Lots of thinking around this but very less action. Many are hoping for FIRE to break out of this. But I doubt problems will ever end.

Software Engineer

we become so busy in our day to day life that we take all the miseries at work, injustice for granted and move on with heavy heart and feeling low Few eg  I dont like my work but have been doing th...

we become so busy in our day to day life that we take all the miseries at work, injustice for granted and move on with heavy heart and feeling low Few eg
- I dont like my work but have been doing this since long so no other option left
- Never looked at things from first principles and now its very late to start again with right approach 
Peers, family make it worse and we are stuck. 
I fee thats Injustice to our self and life. It takes a lot of courage to move out of this and spend time on what you are good at. 
Did anyone feel this and won this battle?

Feeling Stuck?

Consultant

Feeling Stuck?- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

It’s been 11 months since I joined my first job. Being from an IIT, I only did DSA in college and got this job paying a decent 20lpa base salary. But when I first joined here I was put at bench for the first 6 months. I always used to ask for work but got very vague work of writing python scripts. Finally I was put in a project but the work mostly involves utilising python and MATLAB. I have started doing DSA again and learning MERN stack. I am applying to a lot of jobs but apparently my resume is not getting shortlisted anywhere. I want to make this switch but my biggest fear is that if I will be able to get an offer which matches this salary. Any advice how to get out of this situation ?

Feeling Stuck in current job

Software Developer

I feel stuck and lost 
Dealing with inferiority complex and relationship trauma
Anyone can suggest me some practical ways to get over these!!

Feeling stuck

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I need some good advice. I have been working on a very weird project for past two and half years now. This project has not at all being in a proper way and feels like a classic case scenario of sucking up to clients to keep the business with them. But in this conundrum, I am suffering A LOT. 
My core working areas are SSIS and SQL Server and I have been trying expand my skillset to cloud platforms like Azure engaging in some proper Data Engineering roles. But I have been sole contributor in my role in this project and inevitably a very heavy dependency developed upon me over time and now the management is not willing to involve me in any project other than this.
I have been trying to get some opportunities laterally but since I have no hands-on experience in my "preferred skillset", no one's willing to consider. I tried talking to my managers and I keep hearing "It's a good thing that you have developed such good rapport with the customers" (which I have), "this project will end soon and you will get better opportunities once we close this project", "we will consider you for on-site opportunities". None of these promises have been fulfilled. I realized very late that I have just been exploited since I have been doing at least a three man job in the billing of one and they keep extending me on the project. Accolades are there but just on mailers and that too from customers, not my managers.
To add insult to injury when I received customer appreciation no one from the management even bothered to highlight it internally and they didn't nominate me for H1B unlike they promised. There is no incentive of any type- bonus, better project or onsite opportunities and I am struggling to find jobs within or outside the organization because of current market scenario and lack of experience. 
I am getting restless thinking about this and the time I am losing on this worthless project. There seems to be 
a huge disconnect between HR, management and employee. What to do???

Feels like I am stuck

Data engineer

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I was being paid less by the company. But I continued as it allowed some personal time and I was expecting senior positions. However, the company has appointed someone(was close to top.mgmt) as my head and my chances of senior roles are bleak now. 
Should I keep playing the chess/politics or just lookout for something else? 
ps- my seniors have left the company and I am not finding any sponsor/godfather who can put forward my case.
#feelingstuck

Stuck in the current situation

Analyst

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Hi Grapeviners,
So here's my story. 
I'm 27 years old. I've accumulated many regrets till now and it is piercing through my chest. My thoughts would be like spaghetti so bear with me.
Never tried to be social. Made probably 3-4 friends in my life with whom I'm not in touch with anymore as they raced ahead in life.
I remained holed up in my room at my parents home most of the time. The only thing I have to show for is a SWE job which also doesn't really interest me and it feels like a chore to do it. I don't feel excited to wake up in the morning and I wish the time after 12 am becomes  still and the morning doesn't come.
There are countless thoughts running around in my head 24/7 and the only time they aren't is when I'm asleep.
I don't know what I want in life and I don't know what to do. I'm not a very smart guy. I don't get things easily.
I don't even remember when was the last time I genuinely laughed with a free mind. Life seems over and it feels like I'm just breathing.
For anyone who's thinking why I'm writing all this bullshit here when I know nobody cares is I just wanted to through these thoughts out in the universe and see what comes of it. Good or Bad I doesn't matter.
Peace out.

