question to men

Most Indian men dont know how to form meaningful emotional relationships. Its how they ate being raised. However its changing now. More men are accepting this and working on it.

Isn't this like straight forward? Dude like you shows a high amount of interest and either gets mixed signals or no signals and backs off or sees that the vibe doesn't match and backs off or he finds someone else and backs off. Or you playing hard to get and dude doesn't understands wtf that means and backs off. Men are simple creatures we just do basic cost-benefit and effort-opportunity analysis before asking a girl out. Or you can smile at us and we can forgo all the maths

Is the vice versa also possible? I've noticed the same problem with many girls.

The unfortunate truth is that people just don't know what they want and have really short attention spans. This coupled with people living for validation from social media only makes it worse. I've met my girlfriend of 2 years on hinge and I'm happy to say that I see myself living the rest of my life with her. But that being said, dating apps have made availability of options so ubiquitous that i think most people struggle to give enough time to form meaningful bonds. Cuz they feel like the next best thing is right around the corner. As for men ghosting after some time. This is just shitty behaviour in my opinion (btw loads of women do this too ) and regardless of gender people need to understand that there is another human with feelings at the other end of it. The least one can do is communicate what's on their mind. It might lead to a uncomfortable conversation but atleast there is a sense of closure for everyone. I think we should all get comfortable with uncomfortable conversations and respect people's emotions if we are gonna enter into the dating pool. It's a social contract that we should never break. My two cents on this

IMO Indian men are yet to learn the “dating culture”, unlike west most of the families raise their kids differently. This leads to a new exposure for the kids where they have mot seen something like this and they have to do it and learn from mistakes.

Men! That’s why.

They tell you about their last break up they can't get over with Ye sabke sath hota hai kya 😂 I thought I attracted these $@&%

Apologies in behalf of menfolk. We're mostly idiots when it comes to emotions. TL:DR; Date slightly older men. Reasons why you are experiencing what you are: 1. For most men, the thrill is in the chase. It's nothing to do with you, its just how our limbic system is wired. The Paleomammalian cortex. 2. I am not sure what the age of the men you're going out it with is. Till the age of 25 our emotional decisions are driven by the amygdala. The amygdala shines bright during our adolescence. The amygdala is a critical part of the brain but is a poor decision maker. The good decisions come from a well developed prefrontal cortex. This develops in men only in their mid to late 20s, when we become a little better at decisioning emotions. This isn't an excuse for dating indecisive buttholes, but they're not entirely to blame. Forgive him for he knows not what he does.

Sometimes the journey is more beautiful than the destination 😉

Short answer: you were late to respond or commit. In your mind you must be dropping obvious hints, but given today’s culture, it’s pointless unless it’s explicit. If it happens once or twice, it’s the other guy. But if it hairs frequently, it’s likely you. Longer answer: You have omitted a lot of info into this post. One clear thing is you start by playing hard to get. In this age, no one will be talking just to you. They also assume you don’t do it either. If you are making the guy do the work, win your trust, affection, be interesting, charm you, convince you they are the one, they will expect an answer quickly. If you are late, it’s mostly taken as no. They have options, talking to multiple girls, and you were just slower than others. Or unsure. A guy can only charm you for so long till he infers that you are not interested. One thing you could do is lay out how you think instead of the guessing game. I remember this one girl telling me she wants to wait 2 months before committing, i appreciated it. Moved on from her, but it was great that she was honest and i didn’t have to figure that out.

There are 4 Billion of us. Who are you asking about? Men are different. Some of my friends have been with their middle school sweet hearts and I have others who don't want to get hitched at all. There are some drowning in their one-sided love from 10y ago, never looking at another girl. And others who expect their wives to work like a housemaid. Also men change with age. Their attitude towards women changes with age. The dipshits and the bullies you saw in middle school might have turned to humble and soft-spoken friendly ones today. Consider every man you meet differently and meet with as many as possible. It's a numbers game and all you need is one.

He is intrested in her only till she is not interested in him. As per psychology, something ia worth chasing for until it is achieved.

Off topic: Big fan of schitts creek this side. 🙂

Isn't ghosting someone more common amongst women than men? Doesn't justify any behaviour but generalising is always a bad idea. If my resume keeps getting rejected the most unproductive conclusion I can come to us "the companies are shit for not hiring me" than reflecting if there's something wrong with me or my resume and what I need to do to not fall into the trap again.

Yes whatever you say is right . This all because the age group just puts them at a point other dudes are flaunting with their girl and making them rush for getting into a relationship and once after they know you gonna be around him . At that point and age group just drives them towards money and making wealth so they run behind that leaving you behind

@MoiraRose , I totally agree. Nowadays people are like that, I have also seen the same situation and it's not about men and women, I see some people when they meet first time they try to dig everything about you I don't understand why they are so much interested in others personal information..and the same way I don't don't do with them... because I am nowhere interested in knowing their personal stuffs. Even people will ask what is your daily routine? How do you manage everything? What you eat...and maintain your health???....for me it's too much and I feel myself like a fool to ans their rubbish questions 😠. Once they get to know everything whether they will try to take advantage of you or just move away as if they never knew you...oops. I feel these people disgusting, they just taste you and if you are interesting for them they will stick...or else they will become strangers suddenly... and you will feel insulted and regretted why did you share your stuff with them?

Don't trust anyone too soon, take your time to know people first.

No idea, never got to stage where someone would show interest 😂

maybe they're too fast or you're too slow. it's the difference between decisive decision making abilities of both sides.

Possibly they are doing with a few more girls at the same time. They got a better response from others and left some stranded.