Founder

Second your opinion 
 Keep fighting 
 One day am gonna make it.

Software Engineer

Never glorify your struggles while you still haven't made it to the place you wanna be. It will slow down your progress / give you false sense of achievement which is actually yet to come !!

Struggles

Project manager

Struggles- Grapevine

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Seeing so many posts about APMs and people in Product earn so much, I feel sometimes  a Lil overwhelmed. I am underpaid.Period. But I am fine cause I am learning and take a leap whenever I want.😊

Underpaid

Associate Product Manager

10 years of schooling, studying hard during festivals, sacrificing my playtime, my childhood for marks..
2 years of high school - Completely cut-off from the world for a good college.
4 years of hard work for a job for a below average salary!!!

On the other hand:
Some random chai wala earns in lakhs.
Some MLM meme girl, living a luxurious lifestyle.
Insensible people are valued in society.
Even a 12th fail selling beer in his family shop lives a better life.

All the hard work I did is in vain? Whatever I did till this point of time was useless? What's the point of an endless struggle, if my destination has more struggle? Something is really wrong..

I have lost all my motivation 😞

What am I doing wrong?

DevOps Engineer

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Since early childhood all I talked, watched and read was Technology. When I got home from school, I worked on C++ and built games by modelling physics, collisions etc. I frequented a ton of online forums for WebGL and other archaic tech that most of you don't even know about.

I knew all about the Silicon Valley, the stories and legends. I learned all about the history of technology and used to work deeply with my father with transistors, ECU/ECMs etc during weekends. 

I thought I knew it all. I thought I was the deal. I remember schooling folks about all of this, making them realise they are dumb as hell. I remember when I stepped into my MS in CS program and attended a club meeting, I realized that I was just like everybody else.

They were all the same as me in hindsight. They knew the same things and lived and breathed the same passion. I knew I wasn't special. For the first time, I suffered ego-death. I thought I was special, and I was not.

This is just a reminder, that you are not special. You are less unique than you think you are. So lose that attitude.

Do you think you are special?

Product Manager

I am recent college graduate working at a good company with decent salary. 
I have three kind of friends from my college, 
1. Those who got very good ctc, like 15 to 30lpa ( mostly girls are here ) 
2. Those who got decent, like 5 to 7 lpa
3. Still trying to get job, or have one but company is delaying on boarding. 

But the fact is everyone has more or less same level of knowledge, still someone making lakhs and someone is not able to pay bills.

These days I'm getting a feeling of jealousy from these girls, they got the opportunity from programs which was only for womens. And not only this when I talk with them they don't even respect what they're getting, always like it's so less, I'm not able to save anything.

Whenever I talk with them, either I got stressed or  tensed, or felt left out.

Sharing my thoughts

RPA Developer

I turned 30 last month and I still feel i am a 20 year old. I lost the last 4 years of my life working from home and have started to go to office recently. I never worked together in a team, never been out for team lunches/dinners, never presented my work to the seniors/leadership. I have 4.5 years experience on the paper and my interaction with colleagues in person has been almost zero .

I don’t know how to do my taxes, can’t do basic servicing of my bike, extremely indiscipline’s, rarely track my expenses, can’t say ‘No’, haven’t upskill we and hence stuck in TCS, can’t stick to a hobby or interest, pathetic in managing my time, have no sense of punctuality, socially awakened, overweight with a pot belly and hence have confidence issues, can’t take care of myself in terms of self grooming, couldn’t maintain friendships as I used  to get offended when someone made fun of me or mocked me- my inflated ego is just useless. 

I can’t control my emotions, I sometimes get emotional and have tears in my eyes, I show emotions easily on my face, not smart when it comes to dealing with others, don’t know how much to talk to whom, whom to talk to, how to talk to and when to talk.

I’ve been told I’m pessimistic and highly negative about myself but I’m just saying things the way it is.
I have no responsibilities on life. I’ll be getting married the next year and I know I can take up the responsibility. But I still have the fear of putting my fiancé down. I love her a lot and I never even  would do anything to put her down.

