Happened to me recently- caused a lot of mental health problems and couldn’t focus for over a few months- I would recommend you to try have a one on one discussion with your manager and let them know what is happening with you at work. But can’t guarantee the outcome of the meeting. At the end of day, you would need to communicate and if not it will eat you alive and you will quit and move elsewhere.

Customer Success

I have one question for everyone. How do you resolve your issues if you have issues with your manager or lead?  Or How do you build a trust if the trust is broken because of some delayed work, wron...

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I have one question for everyone. How do you resolve your issues if you have issues with your manager or lead? 
Or How do you build a trust if the trust is broken because of some delayed work, wrong work, wrong design, or something you did wrong in the past and he/she still judges you based on that but you're now doing better?

Managing conflicts

Data engineer

Managing conflicts- Grapevine

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Office conflict

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Lately it's been really hard trying to cope up with derogatory comments and people trying to pull you down.

I build/refactored some of our codebase and things go south in terms of performance at few places. 
I realised the mistake and fixed the performance bottlenecks that happened because of me in least time possible. 

But people still look down on me on and manager keeps passing hurtful comments about the incident every now and then.

Moreover there's worse happening fellow people start blaming you for the performance of code you haven't even touched. You are just utilizing some function in your codebase written by some other person.

I don't know how to handle all this and what should I do to avoid this? 
Mistakes happen, bugs go on prod, things can break but as far as once everything stabilise, we should move on.

How do you guys deal with Office politics.

Software Engineer

I am fed up with people who try to steal other people’s credit. Be it your manager, your colleague or anyone how do you avoid them from taking your credit for the work you have done. Worst part is seeing them try hard to showcase it as their own. What do you all suggest for such situations?

Avoiding people who feed on other’s credit

Software Developer

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I'm feeling really stuck and frustrated at work lately. Despite putting in my best efforts and consistently performing well, it seems like my manager is feeling threatened by my progress. He’s been rejecting my ideas and work without even reviewing them, and calling me out in meetings for not completing non-priority tasks. The environment has become really toxic and it's taking a toll on me. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Feeling frustrated at work

Product Manager

In my corporate experience, I have observed two kinds of leaders - 1) A hard task master, very high on IQ but more often than not low on EQ and 2) High on EQ, above avg on IQ. I as a manager/ leader fall under 2) and usually get work done without authority but I do experience at times, some peers and reportees taking advantage of my behaviour

 In my view, anecdotally I see type 1) leaders succeed more in corporates even if it comes at the cost of facing flak/hate from directs/indirects. One of my previous managers was unpopular for his toxicity but somehow I kind of built a decent bond with him. Once over drinks and dinner, he candidly told me, I'm not here in this organization for making friends and I'm here only to get results and he did deliver on results every year.

My question is, can type 2 leaders even climb up the ladder specially where cut throat competition exists. Sometimes I do feel I need to be more like type 1 leaders obviously not at the cost of toxicity - disrespect, shouting etc. 

What are your thoughts?

Task Master vs Empathetic leader

Program Manager

Travelling over the next few hours. Thought of doing an AMA. 
First job out of college, 8+ year experience. TC :1.8cr

L6 staff at google- AMA

Hey Viners, would like to know your prespective on the situation that if you face a bunch of incompetent colleagues who dont take their work seriously and the manager constantly asks you to maintain quality because of your seniority and you end up cleaning their work, how do you handle it ?

Few Incompetent colleagues

Create a toxic work environment for them that they leave themselves ☺️

Corporate Strategist

How do you deal with the situation when you have worked hard as an acting lead and expect to be promoted as Lead but the management somehow decides to give the position to someone who was not even part of the project earlier and has 0 project knowledge. Just because his team's project got ramped up and he being an old employee of the company. 
On the other side, me doing very well from quite a long time and even a stakeholder delight.

Dealing with management

The experienced colleague in my office is not supportive. How do I make her favourable to me ? She don't like work collaboratively when managers assigns a task for us. When I ask her she used to say Sir have not said to me do that.

