People, stay away from people wit short temper isuues.. It's not worth it. They never improve. 
  
 Corrected for everyone....

I was here to write this ✌️ 
 Exactly this

Consultant

I'm telling my experience, don't need to be WokeKa14 unnecessarily

Senior software engineer

Software Developer

Samosa is “kabir singh” of grapevine.

Product Manager

I sent this to my wife & got slapped. Whom do I report?

Founder

😹 i respect your experience it is true but same applies for men as well because this trait is in both !

Strategy & operations

Boys, stay away from Girls with short temper issues. It's not worth it. They never improve!

Boys, stay away from Girls with short temper issues. It's not worth it. They never improve!- Grapevine

When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. 

So I told her how I felt. She was angry at me for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months( she went to Delhi for some work) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.

So she left and we remained in touch via Whatsapp. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise.

Finally, I actually visited Delhi because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.

I'm going to a friends birthday soon and she's gonna be there. 

Would it be bad for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.

Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
I don't wanna be a douche but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can call me whenever and I'll come running.

Please help Grapevine! 🙏🏻

Girl Trouble - Am I Bad?

She's a big red flag. She's either manipulative or moody. We don't need these teasing and chasing games in 2024. 
  
 Move on

Investment Manager

If you have been talking to someone for some time now and you want to find out whether that person actually likes/care about you or are they just going with the flow?

then just pretend to be sick or mood off for one day, be vague about the reasons behind your behaviour. The way that person texts/call you and the way that person handles you that day would tell you more than enough.

If that person is busy talking to others or is not interested in you, they won't care much about how you feel, they won't try to help you, you will get your answer. 

Although it's not that straightforward, you are smart enough to figure it out. 


PS: don't try to take advantage of their emotions though, it's a sensitive topic, don't be an as*hole.

[Controversial] A dating tip

I'm 21 m. Had a 9 months old relationship with a girl who's 6 months older. It was the best 9 months of my life. We connected on so many levels that I never thought would happen with me at such a young age. 

Recently, she broke up with me. It was not our mistake. Her mother isn't well (from a long time, and I knew that) and her last wish is to see her daughter getting married. 

Forcefully, she had to admit this and told me everything. And told me that we need to end this. 

It's been 3 weeks, and there's minimal contact between us. 

I'm a final year college student, not getting placements, too much pressure from family. I can't think about anything. Feels like all of this is eating me up. We had very secure future plans, but everything is over now. I don't know what to do. 

I try very hard to stay on track, but her thoughts are eating me up. I've started meditation, therapy and everything, but nothing is working the way I thought it would do. 

She was the one that gave me assurance that everything will be fine. Her presence was the most peaceful thing I had, but now, there's nothing. 

Help me, please. 

PS: please don't judge me the way I am. I'm trying to be normal as much as possible but nothing's working.

Need urgent help.

Seeking advice from married individuals who have/ want children

I’m 26 right now. Should I start looking for partners now or wait till around 30 once I’m financially stronger. Currently 22lpa - Mumbai

Marriage age for men

Growth Manager

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

From the outside, my life right now looks great. I graduated with a great GPA from one of the best universities in DU, completed my banking stint in a top tier group and am now happily working as a Management Consultant in Monitor Deloitte. I'm in a relationship with a girl I'm crazy about, I have good friends, I'm attractive, fit and have the world ahead of me. That's what the outside sees. In reality, I'm a messed up kid feeling my way around in the dark through a world that I feel wholly unprepared for.

I grew up poor. At times, I was very, very hungry. The first few months my family was able to crawl out of poverty, I continued to overeat because I still vividly remembered the hunger pains that often kept me awake at night. I lost one of my siblings and I always blamed myself for what happened. I was sexually abused by a relative. I witnessed things in my city that still send chills down my spine.

And then there were my parents. Sure, my mom loved me and wanted me to be happy, but unfortunately she had no idea what it meant to be a good parent. My dad was an abusive piece of shit that saw me as his competition, not as his son. We still don't speak very often. On an especially bad day, he had once again taken his rage out on my mom, but to rub in the humiliation he had her wipe her own blood off the walls while he stood and watched. I tried to intervene, but I wasn't much of a match.

I, too, was a bit of a piece of shit. I was aggressive and found myself in fights very often. Though I was smart, I was lazy and didn't do all too well in high school, where homework and not exams governed your academic performance. Needless to say, at 16 I looked like I was destined for a mediocre life at best, but probably likely to end up as another case of wasted potential.

I don't know what changed, but one day I started turning things around and ever since I have kept the momentum going. I had the highest grades in my class in 11th and 12th.

I soon got into a college that I did not deserve and met the love of my life there. And from there I busted my ass to get to where I am today.

I earned my own money and paved my own way. I didn't use my past as an excuse to fail. If I didn't make it, I knew it was nobody's fault but my own. I also knew that nobody would care. 

If one day I broke down because of all the stress, the world would keep on turning as it always had.

Nobody cares about the struggles I went through. They care about who I am today and who I'm going to be.

And, I guess, that's my message: take responsibility for who you are, where you are now and where you will be. I don't care that it's a tough economy. 

