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An ugly cry

It's 2 a.m., and I've just had a full-blown cry, yet I still feel an overwhelming heaviness in my chest. It feels like the weight could bury me alive. I have five years of experience in Human Resources, but after being laid off earlier this year, I haven't been able to secure a new role. Initially, I was determined to get into the type of organization and role I wanted, but given the current state of the world, I readjusted my expectations and was ready to take whatever came my way just to stay afloat. After five months of applying and interviewing, I feel exhausted. I've run out of all my savings while juggling personal and family commitments, and I see no hope in the near future. I am scared, demotivated, sad, and have given up on my usual routine of waking up on time, exercising, eating well, doing skin care, and even talking to friends. It feels like the world around me is collapsing gradually. Am I alone in this, or is this happening to others as well?

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Welt

Remote

2 months ago

Hey stay strong,be resilient.Resiliency molds you into a stronger person with great character. Stay active on LinkedIn,Keep updating your naukri profile every day (by adding and removing random words in your bio).[buy premium if possible] Reach out to folks on LinkedIn (dedicate one hour a day for this). You got this..keep pushing forward.We have all been there. Keep talking to your friends (The ones you can trust).
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BlindCake2

Sharechat

2 months ago

Thank you so much for the suggestions and the kind words! Hoping to come out of this stronger.
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sundaydogparkenjoyer

Stealth

2 months ago

I'm also still searching my friend, Hanuman chalisa helps.
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FittingFire

Capgemini

2 months ago

It is not the end of the world. Get up and try again tomorrow. You only fail once you stop trying .
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BlindCake2

Sharechat

2 months ago

Thanks for the reminder!
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AdeptFowl5

Stealth

2 months ago

See how you can cut down your expenses. Move in with parents or a friend or take parents' help if possible. Try to get back to your routine. It'll help a lot in feeling better. Keep applying. Try to apply through referrals wherever you see an opening. If you still feel down, see if you can find a therapist. It's worth the money.
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BlindCake2

Sharechat

2 months ago

I already live with my mom and I was the only earning member. Its hard to keep going like this but I hope to find something soon!
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CharmingCalmMan

Deloitte

2 months ago

Bhai. I can refer you
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BlindCake2

Sharechat

2 months ago

That would be really helpful. Can we cant in DM?
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CharmingCalmMan

Deloitte

2 months ago

Sure dm me
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QuietCleat

Stealth

2 months ago

I have been there too it's not easy. I know the situation is very rough out there but please remember for you as a person all you need to do is to get one job and there are still hundreds out there. This thought is what kept me going. On a very practical note. You need to sit down and do "market-fit" of sorts. End of the day in business world all of us are just products that deliver a functionality. We come in all kinds of configurations and prices. Like any product the one that sells the easiest is the one that is priced right. Take an account of your experience, the kind of role you are in the right price for you, what is the price the kind of people hiring right now are looking. This is a tough thing to do, measuring yourself in merely monetary terms. But keep your feelings aside and do it right, it will give you a lot of clarity and help you understand gaps. From my understanding there are two types of hiring going on now. Roles in companies that are in maintenance mode waiting for headwinds to change and roles in companies that are still looking at growth in this economy. The first one is the majority, they are in the situation due to poor unit economics the later is the minority with solid unit economics. The situation you are in, either one won't make much difference immediately as both are good for 2 years however both will be very limited on hiring budget so be ready to take shift with the same tc or even take a pay cut. All you need to do is weather the storm and right now you just need a lifeboat. There are plenty don't look down on it when one comes by.
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BlindCake2

Sharechat

2 months ago

Thank you for taking the time and sharing kind words and advice! I’m working towards those.
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