Adulting Community

by StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

Adulting: An Eye-Opening Experience

I will keep it short. So I know this guy who goes to the same gym as me, The dude always looked kinda lonely so I would often greet him good morning or howdy, However, I never got a chance to sit and talk to him as he always seemed in a rush, Yesterday, I saw him talking to one of those E-Girls on Instagram in the locker room, you know the ones which offer sexual video calls in exchange of a few thousand rupees, I unintentionally read the chat while he was reaching out for his sipper, And I saw "I dont want to have sex, I just want to talk to a real woman about my mental issues" something While this sounded absurd and funny to me in the first moment of reading it, It left a resounding wave of abyss in me. On how some people could be extremely lonely , and all they need is a hug !!!! While his actions may not be the most mature of all, I do recognize this feeling. Afterall, Duniya mein bohot gamm hai, Apna dukh toh fir bhi kam hai.

Hibernate

Student

3 months ago

Really disturbing to read this. In these low phases of life, we attract the wrong people in life. Hope he finds someone genuine to talk atleast

StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

I suggested him to join GrapeVine...

Hibernate

Student

3 months ago

I doubt if that would help. Some people here have no filter, do not even think twice before writing shit. The anonymity brings worse in some

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MachoMan

Private company

3 months ago

100% while I am a believer of being mentally strong. A recent incident also surprised me. So this girl I matched on a dating app, was looking for a long term partner and was hoping for love marriage instead of arrange that her parents were doing. We had been casually chatting but never even on a call. One day she asked me what I was doing the next day. I said i could open up my schedule for her. Then she asked let's meet tomorrow. Then I got to know it was her birthday the next day and she had no one else to celebrate with so she was open to being with a random stranger. She used to live away from family all alone. It felt so bad that the girl was feeling so down. So this changed a few thoughts about dating. Some people just want to talk freely and deeply. Wish the world could be a little more comfortable for such folks

StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

We should start looking at mental issues in the same sense as we would look at physical issues/injuries

MachoMan

Private company

3 months ago

Ok let's look at it in the same way. There is a very popular story of how a child learns riding a bicycle. If you fall and get injured you don't give up. You stand up and you try again and then again and again. It's that simple when it comes to mental troubles or emotional. You fail at something- work, relationships, friendship etc. You don't give up. You stand up and you learn from your mistakes and try again. This time better.

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WhatALife

3 months ago

Why woman? If he needs someone to talk, he can seek anyone Not mocking, genuinely asking

StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

I agree. But look at this from a man's POV. Men too require female validation. And men talking to other men about mental insecurities isnt something our society is ready for just yet. It only invites disrespect in the long run (trust me) I think its natural. As a guy, I have noticed that my female friends have more empathy than the male ones. And I get that. No offence.

deloittelabour

Deloitte

3 months ago

From the time I started taking Ashwagandha I feel nothing, neither happiness nor sadness/loneliness. Even though I'm lonely my mind doesn't go in that direction and additionally e-girls are the worst people you can get in contact with because they weaponize their services and damages your perspective about life.

EnlightenedBlend

Deloitte

3 months ago

Bro, what ??? Yeh kaunse nashe chal rahe ? Can you please talk a bit more about ashwagandha ? How does it work ?

deloittelabour

Deloitte

3 months ago

I wouldn't say it as Nashe but more like supplement to reduce stress and helps in sleep correction. Now how does it do that with every minute detail I won't be able to answer to it. But I can give you a personal experience, I went through a rejection last year and the person deliberately chose certain trigger words for me and I was overthinking a lot and after many sleepless nights. I just started consuming this and it's been 3 months I don't think about that person anymore. Even if they come online or even messaged me twice in this time period I don't bother anymore. Now I'm more focused on my own things 2-3 women approached in gym and I didn't feel anything and I'm happy with that. Now it's my personal opinion and experience.

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PastelTown

Student

3 months ago

A genuine question.... Why are people who know that they are facing mental health issues hesitant in meeting a therapist or psychologist? I mean it's better to vent out in front of friends but if you can't then atleast therapists will be better than such E-girls

BugHunter

HCL

3 months ago

Plot Twist: it was a pre-planned strategy to guilt trip you into talking to him.

StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

Explain yourself

Quertyloop

Student

3 months ago

Okay I never thought of that😯

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PlainVerb94

Google

3 months ago

Fake post. And definitely not from a woman.

StanleyHudson

Stealth

3 months ago

I am a guy

PlainVerb94

Google

3 months ago

Oh. Sorry bro. I misinterpreted this as from a woman. Re-read and now it makes sense. Yeah, I know the feeling. I have been through the same. It's tough to get out of that craving. It's normal for most men but sadly there is no solution except marriage which is again mostly luck these days. I just got out of this. It took a lot of courage to kill all my yearnings. Hope he gets out of this too. We can probably cheer him up in the office sometime next week. I am in Carina. Let me know if I can be of any help.

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LooseGoose

Stealth

3 months ago

Take him for a drink bro

satorugojo

Stealth

3 months ago

Just today itself I was having a discussion with a friend about how difficult adulting is. This popped just after that. Everything is on you. You are the one Responsible for all actions. Thus makes one alone and end up looking for ways to just get rid of it.