Me and my girl these days 🫠

As a working professional, we spend most of our time in the cities far away from families and once we get married, priorities further change to career, wife, children etc Comment below the ways that we can do to make our mothers happy who sacrifice everything for their children Personally for me : Talk to them for 15 mins at least every alternate day to make them feel loved and heard.

Been in Bangalore for 6+ years and love everything the city has given me. This city ( more like people here) taught me what software engineering and product sense is, how to entrepreneurs function, whats a 100X coder like. Made many memories, weekend trips to nearby places were so nice. Dated, moved in and then married my girlfriend, adopted a dog. So Bangalore has given me a lot. But in hindsight it takes a way a lot also - 1. Everybody is in constant work mode, even in parties its just about who is doing what 2. Everybody is in loot mode here - i have seen locals pay less for veggies/fruits in front of me, then the veggies apparently have lead in them 3. Rents/builders/brokers/roads - we all know whats up with them Though it was nice initially, now i feel like even after earning so much ( ctc > 1cr) if i just spend it all here ( monthly expenses ~2lacs same is with all my married friends), what is the point even. Hence making a move to slow life now, where you get a house with garden for 25k and fresh veggies and you can actually develop some relationship with community. This urge to always outperform in career is not really needed, we all eventually work towards savings and hence if i earn less but spend even lesser, its more or less the same thing for me. But i dont want to live in a matchbox, travel 1 hour to meet a friend, eat a roti for 150bucks and be in constant anxiety about climbing the ladder. All i want is to focus on health, and sit in a garden in some sunshine with my wife and my dog and enjoy a cup of tea. So yes, I AM DONE. Moving to a tier 2 ( more like tier 2.5 town ) Happy to answer any questions if anybody has any.

I am starting a new trend on Grapevine. Sharing a glimpse into my life today. Tag me if you add your weekend scenes here. ✨ Starbucks for me and Shopping for Ma + BAE. My wallet gon' hurt today 🫣

Unrelated/pseudo-related info: She is really fond of caffeine (Frontend developer rituals). She is like one of those coffee geeks. She has a spam account specially dedicated to various kinds of coffees around the globe. She also has a scrap book about various coffee beans. Kinda absurd (creeped me out initially when I saw it in her bag, she keeps them in those CID waale little specimen zip bags) but its her thing and I value her quirks. I am not really a fan, but I do enjoy cold coffee once in a blue moon when the mood strikes. But for her, I would. Thankfully, she isnt into tea, because I just HATE chai (might trigger a lot of people, but it tastes like cardboard to me for some reason). Every time I get stumbled by coffee aroma around me, it immediately reminds me of her voice. Ok enough about my weaknesses. Now give me solutions.

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work. During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday. In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened. In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her. I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

Lately, walking in the garden and watching birds chirp in the morning has become an underrated thing that I find deep happiness in. Even late night walks are becoming interesting with an ice-cream at hand and the wind blowing in my hair. What about you all?

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Such a dull Saturday! Please share something interesting