Software Engineer

He is known to do this as per my friends at WalKart 😄 He gets kicks out of it. He hides/covers under being spiritual guru, but deep inside he hates Gen Z, Millennials. As his own kids are ditching him. Sad but true.

Lawyer

For a few months, I am being targeted by manager. A few peers are also helping him doing this. Kind of forcing me to leave the job. This has impacted me alot. I stopped going to gym, started eating...

For a few months, I am being targeted by manager. A few peers are also helping him doing this. Kind of forcing me to leave the job.
This has impacted me alot. I stopped going to gym, started eating 24 hrs. Always thinking about the beautiful time spent with everyone in team.
How do I get out of the feelings and moveon.

Feeling depressed

Feeling depressed- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Currently working for Foreign Startup, under a Indian Engineering Manager.

Manager is incompetent, doesn't like disagreemets. If you disagree with him, then he goes to length to make your life diffult. Already seen few examples in the team. 

There are red flag all over the place. I'm not sure how upper management is not able to catch him. He does the politics, favoritism, etc...

List goes on and on. Any help would be appreciated.

P.S Don't want to leave the company in this market.

How to Deal with Toxic Manager

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

So, for some context, I recently joined my new company about 4 months ago. I was previously working at a well known design studio and wanted to try out product companies.

My manager is very bossy and literally micromanages everything.

Things they do:

1. Has 2 1:1s per week. 2 fkn 1:1s every week. One on Tuesday and one on Friday just to check up on how I'm doing and there is literally nothing to update during that time. I mean I'm not going to make any significant changes within 2 days. My time gets wasted and I've suggested that I don't think we need two calls like this but they dismissed that point.

2. Does not know when to diverge or converge. If we are approaching a deadline, they are still in an exploration mode and constantly ask me to explore more. Being super unrealistic. And then randomly call me out by saying, we need to wrap this up quickly after asking me to explore more. Like tf?

3. Most importantly, super confusing in the sense that they contradict their own opinion in the same call and all the calls end up with no conclusion. Do this using X method, then next day they say why are you using X method, you can try Y method too bla bla. This happens every time and I'm left speechless every time. I get on calls with them to get clarification on my issues but end up getting more confused.

4. Gives feedback and expects it to get implemented. If I say no or suggest a better alternative, they become defensive and pin it on me saying, I need to explore more etc. I do explore a lot but there should be a full stop to when I should stop exploring. Also, literally anything I do has to go through them, and they have to give unnecessary advice even when the work I am doing is coming to a closure.

Every Sunday I dread that the next day is Monday. Feeling very down off late, what should I do?

I have started to hate my new job. 5 months in, need guidance

UX/UI Designer

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I am not depressed because of work or challenges, but only because of my manager.

As soon I was under this new manager in a new project, I didn't knew my life would get so terrible.

1 The project got  complicated because my manager couldn't understand the technical discussions.

2 Team lead was out in the starting itself because of the unethical or disrespectful behaviour of the manager.

3. Whole responsibility came over me. I did my tasks very well and even got appreciation from client side.
I was expecting appreciation from my manager too but instead got an escalation 😞.

Reason by manager::

1.  I don't provide clear status updates
--> reality:: I provide updates on slack,Dsm,jira every day with full clarity.

2. I take Unplanned leaves 
-->reality:: 2 sick leaves only till now (one leave in one month)

3. Lazy and unproductive and many more
--> reality:: I even help my senior with their tasks and who is doing the project then??

In this way, the manager wants to escalate with any way it finds.

When I tried to have a discussion and asked relevant reason, the manager was quite unable to ans.

My rating is also been spoiled 😮‍💨
Even the upper management is with The manager.

We the team of 3 people from which only I am left, both of them being escalated and forcefully resigned from the company.

I am been torchered with this escalations on a regular basis and I don't know how to tackle this situation.😞😞


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Quite depressed😔

I have been suffering from work related anxiety for the last 3-4 months. I have recently started taking medications for it. I am supposed to move to Bengaluru as my wfh has ended. My parents think it's a good idea as it will help change my environment. I am wondering if it's a good idea to share about it at my workplace with my manager/superior. I know it's subjective, but still. Because I am worried this has started to affect my performance. Also, I am a talkative and emotional person and may end up slipping these things anyway.

Informing manager / superior about anxiety

Don't share this with anyone in workplace unless you really trust your manager who you know will always have your back 
  
 But please start seeking therapy regularly and actively, and do have faith in the process. You'll be available to cope with it better hopefully

Program Manager

A few colleagues of mine who got promoted in the mid year cycle had ordered a few snacks yesterday. But I didn't go there due to the fact that I wasn't promoted in this cycle.

I know that this attitude of mine is going to hurt me but I don't know how to handle this.

Any suggestions because frankly speaking this feeling is killing me from inside and I can't stop thinking about this even after my office is over.

