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Feeling depressed

For a few months, I am being targeted by manager. A few peers are also helping him doing this. Kind of forcing me to leave the job. This has impacted me alot. I stopped going to gym, started eating 24 hrs. Always thinking about the beautiful time spent with everyone in team. How do I get out of the feelings and moveon.

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Brutallyhonest

Stealth

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HurricaneFrog

Walmart

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by BusyChurn67

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So, for some context, I recently joined my new company about 4 months ago. I was previously working at a well known design studio and wanted to try out product companies. My manager is very bossy and literally micromanages everything. Things they do: 1. Has 2 1:1s per week. 2 fkn 1:1s every week. One on Tuesday and one on Friday just to check up on how I'm doing and there is literally nothing to update during that time. I mean I'm not going to make any significant changes within 2 days. My time gets wasted and I've suggested that I don't think we need two calls like this but they dismissed that point. 2. Does not know when to diverge or converge. If we are approaching a deadline, they are still in an exploration mode and constantly ask me to explore more. Being super unrealistic. And then randomly call me out by saying, we need to wrap this up quickly after asking me to explore more. Like tf? 3. Most importantly, super confusing in the sense that they contradict their own opinion in the same call and all the calls end up with no conclusion. Do this using X method, then next day they say why are you using X method, you can try Y method too bla bla. This happens every time and I'm left speechless every time. I get on calls with them to get clarification on my issues but end up getting more confused. 4. Gives feedback and expects it to get implemented. If I say no or suggest a better alternative, they become defensive and pin it on me saying, I need to explore more etc. I do explore a lot but there should be a full stop to when I should stop exploring. Also, literally anything I do has to go through them, and they have to give unnecessary advice even when the work I am doing is coming to a closure. Every Sunday I dread that the next day is Monday. Feeling very down off late, what should I do?

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by Nezuko

Persistent Systems

Quite depressed😔

I am not depressed because of work or challenges, but only because of my manager. As soon I was under this new manager in a new project, I didn't knew my life would get so terrible. 1 The project got complicated because my manager couldn't understand the technical discussions. 2 Team lead was out in the starting itself because of the unethical or disrespectful behaviour of the manager. 3. Whole responsibility came over me. I did my tasks very well and even got appreciation from client side. I was expecting appreciation from my manager too but instead got an escalation 😞. Reason by manager:: 1. I don't provide clear status updates --> reality:: I provide updates on slack,Dsm,jira every day with full clarity. 2. I take Unplanned leaves -->reality:: 2 sick leaves only till now (one leave in one month) 3. Lazy and unproductive and many more --> reality:: I even help my senior with their tasks and who is doing the project then?? In this way, the manager wants to escalate with any way it finds. When I tried to have a discussion and asked relevant reason, the manager was quite unable to ans. My rating is also been spoiled 😮‍💨 Even the upper management is with The manager. We the team of 3 people from which only I am left, both of them being escalated and forcefully resigned from the company. I am been torchered with this escalations on a regular basis and I don't know how to tackle this situation.😞😞 --