“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”
“You should get married on time” To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take 32+ M here and not yet married.
I don't think getting married is a milestone. Try to stay as single as you can.
- someone married for a few years now
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Qwerty2398
Stealth
5 months ago
Got married at 26. If i get a time machine, will do it by 24. There is a quote by ashneer, where he says, 30's are the most important time is building one's career and setting the foundation to make money. Distractions from family life/kids will kill both the careers and family. I think he made perfect sense.
I think the older one gets, its difficult to have compatibility. Too many external stimulus corrupts our view of the society. And more over everything has a purpose and we all come with a shelf life. If chances of starting a family is slim or nil, whats the point in getting married? one is better of single.
Good for you that marriage is working out. But statistically, people who got married earlier are the ones more likely to divorce compared to people who got married in their late 20s or early 30s.
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It is ok to get married on time or getting married a little late or not marrying someone at all.
I have seen all sides of this coin.
But marrying someone with whom you can enjoy life and have compatibility is gold and rare. So waiting for that to happen is not bad.
To answer your question , It would be completely different for me as I am a guy having a lot of responsibilities and my wife is sharing half of that. I got married at 29 and now thinks that may be more sooner would have been better for me. So go ahead and see what's out there and if you don't want to marry at all then drop this idea.
@VitalTeam did you marry that person with whom you can enjoy life and have compatibility? Was yours arranged or love?
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Whenever you get right partner you want to enjoy your whole life. Be it 21, be it 40 or whatever.
I think you need to take a lot of time during dating on how your partner behaves to every situation.
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ProProcrastinator
Stealth
5 months ago
Got married at 33. Thankfully, studied up, had already built a good career by this time, studied up, travelled a lot, partied enough and saved up too. Not sure if I could’ve done all this if I married earlier.
If you are capable of staying alone I would highly recommend not to get married. To this day I regret marrying. Na Ghar main Shanti rehti Hain na mom ke saath. Zhund jindagi hain.
If you want to get married get married to girl who you love and known for many years instead of getting married in arranged set up.
Big red flag if girl is fan of big boss these types of girls are good for nothing
NOT NECESSARY TO GET MARRIED. IF YOU WANT KIDS BETTER ADOPT INSTEAD OF GETTING IN MESSS
Vrizal
Stealth
5 months ago
Bhai aapka divorce tak baat pahuch chuka he kya itne emotional hoke likh die☠
Jayega jaldi hi. It's better to leave alone rather then surrounded by idios. After sometime you give up kuch bhi Karo 2no side se gaaliyan Khao. Akele raho mast raho
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Shaadi hi nahi dating(matchmaking if AM) bhi time se start ho jaani chahiye, preferably by 23-24. Instead of doing hedonist saxsux, handle it maturely by trying to have as many conversations and advertising whether life expectations align or not.
Raising a family with a friend as your lifetime roommate is a blessing. You need to put serious efforts to find that friend, except when luck favours you.
Also, with age you change physically as well as mentally. Problems of conceiving may come up, existential malaise, work or family issues may stress you out. Early 20s is when hormones overflow and the best of togetherness peaks physically.
F here married for 5 years now.
Married someone whom I love and respect. We had a love marriage it was a great decision.
Early or late marriage doesn’t matter finding someone who will love you and support you matters the most.
We build our home together in a metro city, both of us working and sharing equal responsibilities.
So yeah marriage can be a blessing but a person should be right for you regardless of gender.
Being single is always better than being in a bad marriage.
Best luck!
Shaadi hi nhi karni mujhe toh. Main toh haridwar ya banaras chala jaaunga when I’ll be in my 30s.
I know how you feel. Everyone around you is getting married or having kids. But let me break this to you, the only thing good about shaadi is kids. You will love your kids. Rarely couples are happy in marriage. They fight like cats and dogs. You will lose your mental peace trying to fulfill your spouse’s expectations. Most of the times they are controlling af. They suck out the good energy from you. I can go on but you will surrender to “char log kya kahenge” eventually . If I had a time machine I would have never married. Choose your mann ki shanti over shadi.
parrotAI
Stealth
5 months ago
I plan to not get married at all but let’s see what life has in store for me.
I don’t want to FIRE, ideally want to work until I’m 70 and continue the same until I go out.
Same bro, same.
No regrets so far. I wanna find good work till I die.
If you are a guy build yourself first..5 years in job
If you are a girl get married after college..
I got married at 27, if I get to do it again i’d love to do it by 27-28 again assuming that I know that I am going to have a life full of fun with the person I am marrying. You can decide to get married earlier but then you’ll miss out on experiences that you can only have as a single human. Delaying beyond 28-29 has just one problem, I feel we as humans become less and less adaptable so it becomes all the more difficult to find a partner. Having said that, they never marry someone just because time is running out, that shit is worst.
Got married at 32.
Regret not getting married in early/mid twenties. I was a stupid emo brat who thought marriage is for losers. Single forever.
If I could turn back time, 24 - right after college
Are you serious man? I'm 23 and I think getting married this early would not let me thrive in my career as there will be more responsibilities moving forward. What's your take?
Without responsibilities, thriving in career is an option. With responsibilities, it becomes mandatory.
Also, my wife also started her career at that age. 2x the money, 2x the fun. We both regret not finding each other sooner.
All this is heavily dependent on finding the right one obviously.
Shaadi is just one component of life, it is not compulsory at all. Instead of marrying just for the sake of it, try to see how getting married will fit into your life, are you ready to embrace the changes post marriage and what impact it will have on your future.
Marry when you find someone with whom you would like to spend time, lots and lots of time. There is no late or early time to get married.
Side note: it's also good to marry early, one would get to be DINK for longer 😶🌫️
Its your life, your choice. You should take perspectives and think well. There are so many things to think of -
1. Getting the right person (much easier to find that if you find that person yourself and get to know them in a dating phase)
2. Thinking of whether you want a family, want to not adopt, want to be alive when your kids marry etc etc. All these depend on when you marry, if you wanna experience all this in your life marrying early is the way
3. Recently I asked someone this question and he wanted to marry bcoz he says his life isn't his entirely. It's also his parents and even if they don't say anything to us, they would be sad and disappointed if we don't (it's true though)
Only you can make this decision for yourself. Think all things about your future. Be sure about your decision. I have seen people regretting later in life because their priorities changed. They changed what they wanted and they regretted that it's not easy to do all things then than when they were young.
Whatever you decide, be sure of your resolve. Don't live in regrets!
Bumpy_Stock
Stealth
5 months ago
When you are young you are less mature and aware.
Divorce rates are increasing. Our marriage guidance comes from boomer parents who wouldn't even check education degrees for bg verification. People still don't buy insurance but would buy Nike sneakers n whatever. Social media expectations and distractions are fuelling the lifestyle Fomo.
Retrospectively it's a beautiful dream to marry early. But some finance and relationship failures are needed for maturity to get married.
Yaar, it is matter of luck. Both arranged marriages and love marriages can Suck. Both can be blissful. Late and early Both can bad or good.
Those whose marriages are working is because
Jab khuda meherbaan to gadha pehlwan
I wouldn't say there's a fixed time but definitely as you age your flexibility and adaptability goes down.
When it comes to making compromises you might not make the same ones that you might have done at 27-28. So definitely if you're mature enough and believe you've found the one you should go ahead rather than waiting it out