GroovyMochi
GroovyMochi

Restrictions on Daughter/Girls

I was out with a friend, she was telling me how her parents have messed up her life and try to interfere in all aspects of her life. Her bachelors was in her home city, so anytime she wanted to go out other than college hours, there was proper question answer rounds. Where, who, when, what time you will return home and her father used to pick and drop her. To avoid conflict she restricted going out. After bachelors they didn't allow her to pursue masters out of India. Then when she convinced them to allow an MBA in another state, there were constant calls and video calls just to make sure she was in her room. But that stay away from home developed her a lot, I can see that. She is more mature now and confident. Now she lives in a metro city, is financially independent but still has to update any plans to her parents otherwise they make sure to make a ton of calls to her and her roommate. She can't be outside home after 9 9:30. She has a vc from home around that time. Infact she got a call when we were out. I understand parents want to protect her but at what cost. I asked her to set some boundaries and to push back, but she answered its no use and would only lead to more restrictions.

My point is first, is it so hard to push back parents who are so controlling and ask for some space, second now that she is financially independent, there wouldn't be any consequences right, worse comes to worse a break of communication

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FloatingSushi
FloatingSushi

You can’t understand their parents fear and protection.. That’s how the society has in India.. please don’t misunderstand their parents don’t pollute her mind. I

GroovyMochi
GroovyMochi

But isn't there a limit, the concern shouldn't turn into shackles right

FloatingSushi
FloatingSushi

When comes to parents, everything is limitless. If love or care

CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

This is what you call good parenting. People in GV, who are now parents, learn from them.

GroovyMochi
GroovyMochi

🙃

SquishyBagel
SquishyBagel

Don't do this please. This actually makes girls lose trust in their parent's and they slowly start to hate them. What's even worse, they will start doing lot of things sneakily which leads to even more problem. Healthy boundary is important

WobblyBagel
WobblyBagel

People who say understand it from parents POV are grossly justifying abuse and gaslighting. Obviously nobody accepts that they are unreasonable or bad. I have seen parents appreciating or doing it themselves, what they restrict for their children.

GoofyHamster
GoofyHamster

Yeah I was about to say the same. Being protective comes with being a parent, but what was described is literally choking any ounce of freedom away. Just shows that not only do they not trust her close friends, they don’t trust her first and foremost. It’s a difficult line to balance but this sure isn’t it.

WobblyBagel
WobblyBagel

In cases like the post mentioned the intent is to protect virginity and/or keep the girl aside for arranged marriage.

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka

Economic freedom leads to absolute freedom. Remember when I had to beg for money for trips. Now I just take them.

GroovyMochi
GroovyMochi

True, once financially independent you take your own decisions

ZoomyBagel
ZoomyBagel

Ikr… Iface similar situations but I do get where the parents are coming from as well… Ek point ke baad kitna Sunna hai voh khud decide karna padta hai

GroovyMochi
GroovyMochi

Haa wahi, parents pura control krnege toh banda life jiyega kab

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