A mature manager would be very chill about your fuck up. It helps if your manager is not Indian. Because Indians are absolute worst middle management. Blame game and no empathy.

Tech Lead

Take responsibility for your action and move on

Software Developer

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How to tell manager that I have f###ed up

How to tell manager that I have f###ed up- Grapevine

Hello folks, with the exciting long weekend ahead, I hope you have all made plans for it. As a consultant, I'm always busy with clients, and the recent poor market conditions have increased the workload and pressure on my team. Consequently, I haven't taken any leave in the last six months. 
Now, I'm considering a trip to Rishikesh (as they say, Dilli wale either go to Rishikesh or Manali 😅). Can you please help me with a good excuse to request Monday's leave from my manager without much discussion? 
I'm open to any realistic, unrealistic, clever, or humorous suggestions. 
Thanks in advance 🫡

Seeking Ideas: How Can I Pitch the Perfect Leave Excuse for Next Monday? 😄

Why do you need an excuse? Don't you have leave saved up?  
  
 Just say you're going to be OOO on Monday. Don't feel guilty. You are owed leaves. You have earned leaves. And you should use it.

Consultant

And they(not my manager but my teammates) most probably know it's me. I'm so stupid. 
They'll probably hate me and refuse to work with me now.
Man, I really need to be NOT dumb at work lmao.
I feel so bad and it was an honest mistake:(((

Oh God. I made a mistake at work

Account Manager

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My manager called me in the meeting and said that from now onwards all 7 days are working because we are behind tasks.
( These tasks are irrelevant to me as these are not related to any customer development, he just wants to see how the data adds up )
Honestly I think it was the diwali week where people took things lightly and not that we are behind deadlines.
He asked me to be available 24x7 this Friday to Sunday but I had already planned the weekend off with family and pre intimated this 10 days in advance.
Now I'm getting calls that 'x' task was not done and 'y' customer is complaining etc. ( which is not the case )
On this break, I've finally made up my mind to quit.
The mental pressure is not worth it.
WHAT is a good way to put it across to the leadership??

I am ready to Quit !

Analytics Manager

So, my boss is an absolutely lovely person, and is the best boss I've had so far. Not to brag, but I'm also the best performer in my team, by a mile. So, while I do get my pats on the back, I'm also rewarded with more and more work. I love, atleast so far, what I do, so I didn't mind taking up more work, because I learnt a lot in the process too, and it helped my hone my craft better.

Cut to now, I'm losing interest in work. Don't feel like taking up any new work, no matter how exciting the brief, or how great its potential.

I feel like I'm burnt out. And majorly demotivated.

What makes it worse is seeing this other member in my team chill the absolute fk out. He's hardly even given any important projects because of what a waste resource he is.

I've also just been promoted. So, I'm not sure if I should share what's on my mind with my boss.

My mind says I shouldn't, but my heart says it should be fine.

What should I do about:
1. Telling or not telling my boss what I'm going through (because I'm scared if it'll come back to bite my later)
2. Me feeling extremely burnt out and demotivated.

Drop in a joke or two, if you want, but please drop in a serious and genuine reply too.

Should I tell me boss I'm burnt out?

No, please dont in my opinion. Are you not taking leave’s? Please take leaves. 
  
 It might be contradictory on what i said but when it comes to bosses, it better not to talk about burning out and demotivated etc. 
  
 If you still want to do, sound as positive as you can be.  
 Boss sab ka bharosa nahi yaar.

Software Engineer

Marketing Creative

Ever since I have come back this week from Diwali break, it feels like I made a fucking mistake going back home and taking multiple days off last week.

My manager is intentionally putting too much on my plate, while other peers are just chilling and laughing at me.
Now, he is saying that we're running late on timelines because of me and I am a disgrace. He is laughingly mentioning to me that he will fire me.

I have a history of clinical depression and bipolar disorder, this is triggering me a lot and I can't sleep really well at night. I feel like ending it all and leaving this company for good. I have savings worth 12 months of living expense.

Is anyone else facing similar issues after coming back from Diwali?

Worst day at work today. Feel like ending it all.

Operations Manager

I’ll go first: being honest with my manager that my workload has been very low for 3 months straight. It ended up showing in my performance cyan

One mistake at work that you’ll never make again?

Business Development Manager

Got a job but now got another offer at 80% hike. What’s the best excuse to leave the job?

Best excuse to leave job within a month?

Don't give an excuse, have an honest conversation. Believe it or not, Honesty is the policy, even in these times

UX/UI Designer

Presented wrong numbers and half baked story to my GM 😂, boss pulled me up and told me to make sure I don’t repeat such mistakes and come better prepared for the meeting

What’s the last mistake you made in professional setting?

