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Mental health advice

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In these uncertain times w.r.t jobs, personal expectations, physical health and also especially for gen z, I see lot of friction from parents as well as view of world is mostly different. How do you guys manage mental health.

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Data Scientist

With the rising cases of depression everywhere, what are the things that one can do to overcome Mental Health Problems. What are the things that helped you and can also help others

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Analyst

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I saw some people making fun of mental health and work life balance. Please don't make jokes about it and making fun by saying EY. If people cannot even respect someone's life instead make fun of it then I am really starting to question about the society we are living in. It is a very serious issue and many people are suffering because of stress. You might be a god gifted child and didn't have any stress or mental health issues. But there are others who are not blessed like you. Instead of making fun try being sympathetic and empathetic towards these issues. People are already suffering and making jokes on it doesn't help instead makes them more depressed. Just because you didn't suffer doesn't mean it's a myth.  It's very real and very important for survival. If mental health is not good it will also affect physical health issues and can lead to many other problems. Next time before making joke remember to understand people instead of making fun.

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Human Resource

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. 
Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. 
I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. 
Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. 
Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. 

Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

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Product Owner

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

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Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

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Would you use a platform that’s dedicated to mental health awareness and connecting with other people to discuss mental health issues?

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Marketing Manager

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Sometimes due to various reasons professional & personal there are ups and down in life, but as an IT employee how do you manage your mental health.?

How do you manage your mental health?

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Feeling?

Write your sentiments in comment section:)

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Test Engineer

Post your mental health issues. Peeps with good knowledge / experience in the subject, please suggest some pawssible solutions.

Help your brothers

I'm in late 20's now. 
  
 To my bro's in their early 20's: 
  
 "Please priorities your fitness. Aim to establish a routine and get into a shape you yourself are comfortable with and proud of."

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I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Stop comparing yourself with the new guy, take a few days off and go on a vacation. Given that she lived with you, it must be a strong connection which would take quite a long time to wear off. You'll learn to live with it in a few months. All the best and take care

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Hi all ,

I feel zoned out during office hours.Then I have to sacrifice my weekend to complete the remaining work as there will be status meeting in the next week.Im completely lost since last one month. Currently I'm working in autosar(application layer), but I feel like switching my career into full stack development.I find no balance in work neither in learning.My social circle is messed up , I hardly interact with people around me.

Mental instability at work

My story is long, Jo hua so hua. 
A month ago I used to do good exercise daily eating properly or aaj haal ye he ki jo bhi mile khaane khaa leta hu, poora din bed pe mareez ki trhe pade raho poora din tired rheta hu har roz or neend ki maa bhen ho rakhi he sirf dreams hi dreams chalte he. Kuch bhi krne ka man nhi 0 motivation. Salary theek he kaam bhi ho hi jaata he jese tese mere se koi baat krta he to zuban ladkalati he esa nhi he me chutiya hu jee main de kr ek nit ki cse branch se b.tech kri he non reserved category se. Bc samjh nhi aa rha isse kese bhar niklu 2 saal hone jaa rhe he try and fail lga hua he Mera ... Ab try krne ka bhi nhi krta. Kabhi nhi socha tha esa haal ho jayega. 
Motivation k naam pe mujhe mera bada bhai sb kuch lgta he, na me rota hu na hassta hu na logo se friendly trhe se baat kr pata hu, Mera humour bhi accha tha bina kisi ka dil dukhaye bhot logo ko hassaya he mene to ab sb se ese baat krunga to majak smjhenge ek do se try kiya tha bolne ka bc ignore kr diya, 24 ka hu ese haar maan k betha hu na jaane kyo.

Practical way to get out of the depression.

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I have recently joined a startup as an APM (My first PM role) and my manager is teaching me the bits and pieces of Product Management. The issue is, while he's helpful and experienced in this field, he sometimes talks to me in a very condescending way which kinda hurts me. I agree that I have a lot to learn and getting a job as an APM is a big thing, especially when you've been in a specialist role for all your life but I still don't get the point of patronizing your juniors. I'm trying to get better at writing documentation and specs but I get very disheartened after every spec review meeting I schedule with him.

Any tips for handling this? And what are some ways to get better at writing documentation and specs?

How to deal with a condescending manager?

Associate Product Manager

This is truly truly heartbreaking to hear.

McKinsey consultant commits suicide due to work pressure :(

The fact that Mck tried to cover up its name in investigation is sad

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Corporate Strategist

What is that one piece of advice you’d give your younger self or someone who’s starting off now after working for a few years. 

Mine would be that despite the hunger to prove yourself always take the time off to enjoy your success both personally and with people close to you. 

Time is something you’ll never get back.

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