I might sound biased but hear me out.
Therepists are cheapstake businessmen/businesswomen anyway.
We are always questioned for sharing stuff
They pretend that they are listening to us but all they care about is their fees. They keep looking at the clock as to when the session would get concluded. They secreatly
"But why would you blame all the therapists just because yours was toxic?". Nice question.
The moment you open up, they start drawing a perception. That point on, they only look down upon you as a person and consider you a massive loser. They might say the opposite but they dont really mean any of that.
My therapist, she went out of the way to convince me that I dont deserve to be loved. She pointed out that just because I feel too many things at once, I might have trouble emotionally satisfying a woman and should be okay with lonliness. She suggested me to play a sport, not because she wanted me to stay fit, but simply because "being sporty might increase my masculanity". I have never been good at sports (never interested me). I have always been into music and poetry. I have been composing music since I was 16. I have no regrets. Why would you berate me just because my hobbies dont fit into a certain mould. I have heard enough from other people about not being sporty.
Victim blaming must be stopped in the pretext of "only you can help yourself" or "work on those factors which you control".
Men cant reveal their problems to their friends and family as they would start judging them. They cant even share such concerns with their romantic partners because of the fear of losing them or sounding incompatible. And voila ! Medical therapy also turned out to be a sham for men.
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Therapy is overrated. I know people (both men and women) around me who go for therapy and they hype it up like crazy, but are still continuing to be depressed as f_ck in life. I mean then what are you going to therapy for?
Seeing these people around me made me realise that no therapist is going to save you, but only your sincere efforts will do. You may still visit the best therapist in town but be clueless about what you're going to do next to come out of it just because of your mindset or lack of willingness from your end.
And as an observation, I see more women hyping up therapy. I don't know why! Or maybe men go for therapy and refuse to admit/hype it up because of the fear of being judged that he cannot hold his life together.
Man don't go to therapy, Man go to cruise wid bike/car 🚨
(Sometimes rammed into bushes though🤡)
Sometimes I end up overspeeding. Initially it was a concern for me, but now apparently I simply dont care about the negetive consequences. Dont know where this self loath is coming from.
I was 17 when I first narrated my fears to my long term romantic interest/mutual friend. We had been knowing each other since a couple of years. She would share every little detail about what she was going through and I would love listening to her. I thought I can also do the same. Next thing I knew, she started to call me gay in front of everyone. Imagine being called that by your crush.
Things are slightly better now, I am in company of like minded empathetic people. My recent romantic interest had been taking things very slow and with utmost sensitivity which I duly respect and admire.
I’ve had 7 therapists, male and female. Not one felt like the right match (or worth any money).
After many sessions, i found most answers extremely generic and something I could have easily found on Google.
In fact i find Reddit threads much better to find answers to questions/problems I’ve been struggling with.
On the contrary, I feel most therapists would want to NOT help you in any meaningful way since that would mean they will lose you as a client.
You've landed on to the wrong country is all I can say!
A Man has lot more responsibilities than women. Family, career, love.
Why do Men mental health being so ignored. We don't share like women do but we are going through a lot. We are not expressive by nature.
Our society shows so much ...
I grew up with 5 sisters (1 real and 4 cousin), I am aware about the pain and the tribulation that women go through and have always been supporting women in general.
I was shocked to see the opposite when I stepped into the real world. ...
Can someone suggest a good therapist in Bangalore… not the online ones A reliable one where we can sit comfortably and talk