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I’ve been insufferable at work since 2-3 months now. Total time at my company- 6mo 21 days. Profile - Product Management 
My engineering team seems to be taking no ownership and always have their brahmastra ready that it didn’t come from product’s side. QA again is so great that I have to sit and thoroughly test each release end to end. 
My manager- he’s quite interested in taking my career fwd as a project manager. (I am not) He’s a total asshole and is quite concerned with start dates and end dates of tasks ( mind you, I am not the one actually writing the code but somehow the dates are my responsibility). He totally micromanages and somehow keeps blaming me for each small thing.
Examples:
- My engg team isn’t taking ownership: “you aren’t keeping them motivated enough”
- This isn’t a last minute change : “Do you attend standups? You aren’t communicating well”
- The QA tested and approved it, hence we released it. : “But did you test it? “
- Here are the release notes. : “This looks too jazzy, did you copy from GPT”
- Here are the release notes. : “This looks too basic, did you not copy from GPT”

I could go on forever. 

Gust: I am quite unhappy and is causing me unnecessary stress everyday. Also I don’t feel there’s a solution possible

Should I rage quit?

Product Manager

I work at a small scale startup where I interact daily with the CTO whom I directly report.

Recently, he has been giving tighter deadlines for critical projects at work and is not willing to discuss anything related to the scope or timeline of the projects. He just expects me to finish everything in x number of days without asking for even the slightest estimate of the duration.

This has led to me missing due dates for projects which he later blames on me quoting poor performance during reviews. 

Has anyone encountered such problems before? How did you handle it?

Deadlines without discussion

Product Engineer

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I have no idea how to inform this to my lead that I have deleted the api gateway in production accidentally and even though I have recreated it , the application needs to be published to stores again with this new api urls , I'm more scared of the customer as well , I am not able to calm down thinking of all the possible consequences it's gonna have from here on , I'm so fucked up really

Messed up in production system

So, my friend wanted to take up task with other team, his manager didn't want it. So the manager took him among the other team members and publicly humiliated him showcasing that he is worried as fuck about the task in hand(he was just excited) and that they are putting pressure on him(they weren't)

I started thinking, if this happened with me, I don't have a comeback, but I wouldn't wanna stay with a manager who uses his own people to get ahead. Would you?

If your manager used you as a scapegoat in a situation, would you still continue in the job?

You doze off on a leisurely wfh day. You miss a ping on a prod issue from your boss. Somebody else picks it up and solves it for the team.

How much trouble are you in.  What's the next thing u should do.

Sleeping at wfh

Hey Viners, would like to know your prespective on the situation that if you face a bunch of incompetent colleagues who dont take their work seriously and the manager constantly asks you to maintain quality because of your seniority and you end up cleaning their work, how do you handle it ?

Few Incompetent colleagues

Create a toxic work environment for them that they leave themselves ☺️

Corporate Strategist

I currently work in a project that is driven by CEO and he is very intimidating. I work my ass off to make sure he gets what expects but today he was especially aggressive during the call. After the call I asked him to wait up for two mins and started telling him that I am getting intimidated by him. Although he was nice to me when I confronted him, now I am feeling embarrassed because I broke down a little when I spoke. Tears started flowing and I am feeling like a weak person. Just fyi I am an adult male.

I ended up breaking down in front of my CEO

It's ok to express your emotions.  Especially in times of stress / duress.  
  
 You'll be fine.  
  
 It's also important to sometimes define boundaries - if that was the intent of your talk with him today.  It's feedback and if he is an understanding leader, he'll give you your space and time.

Sales Manager

Product Marketing Manager

I have put down my papers. My LWD will be on 10th of Jan. I am trying to convince my manager that since I will not be part of my current team after this PI (Program Increment) which will end on 6th December, I can't really contribute that much to a new team in a month of time.
All I am asking is to reduce the NP by 10 days since we have an annual shutdown from 25th dec. But the manager is not understanding. What should I do l?

Manager not reducing notice period for even 7 working days

I am new in a team and got a story assigned to me on Thursday afternoon. It was Friday morning and my manager was almost forcing me for 5-6 times to send the update on the story to client. As I work on VDI and it's too too slow, I was unable to go through the story properly, so forcibly, I had to send incorrect updates to client, to which they asked questions to my manager. 
And suddenly my manager's Second face revealed, and he asked me in the group "why did you send this incorrect update? You should have asked someone in team first. " (while he didn't give me some time to check with someone in team and forced me in the standup call to send updates at that time) and I was shocked, how this man turned his face within minutes!!!! When I justified my point, he started taunting me in the group chat, started argument and almost blamed me and shared the whole discussion to his manager and acted innocent. 
How these managers are so ruthless and double faced??
I am feared he would not approve my 1 week leave, I am planning to take during Dussehra or would give bad rating.

Should I stay strong or apologize (even though I am not wrong )? 

Please suggest what should I do now???

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