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I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point. My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit. My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think. Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough. Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right. This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight. Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups. She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job. I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

In relationship with her for almost 4 years. Although relationship is kind of toxic but there're lot of emotional memories. She's bit of abusive when in anger and on the other hand I also made lot of mistake by giving hope & all. It becomes kind of hard for me to handle her anger. Now I trying to fix things up for our future. I tried connecting with lot of my friends & psychologist, but didn't get balanced solution. By balanced solution, I mean both of us should not suffer unfairly and live life peacefully. Both of us come from lower middle class family and both approaching 30. she's not working. 1. I have few responsibility for my family as well. So, one of my friend suggested "to do breakup and not continue because of these family responsibility. If I go with her, then in the end I have to sacrifice one thing in my life (sacrifice means not good future), either my family, her or my career. and not being true to my family responsibilities in future will give me more guilt than breaking up with her. and they told It'll become hard for me with family guilt. In chess, sometime you have to sacrifice queen to win. Also, they asked me to read geeta that duty comes first than anything else. and family didn't make any wrong and deserve the best in future." 2. My judgement around this is kind of messedup right now. Although i understand the logic part of it and completely agree with this. but Emotional part of this is kind of making me feel guilt. that i did very wrong to someone. and Even i understand that it'll be hard/impossible for me carry all these burden in future, still I think lets go with her just that I dont want her to suffer things. 3. Above 2 solution feels very biased to me. In both solution, one of us have to suffer badly. Posting here to get your solution. I know both type of people exist here. Someone will feel more for her and other will prefer family. for more context - https://grapevine.in/post/98de98e6-d9fb-48ea-90ce-b05c82214362

MOM said this line to me, today again. There have been countless times, when I have heard this from throughout my childhood. And then, people ask me why you don't love your mom. I don't feel bad anymore as I have accepted this sentence for life. But it made me understand that, words like these can kill anyone's self confidence, moral and belief to stay alive. I am thankful to my mom, that she made me strong enough in my early days that when someone says anything harsh to me now, I don't give a fuck. Guys, always be wise to choose the words you speak to someone, even if you are in immense rage. I am using this platform to share this, because I can never tell this to anyone else. Even, I haven't told this to my girlfriend who has been with me for the past 4 years. SPREAD LOVE AS MUCH AS YOU CAN ❤

Few weeks ago I checked Workday and saw that I was not promoted, while other people here were promoted apparently. Apparently, you could check in your workday whether you were promoted or nah. Anyway, I was disappointed that I was not promoted from C11 to C10 even after working so hard. In my moment of weakness, I confided in my girlfriend. We have been dating for 3 months now. I was in a horrible mood and wanted to let it all out. She decided to break up with me by the end of that week and said that it wouldn't work out between us. It was a very sad moment for me, after not being promoted and then the break up. But FINALLLLYYYYYY!!!! I got promoted from C10 to C11. Apparently, workday method was not true for me. I am very happy that I got promoted. I told my family and friends. Since, me and my girl had recently broken up not many people had known about it so someone must've asked about my promo to her. Now, she's saying that why did I lie to her that I did not get a promo(I did not lie at all) and she wants to get back together and said that she is sorry. What should I do now? I can't resist her anymore. Please help me

I'm a 90's introvert and my girlfriend is 20's extrovert. Recently we got a fight. One week ago a new boy joined her team. Whenever i went to saw her i brought a chocolate 2 days ago i went to saw her and i brought a dairymilk and i gave to her. Suddenly that boy grabbed that dairymilk then he gaved back and he git her, I get anger and possessive. I informed her when i reached home i don't like he grabbed the dairymilk and he touched you. What i expected from her was "okay this won't happen again i won't let anyone touch me" but what happened was, she pick up a fight i won't speak with anyone see anyone I'm blocking everyone and try to live alone. I begged for hours to calm her at last she said please don't control me and please let me live with freedom. I know she purely love with me but the same time i don't like she hanging with boys. What i do, do i need to change or how to handle this situation?

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days. It keeps alternating and its very annoying. I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems. Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

I feel my life is extremely difficult after demise of my beloved father at the age he should have not left us this early he was 51 and now without him my life is just extremely difficult in all aspects , people around me , relatives , career aspect marriage aspect future everything just scares me and i feel i cannot reach out to anyone for my help not even my mother with my problems I feel if i reach out to anyone they just shut it like dont overthink , please stop with your negativity I just dont know how to get on with life He was like shield to us Now i dont know even me , my mom , my sibling has changed like anything Nothing feels good anymore

I (28, Hindu Brahmin) am in love with this (30, Sikhni) girl. We are together in relationship from last 5 years. I am trying to convince my mom for marriage but she is not getting convinced. We have being in relationship for very long and she(girl) has waited for a very long time for us to get married. Everytime I talk to my mom, she says, you get married but don’t involve me. Girl’s family came to meet my mom, there also my mom denied. I said that I want to get married to this girl only. Girl’s family they are trusting me to get married to her only. They didn’t resisted much. I and girl’s family decided to get married in December, and have planned everything. I hve invited only my friends and girl’s family is also having few closed relatives. My mom is still not getting convinced. She is not talking about marriage at all. What should I do? On top of that my sister, is saying that I am rushing into it. Though it is clear my mom is not going to be convinced. What should I do? Getting stressed a lot. Anyone else who faced the same, going through it or anybody else who can share their pov or any idea around what should be done?

Hi friend, I am sharing my personal life with you all. Kindly address me what to do, I was born in poor family, my father was a small business man my mother was a house wife. In 90s my grandfather was in power to rule in our house no one can disobey his decision. My father is two brothers. Big brother has no childers. I am the only son between them. One day my grandfather decide to give me to big brother. At the age of 3 I was away with my real mom. They happily treat me as a our child, One day I also called him papa and mummy. Don't know how but I did it, takes courage 💪 for the first time and then it was usual. They spend around 18 years on my care. I become adult now and goes for higher study and leave the town where they stay. So I am the link between both of my parents they both want me, somewhere there is a compition between them for me, not sure. My real father always supports me that your first priority is your big father and mother and Then me and your real mother. I was connected with my real father and mother after so much when I was come for further study. I can not explain you the hole story guys. But I am connected to both of them. If they divided or share me its not there fault it was my grade father fault. I always make sure that there bonds become strong day by day. But some conflict were there between them. My question is to you guys is that, I was stuck into one thing the empire my big father and mother has created should I aspect that they should give me or not. My real father says don't think such things. You will not get anything. My real father is so negative person. But he says what ever is mine you get after me. I am earning well in my life and want to create my own empire. But if they give there property it boost my speed for more. My big mother is close to her family. I think her decision will be last. What to do your opinion 🤔 Life is short live it or dead.