My manager is completely unpredictable. I don’t know what they want, they give me unclear instructions and often do a 180 degree turn when it comes to delivering it. They trivialise my work sometimes, don’t take feedback very well, at this point they’re taking revenge when I finally stood up for myself and explained my issues.

I have around 5 years of work experience and worked with various types of people but I’ve never worked for such a person. I even went to therapy just to see if something’s wrong with me instead. This situation is affecting my confidence a lot since I’m also new in the organisation and not able to settle down. 

Did you ever have such a manager and how did you deal with them?

Unpredictable managers

Founder

How do I deal with a teammate who treats every feedback as criticism and the goes on to defend his actions to the point that it’s impossible to have a civil discussion. 
Any pointers will help as I have tried almost everything I can think of. Talked to manager and manager doesn’t want to say anything coz he is one of the best in our team🤷

Teammate problem

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I joined a new company 3.5 months back and my manager always finds flaws in my work. In case I did not reply to the email within 5 mins, he starts questioning my work interest and there are many such incidents. What should I do?

Advice

Associate Product Manager

Have recently started noticing a bunch of times that my manager leaves me out of meetings where key decisions are taken, related to the work that I only have done. 

I get to know this because I stalk their Google Calendar. It’s just weird. I’m not insecure or anything, I’ve been mostly rated well. It’s just odd. 

This just didn’t happen before and lately has started.
Anyone faced this and knows how to address it?

My manager is leaving me out of key meetings

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Hey Grapeviners,

I need your wisdom! I'm currently in an engineering team at my company, but I feel like a fish out of water (no learning at all). I’m constantly scratching my head trying to understand tasks and communications. It’s like everyone’s speaking in code – literally and figuratively!

My real passion? Data analytics. I dream of diving into data pools, not wrestling with the programming geeks. I've told my manager about my analytics ambitions, but I'm still stuck in my current role, learning things I know I won't use as an analyst. It doesn't even interest me to do a simple google search about the stuff they are using. 

I want to talk to my manager about:

My struggles with the current role.
My career aspirations and where i want to go
Moving to a data-focused team.
Still helping out with my current duties during the transition.
Has anyone been in a similar boat? How did you navigate the waters? Any tips on how to have this conversation without rocking the boat too much?

Thanks a ton for your help!

Cheers ☺

Help! Stuck in the Wrong Job - Need Career Advice

Machine Learning Engineer

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Growth Manager

My story -
So I switched to a startup last year. I was initially super excited in solving problems. Asking questions and just being curious about everything in general.
   Then, some incidents of my manager's behavior and team folks has turned me into a person who is so fucking afraid of now asking questions, doing tasks. My stakeholder communication sometimes I miss on, some things that seem to be pretty obvious had I been my competent self of previous organization, I am missing out on.
   I don't communicate well simply because I don't want to face my current manager and team. There's huge disconnect as well. I am not at all excited to work everyday. 
 
My friend was miserable in my previous org but now after switch he's damn happy and doing good!

I want to know if this is something that happens with you all? Or are you all like you fit in everywhere?
Or is it just My problem and my incompetence? Because I am always reminiscing my past org and my performance there was exceptional!

Has anyone ever faced a situation where you perform excellent in some org but not in another?

Consultant

I am new in a team and got a story assigned to me on Thursday afternoon. It was Friday morning and my manager was almost forcing me for 5-6 times to send the update on the story to client. As I work on VDI and it's too too slow, I was unable to go through the story properly, so forcibly, I had to send incorrect updates to client, to which they asked questions to my manager. 
And suddenly my manager's Second face revealed, and he asked me in the group "why did you send this incorrect update? You should have asked someone in team first. " (while he didn't give me some time to check with someone in team and forced me in the standup call to send updates at that time) and I was shocked, how this man turned his face within minutes!!!! When I justified my point, he started taunting me in the group chat, started argument and almost blamed me and shared the whole discussion to his manager and acted innocent. 
How these managers are so ruthless and double faced??
I am feared he would not approve my 1 week leave, I am planning to take during Dussehra or would give bad rating.

Should I stay strong or apologize (even though I am not wrong )? 

Please suggest what should I do now???

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