I don't care that you go to a shitty college. I don't care that an unlucky string of events rendered you less competitive than your peers. And nobody else does either. We will continue living our lives the same way we always had, but you will suffer the curse of your own laziness and incompetence. It's a tough world out there and if you want to compete in an environment as ruthless as India, you need to forget about the excuses and find a way to succeed. 

And if you can't? Well, you weren't cut out for this world anyway. Nobody is going to pamper your bruised ego and give you a job just because you want it. You need to earn it.

My Story: My father used to hit my mom so hard that the walls were red with blood...

I was with you till last paragraph, unnecessarily harsh. Many people face unavoidable circumstances, women especially, doesnt mean one can look down on them. 
  
 Fully agree with taking extreme ownership for yourself and your career.

Data scientist

I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

Worst times for men! Better to be a monster than a hero

This has been dragging from past two years and am done with my life, I can’t date anyone even though am 30 I have maintained myself in a healthy way so that I look a bit younger but because of the case is still going on… I don’t know what to do

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I collected this information based speaking with victims of false 498a on different social media platform. I also researched r/legaladviceindia, quora, etc for this compilation of list.

See it as arranged marriage best practices of marrying Indian woman. 

1. Avoid single children daughter. An elder brother is good or any brothers. Having brother helps her to understand men's issues and men's temperament.

2. If woman's father is politically connected, lawyer, police, or some high position, they will show  who is the boss. Most of 498a are initiated because woman's father asked her to do.

3. if the woman's mother is the head of the family and the mother disrespects her husband, avoid the family. Because the woman is very much influenced by her mother after marriage. The mother is going to teach the same to her daughter. You do not take that risk.

4. She is an attention seeking person. Run. She will do anything for spotlight including filing false 498a and get some limelight from friends and relatives.

5. Don't take dowry. If she asks you money for her mom, dad, or her bro, reject her.

6. Carefully observe, how she treats others. If she does not treat service workers respectfully but treat you well, she is not a good person.

7. If she accidentally discloses that she is struggling with depression and other mental health problem, avoid her. If anything happens to her after marriage due to her mental health condition, you would go to prison. As Robert Greene said, "avoid unlucky and unhappy people. There is no reversal to this law". You cant fix broken people. Don't waste your life trying to do that.

8. A woman who hates her father. This is a big NO NO.

9.  Liars and dishonest people. If you find a small lie prior to marriage, I say run. Because what you found is a small lie. What you did not find is more than that.

10. If she says she does not how to cook, get rid of her. Cooking is a necessary skill. Both men and women should know. She did not put any effor

Guidelines for marriage

Software Engineer

Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage. 

I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc. 

Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner. 

Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?

Why dating sucks these days? (also a Rant)

I always looked at her and felt she is so beautiful, charismatic, and had an infectious smile. Looking at her made me smile broo.

Chapter 1
One day I decided to ask her out. I messaged her and our conversation grew then she spilled out that she also liked me a lot. And she was glad that I asked her out.

Chapter 2
She had studied in an all girls school and she had a stereotype about boys that they are all stupid and bad. And girls and boys should never be together. I was fine because atleast she liked me 😂. One fine day she asked me to break up with my brosss. I asked her why?
She said your friends are all playboys and I don't like the way they look at me. (Disclaimer: My bros are really nicest guys and I have known them since childhood they are the best gentlemen). We had an argument which didn't end on a good note.


Chapter 3
I left to a new state for my Job. After I reached there she messaged me that we can't talk and we have to stop whatever we had. I got anxious and worried and spent my 5 months not being able to contact her. I got into depression. Then me being restless on my birthday I came back to my hometown. At exactly 11:59PM when my bday was going to end she messaged me "Happy Birthday". I was so happy to see her message.

Chapter 4
We started talking and she said that she is leaving to Canada for her higher studies. I was happy for her but at the same time I was sad. I didn't want to see her go. We both cried and stayed on call till morning watching each other sleep.

Chapter 5:
She reached Canada and she completed her formalities and procedures. We talked for few more days but then eventually she started giving me hints that she is not interested. Then one day she abruptly messaged me and said we can't talk and we have to end everything. I cried the whole night, because there was no way for me to contact her and she had blocked me.

Chapter 6:
It has been 1 yr to that day. Somehow I have gone numb. I'm slowly forgetting her.

She left me.

Chill. After 5-6 years you will laugh on yourself that why in the world you gave so much importance to her. There is no derth of good women in this world. Moving her away was god's plan, for your good that you might never understand. Take Care!

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Few weeks ago I checked Workday and saw that I was not promoted, while other people here were promoted apparently. Apparently, you could check in your workday whether you were promoted or nah.

Anyway, I was disappointed that I was not promoted from C11 to C10 even after working so hard. In my moment of weakness, I confided in my girlfriend. We have been dating for 3 months now. I was in a horrible mood and wanted to let it all out.

She decided to break up with me by the end of that week and said that it wouldn't work out between us. It was a very sad moment for me, after not being promoted and then the break up.

