Guilt of staying away from ageing parents

My parents are in their 70s now, and I'm constantly worried about their health and well-being. They live in another state, and I feel guilty for not being there more often. How do you balance caring for aging parents with your own life and responsibilities? Any advice for long-distance caregiving? This whole situation is giving me major anxiety.

Folks who live away from their parents, how do you take care of them? I recently shifted to Blr, parents live in NCR - In college I was a day scholar and also I don't have any siblings. Taking care not in terms of monetary help, but rather physical and emotional help - like being present there when they need me.

Question came up because it’s Independence Day 🇮🇳 A lot of us have had the privilege to be able to go abroad, but ended up choosing not to. For me, it was just believing there’s enough growth here in the coming few decades + friends/family Looking to hear if the reduced brain drain is actually true, and what makes people stay.

Hey folks, I’ve taken few leaves to connect with family and relax but I’m feeling guilty for not working. I see slack and emails being exchanged and that makes me feel I’m not doing enough and it will impact my appraisal. So essentially I’ve taken leaves but unable to enjoy which was the purpose of taking leaves. Does anyone else relate to this? How do y’all cope with this? Any tips?

I started working in an early stage startup this year in jan, moved out to bangalore(which I wanted to, since my 3rd year) for it. Now, i had to find a new role recently because things didn't work out, I was so scared that I might have to go back home if I didn't get a new job in time. I did get a new role which is remote and started this month. But even though I always wanted to move away from all the chaos of my dysfunctional household (while still supporting them in all the ways i could) and make a life for me, I now feel if I am betraying them by living here, some of my friends also are doing wfh and that's also nudging me towards this thought. This is the first year of my full-time employment and I'm in a dilemma of what's important career-wise and responsibility-wise.

I have been wfh for than a year now, my parents would keep ordering me to do small household work even when I’m working. I have asked them not to do that as it distracts me, but they will not simply listen and even scold me and compare me with others that they help their parents 😅 I have thought about just going to a different city and wfh from there but my parents are also getting old so have to think about that also.

Guys, I recently switched to a startup that is operating fully remotely, where I am working as a software engineer. This is something that I consciously chose as I personally liked working from home. I have 2 years of experience in this field. In my earlier job, I was working from the office in mumbai, so I have lived in the suburbs of mumbai for around 1.5 years. I am turned 25 just a few months back. I come from a small town in Rajasthan. I do have a bsnl fibre connectivity at home, which gives good enough internet connectivity as well. Living in a small town and with parents is great. I save almost all of my salary. Now, here comes the confusion - being early in my career, i feel like I should live in the city, like bangalore, explore more things, but since I already lived in mumbai, to be very honest I didn't liked it to that extent as I am not the party guy, and too many people make it more worse, traffic I am not even considering. I am kind of very simple. Home to office and office to home, on weekends maybe go to temples and explore some places around. I also have food choices, which makes it more difficult to survive. Like I am pure vegetarian and don't even eat onion/garlic, nobody in the home actually eats it. No offence to anyone, but I feel extremely uncomfortable when i am asked to eat at restaurants where non-veg is surved during company offsites and all. Now, just for the context, it's not that I never lived away from family. Actually, I am staying away from my family from very early school days, like 8th/9th standard. And somehow, I managed it all during all those years. That is one of the reasons that makes me feel as if I should spend more time with my parents. What would be your advice for me so that I don't leave behind in my career and at the same time live a balanced and happy life. Also, considering my context, which city would you recommend me to relocate to? Or should I not even think about it?