Depression
hi all, Please just pour some ideas ,I am in relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years,My parents are accepting my love .THe problem here in his mom don't get to our marriage untill his elder brother gets married but my parents are urging me to get married before his elder brother .....or asking me to call off as I am 27 dont know what I need to do and his parents are coming to my home to have a word with my parents whatif there will be clash between 2 family I am very depressing with this ....please pour some suggestions
Hi girl,
Firstly this isn't a problem. It's a phase which many youngsters go through.
Let us start by looking at positives.
- Your parents have agreed.
- His parents have agreed.
- Your relationship is rock solid.
Now let us focus on small hurdles.
- Firstly, discuss with your partner and check whether he wants to get married now or wait till his elder brother gets married.
- Second, if your partner is ok with marriage now, then it will be great if ur partner can convince his parents for your marriage.
- If your partner is not ok with marriage now and if he wants to wait for his brother then you both should consider the situation and come to a mutual agreement - maybe give a certain time period like 6 months to 1 year. If his elder brother gets married in this duration then good. Else you both should proceed with ur marriage.
- Meanwhile you should try and make your parents understand that u are a matured independent individual and you should convey ur decision to them.
I like how you put this in a structure. Great articulation
I wouldnt label this as "Depression".
But yes, you are going through a hard phase for sure !
This too shall pass
Atleast your guy isn’t leaving you because his parents said no. And then finding excuses apart from their refusal to justify this.