My bad time management skills, inability to focus, getting distracted badly, being a slow learner, not networking, not having idea on making switches regularly, being too lazy and impatient to learn new things, not being updated in terms of on demand skills, tools , technologies, reluctance to learn something new and hence staying in comfort zone has screwed up my career.

I feel stuck and lost in life.
I honestly don’t know what to do.

Being a man child at the age of 30

Product Designer

I found an old form from 2013, my father had sent details
Annual Income - 8L
Education expense - 2.5L

He is retired govt empl so couldn't lie on numbers

I was in top autonomous institute, and my brother in good private school in Delhi

It hits me now, how I wasted my life 'enjoying college' and thereafter
Falling in and out of love

Parents never say anything on practical topics, just regular wake up early, eat vegetables rant

I fucked my life and how

Dying in guilt

Consultant

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Thoughts on “hustle culture”?

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

A few of my peers in my team talk tech jargons throughout the day in the workplace and do no work at all. They are the ones that are eventually promoted and I feel left out despite doing so much smart work and hard work both.

Teach me some ways to defeat these imposters and grow in my career.

How to grow your career amidst politics?

Software architect

Most corporate jobs tend to make you less of a human being.
The pressure and competition make you shout at your subordinates, backstab your colleagues, and play politics.
No matter what comes your way, don't give in to pressure.
being a good human being is not a barrier to success, it's actually a key component of sustainable, meaningful success. When we prioritize empathy, kindness, and integrity, we build strong relationships, foster a positive work culture, and create a legacy that truly matters.

Don't stop being a good human being; your progress won't be affected. Success that makes everyone hate you will be of little value.
After all, success at the cost of relationships and respect is a hollow victory."

Keep shining, you are making it easier for others to find their way.

Strive to remain a good human being.

Customer Service

Everyone on LinkedIn seems to be getting promotions and dream jobs while I'm still figuring things out. How do you stop measuring your success against others?

Every time I open social media, I feel like I'm falling behind in the great career race. Is everyone really thriving, or is it all just for show?

The Career Comparison Trap

Cheating happening in a lot of online assessments. I'm a 2024 graduate and I've worked very hard. I've a consistent streak of 390+ days on leetcode. I'm proficient at CS fundamentals. I have knowledge of web, restAPI and ML. Recently a company visited (startup). It was offered 20L CTC for associate software engineer role. This company conducted OA in 4 batches and all batches had same qn. I'm tye only guy who got shortlisted from batch 1 and rest of the batch guys cheated and shortlisted. In the interview they rejected me for not knowing system design. I then messaged the founder of the company about cheating in exam and how crappy their system was. He didn't care. He replied saying that he already knows. Idk where the hell our world is going with such founders. For him it's about his company. For me it's about my job and hardwork. Is there anything I could do about this? And the guy who got selected cheated in OA and he was in the 3rd batch.

Online assessments, Fresher and Depression

Help your brothers

Security Analyst

I started my Career in June 2018 and have switched 2 companies as of now. It's been 5 years but I haven't seen a single promotion so far.

But when I look at people on LinkedIn they are team leaders now.

And this is impacting my mental health as well. When I am back at home i still can get this fact out of my head.

Getting tensed looking at my career graph.

Research Specialist

Sunday night blues.

Are you really happy? A lot of us are chasing something that can cause a really lonely, unhappy, unsatisfactory life. Share it with all of us.

Please. Serious replies only. Let's extend support for each other.

[Serious] Are you happy?

These days I'm kind of feeling lost. I know everyone on earth has some purpose in life and finding it is hard... I'm at a point where finding my purpose in life is a complete waste.. Every time i try to change my life style I feel I'm stuck in my past.. If it's a career I'm not in the place where I want to be.. If it's love/ relationship I'm not with that person cause things didn't work out.. Even though it's over and that person moved on and so did I but I'm still stuck in the past... I'm not sure why and how but yeah... Sometimes I do wonder what life yields me... What should I do? How to come to a conclusion and how to choose the right path and move on in my life? What is the right decision I need to make to stop feeling miserable? I would like your suggestions folks and tell me what you'rea feeling too...

Struggles

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