PeppyPretzel
PeppyPretzel

Crush on my teammate is affecting my productivity

I have a female coworker of mine with whom I have become very good friends with. We talk a lot during office hours. I feel very happy around her and i am able to express myself the most in front of her. I keep thinking about her all the time, even when i am at home, during weekends. However i feel that she only thinks of me as a friend and nothing more. This is based on signals i picked up during various instances, conversations we had. This thing breaks my heart. Also since I dont have a friend group as such to make weekend plans with, i mostly keep thinking about this during weekends sitting at home and this shit has been hurting me a lot. Seeing my other friends insta stories is a final bullet which further pushes me into depression. Sometimes i just feel like being open about this in front of her but then this could take a very bad turn if things dont work out in a happy way. I also cannot completely avoid her since we are in the same team and same project.

Can someone please help with how to deal with this?

15mo ago
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DancingKoala
DancingKoala

First of all uninstall instagram. I have done it and it helped with my social anxiety.

QuirkyNoodle
QuirkyNoodle

+1

BubblyPretzel
BubblyPretzel
Cred15mo

+1

WobblyBanana
WobblyBanana

Either propose or stop the friendship. No point suffering like this. Most likely u'll be rejected based on your comments but it'll atleast clear your mind

BubblyBoba
BubblyBoba

Isn't it against hr policy to propose a colleague ?

FloatingBurrito
FloatingBurrito

The only policy that exists in the office is against PDA (public display of affection). No one is punishing you for having a relationship in the office with your co-worker.

MagicalQuokka
MagicalQuokka

Either rizz her up or shut up bro. Stop daydreaming.

PeppySushi
PeppySushi
Swiggy15mo

This is completely fine. There are two things. One is clear things out. Instead of overthinking, just ask her out.But if you have to be open that things can go in a different direction. Also do not be desperate, that's the killer. Second thing is focus more on your passion (not work related ).Lastly talk to more girls. (This boosts your inner confidence if you are an introvert)

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

This^, also uninstall Instagram. Best therapy ever. Peace of mind is better than yoga.

ZoomySushi
ZoomySushi
Vymo15mo

Don’t shit where you eat, cause this sounds like attraction to me. If you have fallen for her that’s a different case, but that’s not the point here.

I don’t know how to make friends, cause it happens unknowingly.

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