Confused, lost and directionless ...

It happens to everyone, just go to gym , pick a passion

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

I am currently working as a Content expert in an edtech company in India. This company is different from others like Zyju’s or tuemath, with zero toxicity and decent WLB, which is the only thing that’s kept me in this role for the past 3 years or so. Four years ago, when I decided to not get into tech roles after my graduation, I had naive ambitions of contributing to education and making a difference and after all this time where I did learn a lot in the early years, now it’s just monotonous work to get more traffic to our website and in the process I feel I am not utilising my potential of great communication(and voice), decent tech aptitude to the fullest. I say this because here I have almost automated all the things for other Content people and myself and I have always been complimented for my voice and won several debates/GD’s etc. Also, the pay is, let’s say nothing to write home about.

I have been considering doing graduate studies in the US in CS, but need a funded Masters or Phd. Since, shifting to a tech role in India sounds like it will be really not where you will get to learn a lot and mostly will have to self learn. So, I am considering moving to the US. But, since that is not working out for some time now it’s giving me anxiety and I don’t want to continue in this role but leaving it is not that great of a decision from a financial or market point of view. 

Any advice or suggestions will be truly welcome.

What to do when you feel stuck and no opportunities in sight?

Senior Content Developer

I turned 30 last month and I still feel i am a 20 year old. I lost the last 4 years of my life working from home and have started to go to office recently. I never worked together in a team, never been out for team lunches/dinners, never presented my work to the seniors/leadership. I have 4.5 years experience on the paper and my interaction with colleagues in person has been almost zero .

I don’t know how to do my taxes, can’t do basic servicing of my bike, extremely indiscipline’s, rarely track my expenses, can’t say ‘No’, haven’t upskill we and hence stuck in TCS, can’t stick to a hobby or interest, pathetic in managing my time, have no sense of punctuality, socially awakened, overweight with a pot belly and hence have confidence issues, can’t take care of myself in terms of self grooming, couldn’t maintain friendships as I used  to get offended when someone made fun of me or mocked me- my inflated ego is just useless. 

I can’t control my emotions, I sometimes get emotional and have tears in my eyes, I show emotions easily on my face, not smart when it comes to dealing with others, don’t know how much to talk to whom, whom to talk to, how to talk to and when to talk.

I’ve been told I’m pessimistic and highly negative about myself but I’m just saying things the way it is.
I have no responsibilities on life. I’ll be getting married the next year and I know I can take up the responsibility. But I still have the fear of putting my fiancé down. I love her a lot and I never even  would do anything to put her down.

My bad time management skills, inability to focus, getting distracted badly, being a slow learner, not networking, not having idea on making switches regularly, being too lazy and impatient to learn new things, not being updated in terms of on demand skills, tools , technologies, reluctance to learn something new and hence staying in comfort zone has screwed up my career.

I feel stuck and lost in life.
I honestly don’t know what to do.

Being a man child at the age of 30

Product Designer

I’ve been working from past 5 years and in this phase of my career I don’t feel I am contributing enough to the org or interested in moving up the ladder seeing the lifestyles and fucked up WLB. I’ve recently suffered a huge personal loss. Have turned extremely under confident, feel like quitting everything. How to overcome this?

How to move forward in work and in life?

Program Manager

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Is there someone (companies/startup) out there who actually give chance to people who switch their careers entirely or is it just that they settle for a minimal job and kill their aspirations?

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