Confused between continue marriage or not
This was second marriage this year and so was the guy’s. Within three months he and his mother framed me inside their house and pushed me out of their house. Me and my family has been trying to reach out to the guy for patch up but he’s not responding or even answering calls messages. He was good husband initially but then he became a mammas boy. His mother has torn apart our marriage but apparently it has all happened of us not his mother. What should I do?
He was always a mummas boy. It's you who has to decide whether you can continue or not @Coffeebabe
I would be able to decide if he responds to my text or calls. I don’t understand if his mom is so precious then why he had to marry someone else to ruin girls life. No girl comes and starts living in the guys home he could’ve continued doing whatever the f he wanted to with his mother
You can decide based on his no response. Parents are precious and same time partner is precious as well. DM if you want to go into detailing.
I will not. Judge you. But please just give a thought on yourself? Are you fine !! Write down in a piece of paper what people have told you: like you are arrogant, not understanding and think about it!! Are they right!? Do you need to change anything in yourself!!
I am fine but what he’s been doing to me isn’t at all fine with all the cruelty that he and his mother are showing. He came to me for rishta but his mother is crazy woman who’s been on anti depressant pills giving depression to everyone including her son
Can you suggest me im really in a depressing situation
It's clear why he's at his second marriage already. You should probably quit early without hassle, marriage will get dissolved.
It’s not easy to end everything after all it’s the second time. How will me and my parents justify or say to the people relatives? There will be fingers pointed at me
There's no point in continuing where we have to beg for attention and all
I’m tired of begging him to talk as I am not the one who polluted his mind with s**t it’s his mom and her mother’s extended family. Two of us were getting along well that’s why we tied the knot and his mother was good before marriage
Give some time it will get sorted
@Coffeebabe Wanna hear something which would work 1000%? I wanna say it only if you would believe and follow it because I will have to type a lot to tell you the whole story.
I’m listening to you so plz tell me might just help me out
This is truly heartwarming story and experience that you shared. I have tried praying to god asking begging him to bring bliss in my married life but I haven’t seen anything happening yet. With full faith I can try again. But isn’t it rightly said that if other Pearson doesn’t wanna stay in a relationship then you can’t force them you’ve to let them go… this is what is my situation. Not gonna say that I’m 100% right as what happened that let to this but atleast I’m trying to fix things which I don’t see him doing it. So I really don’t know where should I head!
IMO, Most of the times mothers feel insecure after their kids marriage & started doing things which are unbelievable, sons think my wife is only making issue of everything, my mom is aged we can’t change her, my wife shd take all the shit & adjust etc.
With none to understand at in-laws place, most of the women try to adjust in silence, take it all & bottle up everything within themselves. One fine day she gives back 2x to her husband & MIL.
Then all the blame comes on the wife & gets thrown out of house leaving a scar in her life.
It’s good to have clear communication before marriage like how does a prospect husband want to resolve fights b/w wife & mother. What’s his approach etc.
In your case, it’s hard to make the husband understand until he actually recognises by himself what the real issue was & wants to resolve it.
Don’t try to call,
Talk to any mutual connection who can initiate conversation on behalf you or directly take ur parents or elders to their house to know what’s in his mind.
If he doesn’t want to continue then it’s good to end it here. Life is vast, you don’t have to suffer in dilemma.
It’s not right to let you hang in b/w.
If u r worried about society, take my words they will not stop with anything. Even if u both reconcile, they will talk about this incident every now & then.
No one's fault here. You are right at your end, he is right at his position and his mother is also. She seems the right cause at her age and with some anti depressant tablets it's understandable that she will behave unexpectedly. Her son is right cause he is a son and should take care of her at this time irrespective of her behavior. You are right cause you did all it takes and continuously tried to be with him and save this marriage.
Now the only point is, is there a way to settle this all down. I mean if you can adjust with his mother, he can pay attention to you as well. Is it possible for you to ignore her mother's behavior and just do whatever it takes to keep it neutral maybe like just listen to her and no need to respond to anything which you may not like. Not easy but I hope you understand. Is his son can manage it between you and his mother considering both are important parts of his life and this is the time which requires most patience, tolerance and calmly execution of every behavioural activity.
I am not in your situation so I can't understand it exactly, I know advising others is easy and it seems hard to work in your own life. But believe me little tolerance and ignorance to things which may cause noise or fall you apart will keep this bond life time.
Just understand you and your husband are the only ones who can solve it, no one else can. Separation is easy but as you mentioned he was good so finding a good guy is not easy.
Wish you all the best and prayers to God to give you strength to sort this out and again settle with love, joy and happiness. God bless you.
It sounds like you've been through a really tough situation. It’s hard when outside influences disrupt something that started off well. For now I believe you need some distraction to clear everything in your head, before making a decision
I agree with you I felt the same way. I’ve been going through a lot right now but I’m aware of this
