It happens to everyone man, start warming up to whom ever you meet, try to make some friends, go to gym and tire urself, you wont feel lonely much

Technical Specialist

Software Engineer

Been there bro.....take small steps to socialize and all, will feel better with time

Same boat. Just forget about it. I am here in Bangalore since 1y and last few months really lonely. Now just studying studying studying. And planning to get married next year. Keep yourself busy as much as possible. Learn trading that's a better addiction than feeling loneliness.

Bro even I’m also trying keep busy myself in study, but after PG it’s tough to open the books again and study. But still trying….good luck for marriage 🤗

Senior Engineer

What does this feeling of loneliness teach me about myself and my needs?

Alone in City

Alone in City- Grapevine

Acknowledge Your Feelings:
Accept that you are lonely or have a monotonous life and you need to make the change.

Don't hide behind "I'm an introvert", no you are just lazy and you are ok with living the shitty life, you just want spoon feeding, nothing else.
Be Open to New Experiences. It's all about initiatives, you have to take risks and put yourself in uncomfortable situations.

Do following at least once per week:
Have lunch/dinner/ outside your house.
Watch a movie in the theatre instead on your laptop.
Work from a cafe. Talk to a stranger.
Play a sport/game, you don't have to be good at it. Many people just play for fun.

Find events:Just google "events near me" or "events in bangalore" etc.
Give priority to physical in person experiences instead of digital ones.

Explore your surroundings, go for a walk in the morning or evening, take out time, talk to your neighbours.
Reach Out to Colleagues or Alumni, we all have active fiends, get in touch with them.

Take Classes or Workshops, even if you are not interested. 
Don't hesitate to spend money on experience, see money as investments, not expenses.  
Don't self reject: means don't think about what would happen and just at home, anyway you aren't doing anything.

People took initiatives to start groups & clubs, either start one for your area of interest, or join one.
Practice Self-Care and Stay in Touch with Loved Ones: you know what that means.

All this would impact your personal & professional life as well. You will stop blaming your job/manager/colleagues and accept that you were the problem, it's your choice to change your life.

If you don't do any of this and still cry about your life, hope you know that "nobody cares about your shitty life, nobody is going to come save you, you are on your own and survival of the fittest". If you don't put in the effort, you deserve whatever shitty place you are at.

It might not be as easy, but don't let yourself take advantage of you.

Framework: How to not feel lonely in a new city!

Consultant

Senior Software Engineer

It feels sometimes so alone in these big cities. How you people deal with it

Alone

Don't have any girlfriend but I feel the need to have someone to speak with say about the day but there is fear of heartbreak and risk of loss of interest quickly, but again night comes but again I remember that talking can lead to attachment and attachment is not good what to do guysssssss?



Whom to speak with??

Loneliness or solitude?

Analyst

After working remotely as an Intern, I cracked a SDE role and moved to this new city. I feel homesickness now. I feel like running away from every single thing here. Everything reminds me of my family. I don't have much work experience but I'm trying to continue to work here and looking to crack another role in SDE but remote. 

This way I can stay with my family as well.

I don't know, I feel lost. This city is costly and spending so much in the initial month just to settle down was overwhelming and traumatizing.

Homesickness is eating me up. Planning to switch to Remote work.

Software Developer

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. 
Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. 
I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. 
Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. 
Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. 

Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Loneliness - Nothing brings joy anymore

Get checked for Vitamin D & B12 levels also ADHD

Product Owner

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I am currently in college. 
I don't know why, but I constantly need to be around people to feel happy, otherwise I feel depressed. I feel I don't have any value and will have any value only if someone else approves me.

I fear going for lunch or dinner alone. I fear people will judge me if they see me alone.

I am scared to be lonely. Why?

Alone in City

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