How do you deal with friends who upon meeting always wants to talk about their packages and work.

So I have couple of friends from college and I meet them during weekends. Whenever I meet them they wanted to talk about how much they have given taxes, what their salaries is or how they worked this week. I know that work gets too much and sometimes you need to vent somewhere, but everytime we meet this is becoming too much. Sometimes I feel a bit out of place as they comparatively earn a lot than me. I meet them to clear things out of my head and prepare for next week,but this constant comparison is getting too much for me. I have asked them to talk about some other topic but sometimes after we come back to discuss the same things

I think we all face this, how do you deal with relatives who always try to put you down in every possible way, constantly compare salary, foreign tour, abroad jobs, new car, new home, education institute, vacations , like they are the people who feel happy by making someone hurt or feel bad about themselves. I can't have a comeback because my parents just tell me to bear them for the time being. But sometimes it just piles up and I feel like thrashing them like hulk. Someone please help me with this. Help me to deal with this, hulk toh ban nahi paunga.

Hey, I am in a great dilemma recently and needed some advice. I am entering the corporate world from college and moving to Bangalore and now look for a flat but greater decision is to find perfect flatmates. I have been living with my college friends and feel that i don't want to live with them anymore because of what i have faced with them. I feel like they haven't yet come out of college and their life is quite monotonous, waking up -> going to office-> coming back -> watching movies or IPL and then gossiping till bed time. And of course Friday Saturday mandatory alcohol. I am good friends with them and want them to be by my side but what I want more is that I have flatmates whom i can learn from, with whom i can discuss ideas and with whom i can build something. But how do i find these people? What should i do so that i get in a company where 5 people around me take me higher in life. Need some guidance. Anybody? PS- Obv I care about my friends and in my opinion wherever i live, i can go back to them whenever i want.

Hey, I am in a great dilemma recently and needed some advice. I am entering the corporate world from college and moving to Bangalore and now look for a flat but greater decision is to find perfect flatmates. I have been living with my college friends and feel that i don't want to live with them anymore because of what i have faced with them. I feel like they haven't yet come out of college and their life is quite monotonous, waking up -> going to office-> coming back -> watching movies or IPL and then gossiping till bed time. And of course Friday Saturday mandatory alcohol. I am good friends with them and want them to be by my side but what I want more is that I have flatmates whom i can learn from, with whom i can discuss ideas and with whom i can build something. But how do i find these people? What should i do so that i get in a company where 5 people around me take me higher in life. Need some guidance. Anybody? PS- Obv I care about my friends and in my opinion wherever i live, i can go back to them whenever i want.

I have no time for hobbies or anything considering I spend most of my time working. My only social outlet is my colleagues and I don't want to end up gossiping with them all the time. How do you guys (who are in a similar situation) manage?

When I go to the office, all of my colleagues talk to me very kindly. It's as if they're reassuring me that if anything were to happen, I have nothing to worry about because these guys will manage everything, including my family. However, when there's a need for teamwork, these guys behave as if they belong to different departments and do back bitching all day. Outside of work, clients try to get close, almost like cousins (I know they want referrals), but during review meetings in front of their bosses, these guys act like FBI agents or like they are doing some type of favor on us. In college, when our group of friends used to go on trips, we would enjoy every time like kids. But now, everyone is more interested in knowing how much we earn and Judging based on the brands of our clothes and watches. People often ask me why I don't go home on long weekends. Well, I live in a joint family, and when I go there, everyone bombards me with questions about when I'm going to get married. Man what the hell, I don't want to get married, plain and simple. My uncle, every time he sees me, asks about my annual salary increment. What's the deal? Didn't we have this conversation just three months ago? Who gets a raise every quarter? Finally, I decided that I'll take some time for my personal life, and if I find a soulmate, I'll consider marriage. But here's the thing (sorry if it's not appropriate): it seems like everyone these days is only interested in one thing, yes Se*. What's wrong with our generation? Doesn't anyone want emotional support anymore? Isn't anyone interested in enjoying the sunset with someone they love or gazing at the sky while lying on the grass? People often ask me why I don't go outside or try to be more social. Well, I've tried everything, and I'm really happy at my home in my favorite pajamas.

People who left home early for education and been away for like 10-15 years from families, what was the biggest lesson you learned in life

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.