Ehh.. is it me or anyone else not able to understand the context? full disclosure, I am not a native Hindi speaker.

Software Developer

Leave it and don't feel hurting be happy you are an awesome 😎

Strategy & Operations

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Hurt too much to see through people

Hurt too much to see through people- Grapevine

Welcome to Movies & Music's Private Community

It can be the lyrics, it can be the music video or music.

I'll go first -

1. KSHMR & Lost Stories - Bombay Dreams
It is beautifully crafted video dealing with shame in pursuing something others despise or make fun of. The music video makes me smile at around the end

2. Passenger - Let her Go
The lyrics are so damn pure gold. It's so common sense but truly hits you especially when you are by yourself and it just sinks in! Love every line of the song and I think the lyrics are relatable for lot of people

3. Ritviz - Sage
Beautiful video, talks about acceptability and how people are threatened by something they don't understand and how world could use more love and it would be such an amazing place!

What are the songs that makes you emotional?

What are the songs that make you emotional?

Consultant

Context: Mad rush at Ahmedabad stadium. People standing in 45C even after booking tickets online. Complete shitshow

Anyone from Paytm Insider team? What on earth is going on for IPL tickets situation?

Software Engineer

Even though relationships aren't about money and gifts, this rakshabandan I felt hurt and sad and broke, when I had to spend a huge chunk of money on my air tickets to go home for tying my brother rakhi and got nothing much in return. 
*My brother is elder to me by 2-4 years and he's a well settled business man with a very high standard of living*

I feel so broke this Rakshabandhan!!

Analyst

I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

Worst times for men! Better to be a monster than a hero

This has been dragging from past two years and am done with my life, I can’t date anyone even though am 30 I have maintained myself in a healthy way so that I look a bit younger but because of the case is still going on… I don’t know what to do

Hi, just reaching out to people working in core technology and engineering (Not IT, Consulting, PM, UI/UX People) for general discussion on the state of R&D in India, your pay, comparisons to IT folks by your family friends etc.
You may be working in R&D as an engineer or building some deep tech product as an entrepreneur
Non exclusive list
Mechanical/Chemical/Material engineers
People working on Drones/Robots/Transportation/Defense Tech

I am missing a lot of fields here, but I believe there are lot of communities out there of software engineers, design folks, MBAs, not much of the hands on engineers in India

Shoutout to Core/Deep Tech People

Robotics Engineer

🎭

Growth Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am an EE Final year undergrad from a Tier 2 College. I have worked with production apps and am still working with a startup (mostly PPOed). I never did DSA/CP and got hooked to dev only. Now having worked for over 20 months I get sad when I see people who did 2 months DSA getting 30LPA and Where I am not rejected from the shortlisting itself (Oncampus). Recently saw a guy with no experience, literally getting a 60LPA job with a 33L base. And now I doubt my life choices, why did my efforts of managing college and work at once end up in such a disgusting manner. My PPO won't be even half of his CTC. And a guy with just 5-6 months DSA cracks a 60LPA job. Life is tough but shouldn't be up to this extent. 

How should I tackle this crisis?

Hurts to see undeserving people get highly paid

Generalist

It's been some time since I received some kindness from people. The last time I heard some kind words or got a kind gesture was very long ago. Today, whoever I interact with behaves absurdly without any compassion. The shopkeepers won't talk politely if asked about a product, the house owners will talk rudely and make random rules any day, people won't smile on the metro, in restaurants they will shout on the waiters and the list goes on. I am not even bringing up autowalas and taxiwalas. What does it take to show some compassion? How much does it take to compromise a little bit so that other person feels good about this world? Why does everyone want to just rip other off? 😞

What happened to the world?

I have shifted from banglore to my hometown in rajasthan and its lovely here. Greet everyone with ram ram /radhe radhe and people smile back greet back, its superb. I was missing this element in banglore

When it's someone younger it hurts more

Got this question from Twitter/ X, but Grapevine is a better place for it

People who have “given up” on dating and relationships. Why?

