Just a long rant about life
When i was in college i wanted to build my own company/product. Thought of many ideas and tried to build something. None of them worked and it affected my studies so I had to quit just to clear my exams. After college I took placements in a WITCH like company where I got put into data entry/operations job after clearing difficult coding interviews (kismat kharab?). Somehow learnt new technologies on the side and managed to switch to a development role at a lower salary in a startup. After 3 years Worked hard on DSA and (barely) managed to get a good offer with above average pay. But the company is not stable anymore and may layoff at any time. Right now struggling to learn enough DSA to crack any company. Now I am almost 30, i have no hobbies,no talents, no relationships just trying to have a stable career. I see people everywhere doing so many things at once. How do they manage to do this. They are working at FAANG and managing businesses at the same time, have a bunch of friends. What am I doing wrong?
It is just luck + hardwork man. Work harder at everything and you will get there.
It gets better - don't worry about everything all at once. Take it one day at a time, with persistence, luck is bound to be in your favor one day 😀
Focus on one single thing, go to the gym or play something to keep physical & mental sanity, and career - think from an employer perspective & again optimize for one particular role.
akira
Stealth
5 months ago
based, I'd second this.
SaveBugs
Stealth
5 months ago
Don't feel that you are the only one walking this road. But because in today's fast pace life everybody is dealing with their struggles and barely discuss with anyone.
No real friends (which will do bitching at your back) and relatives are another story.
But plz rem you are not alone on this path... there are so so many people walking in silos.
God bless you and have patience.
Buddy its alright Life is not fair and nothing will just come by Luck and Hardwork it will depend on many things.
Most of people on earth do struggle till the end of the life. I'm still struggling with depts, loans,health issue all due to scams but I do give hope to myself that everything will change one day.
Dont compare with others too bro if i earn 50k from software there will always be persons earning 1lakh. If i earn 2 lakhs there will always be business persons earning millions and it will go on.
There will always be something ur good at try working hard on it and you will find success.
"Hope is a good thing, sometimes the best of things and no good thing ever dies"
-The Shawshank redemption
Law of reversed effort
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You’re doing nothing wrong but comparing with others.
Looks like you’re not happy not because you haven’t done anything rather others are doing xyz which you don’t have.
Comparison is the thief of joy, man.
Few things you can do to come out of this place.
Prepare a list of what you have and many don’t
Physical activity- Run, jog, play.
Mental health- write what you have achieved so far and remember the struggles you had to go through. Feel proud of your achievement.
Environment- most critical, surround yourself with positive minds, most importantly, make yourself one. Avoid talking negative about your past actions, achievement, etc. Instead, share your small small success stories to your younger.
Read book- if you like book then read, genre doesn’t matter
Watch movies- watch movies of your like, I recommend cartoons.
There are many things you can do… hope this helps!!
Same here bro. I got the job so early(at 20) and ever since I'm working as a QA engineer. I always wanted to switch to dev but I never really tried😅 even today I'm in a dilema wheather to switch or explore QA with other opportunities. But you took the leap and tried and almost on the finishing line. Don't give up and put a little more effort. I'm sure you will get there. All the best.
PunyFelony6
Student
5 months ago
I can understand your pain same thing with me but I am 22 and financial uncertainty lead me to drop out college
And right now I am struggling in software industry where no one giving job to me even though my portfolio is more than better any college freshers but I don't know why people are looking college freshers I spend one year dsa solving up to 500 question also build some of the major project to maximize my chance
You are a very brave man, I have to admire how you bravely are still fighting this battle.
Keep up the work, try to be happy.
I hope one day you will be happy and satisfied with your life. :)
All the best buddy 😀
life's a marathon buddy, not a race. just try to have fun at things you do and keep focus on goals. To work hard or smart that's your choice, but fun is important
I was not expecting so many responses. Thank you guys for your supportive and wise comments. I have not given up, just tired. So I decided to just vent it out over here. I will open this thread whenever i feel discouraged or lost. Hopefully we all will make something out of this life .
See man, what I have learnt in 3.5 YoE in professional life is that, in everything, there is a good portion of luck involved. The ones that say 1% luck 99% hardwork are wrong, they just have been lucky most of the times. And it fucking changes for everybody! Har kutte ka din aata hai, so don't you think negatively or take too much stress, staying always inside head and loosing proximity with life as a whole.
Second thing, the more you try to capture something by holding it tight, the more it slips away. Similarly the more you try to run towards one fixated goal keeping only the reward in mind, the harder it might become for you to sustain in long runif that reward is delayed.
Long story short, accept that luck is giving you a hard time, it will surely change but you just need to keep working forgetting about the big fucking end goal or reward if you have any mind. Just chill down, let go of the expectations, comparisons, FoMos and simply get happy in the process.
Rewards will automatically take care of itself when the luck changes :)
Never feel that if anyone is having a bunch of friends and parting that person is very happy. By seeing on social media. Some people just like to be in the limelight and we feel like they have everything and I also want life like that. But maybe they are also struggling like you just they are. Posting and you are not.
But I suggest you take things positive. Try to be mentally and physically strong. So that nothing can destroy you. And also don't give authority to anyone to control your emotions. If we come to work basis I don't have much experience to suggest you. Thanks and all the best
You have finally a job where you are getting the work you always wanted to. Everyone is running their own race, and have their own milestones. Dont compare where your batch mates and friends are, its their race or life I must say.
First, try to show your value in your current company. Try to maintain a good relationship with your manager. This would lower your chances of getting fired.
Keep learning and start looking out.
Also de-stress - go on walks, pick up a hobby, etc.
ये अरण्य झुरमुट नही जो काटे अपनी राह बना ले।
कृतदास नही जीवन का जो कोई अपना ले।।
ये जीवन उनका नही युधिष्ठिर, जो उनसे डरते हैं।
ये उनका है जो चरण रोप निर्भय हो लड़ते हैं।।
रामधारी सिंह दिनकर
Keep hustling, keep learning, keep moving. Don't give up
Do not go on the show. That's what u r going wrong. Looking at others map will make your attention deviate from your own. Stop having a weak sense of self.
Same is happening with me, i am tired of this life, no friends, i am just struggling to just live. I am doing hard work daily. But tired.
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