27F Engineer: Software Engineering Not Worth It For Women?

Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women?

There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late?

Interested for thoughts from both men and women.