But FINALLLLYYYYYY!!!! I got promoted from C10 to C11. Apparently, workday method was not true for me. I am very happy that I got promoted. I told my family and friends. Since, me and my girl had recently broken up not many people had known about it so someone must've asked about my promo to her.

Now, she's saying that why did I lie to her that I did not get a promo(I did not lie at all) and she wants to get back together and said that she is sorry.

What should I do now? I can't resist her anymore. 

Please help me

C11 to C10 story: My girlfriend left me and now she wants to come back in my life...

Have a wild time with her and then say sorry it won't work out between us! Give her a taste of her own medicine.

Market research

How many in 30's struggling to find a life partner via matrimony apps,the only available option .... Hit the Like button 😂

Finding partner via matrimony

Technical lead

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too

Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. 

How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings?

P.S:  don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

Women on GV - how do you find the right guy?

Content Strategist

I'm a 25 y/o F. Met my schoolmate through Instagram. For 6 months we were dating. I clearly mentioned him that if we are getting involved physically then we should define our relationship as a long term one. I trusted this guy and went ahead in getting physically involved multiple times. The chemistry was so good and irresistible for both of us. He was giving me signals like saying “now I'm taken I guess “ “ i’m not a person who leaves someone just like that “ “ i’ll take care and not leave “ and all on top of this he was planning a trip with me. And in the starting of this relationship his ex girlfriend who got married called me and threatened me and she in fact bitched about me to this guy. He promised me that he will end things with her and she will not bother me. Ah for god’s sake I feel like a dumb ass for trusting this guy... Two days back he sent me a group pic where he and his married ex girlfriend was smiling. I asked him why would you send this pic at least you could have cropped your part and would have shared. He agreed that sending that pic was his mistake. Later I called him and playfully asked him to delete all his ex pictures because he had cried to me in the past that she had manipulated him hence out of care I asked him to stay away from the memories of her. That's were he got triggered and said me to stay out of his “personal things” he tells me how his 6 year relationship with her transformed him and he would like to revisit those memories it seems… honestly I felt like hitting hard rock at this point and I started to cry to my friend telling that I have been cheated. I then took time and called this guy and said hey I'll be there for you if you want to communicate about this. I'm interested in having a future with you. For which this guy breaks the ice telling me he doesn't have even little feelings about me or any love for me. Then I asked if you wanted to have a casual relationship you could have upfrontly said. At least I would have not had any expectations. Two days had gone still feeling hurt. And processing shit. To all women out there never trust words of men. Period. It might trigger some men her, but it is always a man!!!

A School friend who still thinks about his ex gf, used me for his fun.

Brand communications

In a shocking incident reported in Pune, Maharashtra, a 36-year-old local businessman, Nikhil Khanna, died after being punched by his wife at their apartment in a posh residential society in the Wanavdi area on Friday.

Wife punches husband to death for not taking her to Dubai for birthday celebration

Woman punches Husband to Death for not taking her to Dubai for her Birthday

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I'm a 90's introvert and my girlfriend is 20's extrovert. Recently we got a fight. One week ago a new boy joined her team. Whenever i went to saw her i brought a chocolate 2 days ago i went to saw her and i brought a dairymilk and i gave to her. Suddenly that boy grabbed that dairymilk then he gaved back and he git her, I get anger and possessive. I informed her when i reached home i don't like he grabbed the dairymilk and he touched you. What i expected from her was "okay this won't happen again i won't let anyone touch me" but what happened was, she pick up a fight i won't speak with anyone see anyone I'm blocking everyone and try to live alone. I begged for hours to calm her at last she said please don't control me and please let me live with freedom. I know she purely love with me but the same time i don't like she hanging with boys. What i do, do i need to change or how to handle this situation?

Introvert problem

UX/UI designer

I understand that most of the tech community is men, and probably in this community as well.
But some of y'all just make me lose hope, in seeing how pathetic your thought processes are.

Women don't need to work cause India's GDP doesn't demand so? Excuse me? 
Have you heard of financial independence. Some of us want that.

The next thing is diversity hiring. 
Diversity hiring is needed because of regressive thought processes like these that discourage and inhibit the progress of women in the workplace. 
Women in general, have to go through a lot more in comparison to men in life. 

Consider an example: You are a guy going to university, you mom does everything for you, you have enough time to study and do everything you want, go out with friends.

Now another girl in your class might be expected to do housework, along with studies.
If she doesn't score well she is threatened to be married off. As a result she only has so much time to study and not do extra curricular activities, while the guy can do all of that just because of the privilege of being male.

This is why the bar of entry is lowered, so that women who are struggling in life, fighting their way through these odds can progess in life.

Even if women who don't have these situations benefit, even if it benefits one person, makes their life better. How does it even bother you?

Instead you want to make thier lives hell by shitting on them as diversity hire. 

Please learn empathy. Learn to respect and understand the struggles of others, regardless of their gender.
Also acknowledge that as a male you have more privileges than women, because we are in a patriarchal society, which is why women need a helping hand sometimes.

Boys, stay away from Girls with short temper issues. It's not worth it. They never improve!

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