That's why it is called betrayal....................

Founder

Tech lead

Private Equity

That's why I trust no one except my mummy and dad...

Software Developer

Software Engineer

It’s funny how sometimes people you’d take a bullet for, are the ones behind the trigger.

Betrayal❤️‍🩹

Betrayal❤️‍🩹- Grapevine

What do you do when you feel like you're betrayed by your best friend who is your friend from last 2 years but all of a sudden acts weird

BETRAYAL

What's the last gift of love ?💐

My mother called me yesterday and tells me she got scammed for about 10 lakhs and needs money by Monday. She has 4 lakhs and I will have to cover the rest. Turns out she let a friend take a loan in her name and this friend gave fake jewellery as collateral. The friend took loans under her husband’s name and my mom’s name, she divorced the dude and escaped. The bank called my mom and has asked her to pay, now they’re filing a case against my mom for fraud.

I’ve spent my weekend talking to advocates and friends, and looks like the only way to get out of it unscathed is to cut a deal with the bank saying we’ll pay the money back and they don’t press charges in return. Contesting the bank is going to take time, money and the risk of my mom losing her job.

As an older daughter who grew up in a broken family, I’ve spent my childhood and adulthood protecting my mother and sibling. I finally landed a well paying job 2 years ago and now the responsibility extended to providing for my younger sister and my mother financially which I’m more than happy to do. I’ve worked hard the past few months to save what I have right now beyond what I give my family, use to sustain myself and finally felt happy about the position I’m in.

Now I’m heartbroken. I’m going to be emptying almost 70% of what I have so far for this for paying the bank and the lawyer. Especially for something that’s not even my mistake and something that could have been easily avoided. I’m not in a place to direct my anger at her, I know it’s a hard time for her as well. 


6 to 7 lakhs might sound like a small amount to some but I don’t have the privilege to throw money like that. I don’t have fuck you money. I don’t take money from friends. I’m 25 and literally just started my life 2 years ago after working for peanuts. 

What’s even the point of working hard, leading an honest life if this is how it works? It’s just truly unfair and I don’t know how to deal with it.

I wish life was a little easier and I just need to vent

Growth Manager

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Data engineer

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Product Manager

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Becoming too much friendly and little close with colleagues is good or bad thing? 

In my company/team most the people are from same age and mostly male. I found there is too much unnecessary discussions and arguments and worse thing is you have to respect each other. 

Just curious because today my junior almost disrespected me and I was very confused how to react.

Too much friendly with Colleagues

Frontend Engineer

Do you believe in true friendship, or do you think it doesn’t exist? If it does, what do you expect from your true friends? And if you have true friends, to what extent are you willing to go for them? Do you trust them with everything, or is there always a thin line of insecurity hovering at the back of your mind?

I’ve been pondering over this question for quite some time now and have been getting mixed thoughts about it. Wanted to know others’ perspectives as well. Feel free to add whatever you think about friendship—beliefs, expectations, etc.

What does true friendship means?

A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 
1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)

I'm seeing another such case.
Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially)
2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route 

Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego

Rebound marriages are the worst

Consultant

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It can be the lyrics, it can be the music video or music.

I'll go first -

1. KSHMR & Lost Stories - Bombay Dreams
It is beautifully crafted video dealing with shame in pursuing something others despise or make fun of. The music video makes me smile at around the end

2. Passenger - Let her Go
The lyrics are so damn pure gold. It's so common sense but truly hits you especially when you are by yourself and it just sinks in! Love every line of the song and I think the lyrics are relatable for lot of people

3. Ritviz - Sage
Beautiful video, talks about acceptability and how people are threatened by something they don't understand and how world could use more love and it would be such an amazing place!

What are the songs that makes you emotional?

What are the songs that make you emotional?

She said no, I thought after I will get job (15LPA+) I will ask her out but turned out life doesn't go according to you.

Feeling lost, looks like I don't have the person with whom I used to share my daily life with. 

Suggestion please.

Counting on senior to help out this junior ♥️

Asked my girl best friend out,8 years of friendship from childhood.

Short rant - I stay in HSR layout , my housemate told me to find a place to stay since he would be getting his wife here ( he gave me ample time to search) , I found an uncle in the same building who offered to sublet his house to stay alongside his son , it was all peace and mutually understood to split any expenses. I was all good and happy , got the room painted and shifted all my belongings. 2 days later , this uncle straight up came up to me and said I have to vacate the place asap , owner is creating a fuss ,I asked him for the owners contact , he denied outright , and kept giving reasons. He now expects me to leave me home within a week ( how tf am I supposed to find a place within a week, my parents got involved and spoke to the uncle but no avail , he's been verbally abusive and illogical) 
Never trust people here , always have things in writing , you never know who turns out to be a snake. ( My sheer naivety has made me suffer now),be extremely careful out there!

Never trust, always have in writing

Analyst

Sometimes truth is bitter

Business analyst

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I’ll start first: 

“The greats never sacrifice the important for the urgent. They handle the immediate problem and still make sure to secure the future.”

[Thread] Share one quote that stuck with you.

I feel that when you open up to people about your traumas and insecurities, people are only going to use it against you in an arguement.

While you might argue that not everyone does that, and I would be the first one to agree to that. But you somehow stop trusting everyone, even your shadow , when your favorite people become your most bitter life lessons. 

The one who feels emotions always ends up suffering more. In the hindsight, it feels as if being a bare minimum "good human" is a curse. 

However,

I have been using grapevine to vent out and connect with strangers and so far I have only met supportive and empathetic human beings (most of them). 

Despite being covered in the sheild of anonymity, most people have only been respectful and kind. 

This proves that we, as humans , are only meant to love each other. Hatred is futile. Empathy is inherent while hatred is "cultivated".

I hope grapevine founders dont stumble across this post else theyll start charging premium fees when they realize how highly people speak of this platform lol

GrapeVine> Therapy

I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

Worst times for men! Better to be a monster than a hero

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/nico-murillo_tesla-lay-off-story-415-monday-430am-activity-7186490101651136512-9wfJ?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_android

Well this is just sad...

Why is it that some men show too much interest in you for initial few weeks, like asking for ig and then ig messages. Seeing your stories just about the instant you post it. They tell you about their last break up they can't get over with but still tell you that falling in love is the most beautiful part of life and talk about wanting to settle down - until the time you show interests and hola! They suddenly change their verdicts - suddenly they're no more interested. Suddenly they get busy and don't respond to your messages anymore. 
My question to men, what do you seek from a woman when you are looking for some serious engagements. Whom should one trust with attachments?

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