Typical over-pampering of the youngest kid 😒

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Typical over-pampering of the youngest kid 😒- Grapevine

Your opinion?

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Parents of GV, what's the most hypocritical thing you've done in the name of raising your kids? Any "do as I say, not as I do" moments you're not proud of?

The Parenting Paradox:

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Middle class parents have always saved up money, cutting out trivial expenses 
When kids get their own money, they want to shake up things - order in or eating out. Dragging down the health (and wealth) that parents built over the years

Was in a mall food court and saw parents - simple and humble - enjoying the little burger and fries, while being proud of their son/daughter being all grown up
I am guilty of this too

WHy are we like this

Kids grow up, start earning and take parents to fast food chains to experience "luxury"

- Let’s create a safe space
- Mention *minimal* information such as you age, gender, etc to add context about you
- Trolls be empathetic and think before you comment to someone.

What are you innermost thoughts and emotions you don’t share with family and friends as they wouldn’t understand?

So I ran these 2 surveys on GV. The one on the left is for millennials and the other one is for GenZ. 

I really thought that the GenZ narrative was false. Guess I was wrong.

This is such a stark difference. What do you think is the reason for this?

P.S. I was born in 2000

GenZ values WLB almost twice as much as millennials. I have data.

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I blame parents for this. Not that coaching centres are saints, they suck the life out of students by making them study 24/7 but the reason that child is in coaching centre is because parents put him/her there.

And every suicide letter I have read from students mentions that they couldn't fulfil parents expectations.

They are the reason their child is in that condition, just because they want to brag and seek validation  from so called society that their child is a prodigy (and want to establish that they are the creator of this prodigy) who went to medical/IIT. And if the child doesn't act acc. to their expectations, they start gaslighting them "We gave you birth" "Maa baap bhagwan ka roop hote hai how dare you blame us Or don't listen to us" 
I once watched a movie (don't remember the name) where actress says "As parent we determine if our child needs tuition classes but at same time we fail to know if he/she needs therapy"

Who do you think is to be blamed? 

Also parents on GV don't push your child if he doesn't want to fly, thinking he has wings, he may fall to death.

The Court was hearing a PIL filed by a Mumbai-based doctor Aniruddha Narayan Malpani who blamed coaching institutes for driving students to death

SC blames parents for Kota suicides, refuses to rein in coaching centres

Who do think is responsible for stress? Parents or coaching mafia?

Product Owner

If your parents are above 55 & are not working, how do they stay busy/active without usual work ?

What do they do exactly?

How do your parents stay busy/active ?

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Opinion about people asking for parents to pay for stuff despite earning decent amount

As a kid, who wasn't extreme ill-mannered, have had my share of beatings 
I think it is ego satisfaction or let out of anger on something you have produced and feel entitled to use as punching bag

But ones who haven't been subjected to those are in a high of their own.
Feels like they were God sent for leveling up Earth

Hence, extremes.
What’s your opinion?

Thoughts on Gentle Parenting?

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DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

The FAANG and unicorn employee salaries for even 2-7 YOE engineers is quite insane compared to the average Indian employee pay in other sectors of the economy.

The average SDE2 at these companies makes 50+ lakhs per year in compensation (not “CTC” but real money) The average SDE3 makes 80+ lakhs which is frankly insane.

What are you guys doing with all that money?

FAANG & unicorn folks, what do you do with all that money?

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Hi, recently we had a baby girl 👶 and are ovet the moon and enjoying our early parenthood. 

I have noticed that we have been *a lot* of money on things (toys, dresses, accessories etc..) ~1lakh till now.. 20k for clothes, other accessories ~70k (crib, car seat, stroller, dining chair, baby carrier, breast pumps etc etc..) during these initial days.. 

All products in baby category are super __expensive__ (talk about muslin clothes) and kids quickly outgrow them, making them irrelevant (our daughter is just 20days old and whatever the rompers we got for newborn is already to tight for her). 

How do you convince your wife that something is too expensive and not worth to buy? Whenever I have given hints on this, she mentions that you spend money on this and that and we shouldn't "kanjoos" when it comes to baby👶.. My wife is not ready to buy second hand items or use items from relatives (at least things like accessories not clothes). 

I can easily afford all this (>1cr CTC), but when do I start things about spending excessively?

How much on money speny on baby is too much

Dual Income and No Kids sounds very attractive but advice from people in their late 20s and 30s is probably too biased to be considered sound advice.

Wanted to understand how couples who took that decision in their 30s feel today.

Do you regret it?
Do you feel purposeless?
Do you feel lonely?
Do you feel the FOMO?

And so on.

Any DINK couples in their 40s? How do you really feel?

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Shantanu Deshpande at it again!

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Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women? 

There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late? 

Interested for thoughts from both men and women.

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