Takes too much time to really build rapport and trust with an individual. Especially after coming out of a longish relationship, it feels too daunting to build up history with someone new all over again

Growth And Strategy

Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women? 

There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late? 

Interested for thoughts from both men and women.

27F Engineer: Software Engineering Not Worth It For Women?

Hmm, someone I know has more than 10+ patents(ex-broadcom), is a tech evangelist and an implementation advisor for a cloud tech, have 3 kids with fourth on the way. Sometimes you just need a supportive environment.

Product Manager

"You were soo busy looking for a partner that you forgot to make friends"

Senior Software Engineer

Why cant I find someone who understands me !

Data engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

It can be a person/movie/promise/rejection/failure/betrayal/loss/expectation/relationship etc, it could be anything.

I'll start - Raju Hirani for making Dunki, had a lot of expectaion from this but didn't feel THE RH movie at all

What is that one thing that disappointed/disheartened/broke you the most in 2023? and why?

How Do You Realize Your Worth Around Negetive People?

Very well summarised

So true, have witnessed it first hand in one of my previous employers. They create such a strong dependency on themselves that it becomes difficult to pull out as well

Finance Consultant

Associate IT Engineer

I always looked at her and felt she is so beautiful, charismatic, and had an infectious smile. Looking at her made me smile broo.

Chapter 1
One day I decided to ask her out. I messaged her and our conversation grew then she spilled out that she also liked me a lot. And she was glad that I asked her out.

Chapter 2
She had studied in an all girls school and she had a stereotype about boys that they are all stupid and bad. And girls and boys should never be together. I was fine because atleast she liked me 😂. One fine day she asked me to break up with my brosss. I asked her why?
She said your friends are all playboys and I don't like the way they look at me. (Disclaimer: My bros are really nicest guys and I have known them since childhood they are the best gentlemen). We had an argument which didn't end on a good note.


Chapter 3
I left to a new state for my Job. After I reached there she messaged me that we can't talk and we have to stop whatever we had. I got anxious and worried and spent my 5 months not being able to contact her. I got into depression. Then me being restless on my birthday I came back to my hometown. At exactly 11:59PM when my bday was going to end she messaged me "Happy Birthday". I was so happy to see her message.

Chapter 4
We started talking and she said that she is leaving to Canada for her higher studies. I was happy for her but at the same time I was sad. I didn't want to see her go. We both cried and stayed on call till morning watching each other sleep.

Chapter 5:
She reached Canada and she completed her formalities and procedures. We talked for few more days but then eventually she started giving me hints that she is not interested. Then one day she abruptly messaged me and said we can't talk and we have to end everything. I cried the whole night, because there was no way for me to contact her and she had blocked me.

Chapter 6:
It has been 1 yr to that day. Somehow I have gone numb. I'm slowly forgetting her.

She left me.

Chill. After 5-6 years you will laugh on yourself that why in the world you gave so much importance to her. There is no derth of good women in this world. Moving her away was god's plan, for your good that you might never understand. Take Care!

We have gone from Not being able to express ourselves ➡️ not being bothered to express ourselves.🤔🤔

Random thought

When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. 

So I told her how I felt. She was angry at me for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months( she went to Delhi for some work) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.

So she left and we remained in touch via Whatsapp. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise.

Finally, I actually visited Delhi because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.

I'm going to a friends birthday soon and she's gonna be there. 

Would it be bad for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.

Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
I don't wanna be a douche but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can call me whenever and I'll come running.

Please help Grapevine! 🙏🏻

Girl Trouble - Am I Bad?

She's a big red flag. She's either manipulative or moody. We don't need these teasing and chasing games in 2024. 
  
 Move on

Investment Manager

This is coming from a guy
I know you dont get asked this question as most people assume that you have more options than men so its easier to make the switch.

But having options "may" not always make things easier. Every bond is different. 

And most mature women never go for temporary validations (rebounds, intoxications etc)

Would love to hear about the triggers that follow, and their respective coping mechanisms 

Open up ladies !!!
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