[Thread] When did you experience your first failure?

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them. I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions. I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. Is life all about suffering and pain?

on the basis of 1. Education (10th, 12th, JEE, College,Placement) 2. Health Fitness 3. Relationship 4. Good/Bad Friend Circle 5. Happy With Salary or not 6. Mental Peace

NGL I truly miss the school days when I got to be myself and do well in life, I feel from then life has all gone downhill not scoring in 12th to not getting a good college. Even though I did all I possibly could in college via internships I could never wipe off the tag of a tier 3 student of my CV. Now in a mediocre job again comes the pressure of MBA. Every time I let loose life goes to a losers mindset and everything starts falling part. I wish market was better and I could join an early stage startup🤒 Peace

Hi folks, I recently got laid off from a startup where 50% of the engineering team was let go. I was working as an SDE and during a restructuring, my role was changed to SDE-2 without any increase in pay or responsibilities. I have a total of 2.5 years of experience. In my first company (where I worked for a year), there weren't many projects, so I didn't have the opportunity to learn or code much. However, in my second company, I primarily worked on the backend using Go, Django, Kafka, MongoDB, & PostgreSQL. I realize that although I gained exposure in my second job, I didn't delve deeply into the technologies. I mainly focused on completing business tasks quickly, learning new things just to finish the task at hand, without solidifying my understanding afterward. My experience seems suitable for an SDE-2 role, but I'm unsure if I can perform the role with complete honesty and may struggle. Some friends in similar situations reassure me that this struggle is common in SDE-2 roles. However, I feel I might be better off starting again as an SDE-1, focusing on my weak areas, and aiming for a promotion later. There are very few SDE-1 job openings currently. I am actively interviewing for SDE-2, and not able to clear system design interviews. Tbh, I feel very humiliated as when I am not able to answer their questions it feels like I am wasting their time or they would be thinking: Oh this guy has been working for so long and doesn't even know anything. Now I get it why people think Indian Software engineers are not that good in comparison to other countries' devs: the reason is people like me. This realization burdens me with guilt, occupying my thoughts constantly. However, I am confident that I can crack SDE-1 easily. I have good DSA & good enough LLD, &HLD skills for SDE1. I am looking for companies who can match my prev Salary: 22 L, 2 Bonus. Can u help how to navigate this career situation effectively without increasing my guilt or feeling constantly humiliated?

One of the toughest day of my life started on 03rd September, 2024. I just did not want to leave my bed at all. The world that I imagined has just crumbled. The future that I envisioned no longer cease to exist. Sense of failure in all aspects of my life has hit me. A failure in professional life, a failure as a son, a failure as a brother, a failure as a friend, a failure as a partner. A complete failure in a nutshell. This is the lowest point in my life where I want to run away, from everything. Not care about anything, not face anyone, and just run away.

When I was in college, I saw many people getting scholarships for coming 1st/2nd in class or for achieving some merits. But nobody cared about people who failed or came last because of the reasons beyond their control. Those reasons could be an underprivileged background, family/society pressure which leads to poor mental health, hence poor outcomes. I believe such people also need support, a helping hand which helps them come out of the adverse situation. Currently they are in a bad situation but generally back benchers end up becoming toppers in life with proper support. Since college, I have thought of starting such a scholarship. Now i might actually do it. The amount could be 5-10k (depends on if others also join to contribute) and 1-1 discussions. What do you think the impact would be? Please don't say it might motivate people to fail, no it doesn't work that way. Ensure you have a logical argument, not emotional.

Hello grapeviners. I was recently interviewing at a big MNC and gave 5 rounds of interviews. (4 Tech, 1 Managerial). I did fairly well in the interviews (according to me). Got rejected in the end and received no feedback... Just a generic rejection mail. How do you guys keep up with failures like these? Whenever I give interviews at a good company and perform well, I tend to imagine myself as a future employee in that company and how my life would be after joining there... and it really breaks my heart when I get rejected. This happened to me few times before as well and I still have no idea how to move on from feelings like these. Really interested to know what do you folks do in situations like these... How do you calm yourself down?