Jealousy is killing me

Research Specialist

I am working as a senior product manager in a fintech startup. I am under a lot of stress due to work pressure, continuous badgering from business and tech stakeholders and loneliness. I always think of going home but staying in stressful job mainly because I don't want to be jobless. I can only post my views here anonymously because I don't want to be seen as loser. Request members if they can provide their suggestions.

PS : As far as my profile is concerned it's B tech + MBA from tier 1 college and 3 years of tech experience followed by 7 yrs into Product Management and living alone in Bangalore.

Deteriorating mental health

Product Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I have one question for everyone. How do you resolve your issues if you have issues with your manager or lead? 
Or How do you build a trust if the trust is broken because of some delayed work, wrong work, wrong design, or something you did wrong in the past and he/she still judges you based on that but you're now doing better?

Managing conflicts

Data engineer

Hi folks, I am a fronted developer with  5+ years of experience in TCS. I am doing well in my previous project but that is complete then I joined another project where I am struggling to do a smaller job as well. I am not sure what's going to happen to me every time I am the only person who always points out even if I make that mistake or not. Even though nothing motivated me, day by day my performance was going down I am feeling tired from this same time I am thinking about leaving the project and searching for something new but they are not releasing me. Due to this I visit the doctor and he says you are in depression and suggest some pills. Nothing motivates me here. Can anyone suggest to me what I do now.

Suggest me.

Frontend Engineer

Everyday when i wake up there is a feeling of emptiness or a sad feeling just by the thought of going to work..earlier i used to think this will get better with time but no it doesn't..has anyone went through the same situation?? how to cope up with this??

Feeling dejected

Analyst

I am working as a Software Engineer and aspiring to get promotion to Senior Software Engineer.
My manager who use to support me went on a sabbatical, now my team is getting changed for second time in 3 months and the team I was working in from 1 year and wanting to be Team Lead of is sidelining me as I will be moving to new team now. It’s getting tough for me to take lead of anything and people around are not supportive of me being Team Lead even after knowing I am capable of it.. What should I di, should I just keep head down and wait for manager to return and rant to him or just keep poking everyone and snatch ky rights of Team Lead and stay in same team and refuse to change team

What to do when getting sidelined as an SSE?

Software Developer

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I worked at an early stage startup with really toxic culture and left my job because of that, now it's been one month I just wake up eat and sleep and feel like doing nothing, Although I know at some point I have to resume back but when ever I sit back to document my work prepare my portfolio I just feel no motivation to do so, Is something wrong with me?? Has anyone faced something like this before? How did you come out of it?

Feel like doing nothing

Product Designer

Is it worth resigning without having a job? I am very frustrated with the amount of toxicity I am going through from the last few months, My teammate is trying their level best to frustrate me and doing politics. What should I do suggest?

Business Analyst

So I’ve been working as a Backend Software Engineer. Recently, my manager left the company and I’ve been assigned a new manager. Not to boast but I’m decent at my job and able to find better solutions than my peers, my old manager ignited this passion for problem solving in me. This new manager is really toxic he pass comments on my colleagues (Same level as me) you have short term memory loss, badam khaya kro and shit! He’s always chasing girls in office. There is one girl in my team he acts like a different person in front of her (although she treats him really bad because she thinks he’s a creep). So a few days back, I was working on something with some other manager who knew the context to the problem (there is an internal npm package my company has which only few developers have contributed to, I recently made my contribution to that package) and this new manager has never made any contribution to that package so he started telling the other manager that this guy(Says my name) is very slow and the other managers defends me instantly saying he’s the fastest in the team. I’m really pissed tho.

I want to do something about this guy. He has been doing such things for past month and always tells the sob story of how much he has struggled in life.

Need suggestions on how to tackle this?

PS: I’ve asked my parents if I can resign they are fine with it but I don’t want to resign in this bad market without an offer

Toxic Manager…Need Suggestions?

Heya... 
New to this app... 
Experiencing a hard life like others (in this era mostly are struggling) been in a serious relationship it's been 5 years all things are going good but family is not convinced for marriage my side family is good with it but other end family is problematic it's like if this marriage happens they all will die n blah blah this is basically drowning me mentally apart from this complicated job not have good terms with my manager somehow he is trying me leave this job by myself..... So my question after stucking in so much things how to live life

Stuck in relationship and job issues

Finance Operations

I work at a small scale startup where I interact daily with the CTO whom I directly report.

Recently, he has been giving tighter deadlines for critical projects at work and is not willing to discuss anything related to the scope or timeline of the projects. He just expects me to finish everything in x number of days without asking for even the slightest estimate of the duration.

This has led to me missing due dates for projects which he later blames on me quoting poor performance during reviews. 

Has anyone encountered such problems before? How did you handle it?

Deadlines without discussion

Product Engineer

Hello everyone today i have be targeted by my team lead by taking 2 day sick leave due to which he got ego hurt and complained to HR unwanted reaction and put me in PIP. I am getting harassed by my current organisation. Can you provide me referrals so that i can change my Organisation. It will really help me thanks and regards

Feeling depressed

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