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Very true, and almost gives me anxiety :D

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Very true, and almost gives me anxiety :D- Grapevine

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I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!

Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document

The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

Does anyone ever wish they were... Less?

Lawyer

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Any one hear constantly think they are going to get fired, how do you guys deal with thought ? I have been working for about 5+ years but still have this anxiety and for some reason it’s bothering me a lot more than it should.

Anxiety around job security

Product Manager

Couldn’t agree more💯💯

A final year student

I made a lot of mistakes in my life
Never ever worked hard to my fullest potential
Didn't studied well even though I had potential during JEE
Keep getting attracted to girls(very few times), even though I am training myself not to.

Becoming emotionally down often
Feeling guilty of not being able to have someone to talk to.

What I simply want is to work to my fullest potential without getting attracted to the other gender so that there are no distractions and becoming mentally strong to the point that I don't need anyone else continuously present in my life for me.

There has to be a way
Almost everyone around me are so strong
My gut believes I don't have that much time left
I just want to fix everything for my parents and my brother
And leaving with a pride and honor of a MAN.

How to Forgive OneSelf?

Want to get some perspective here because I think it’d be valuable to hear about other people’s experiences.
This job at Google has completely destroyed my confidence and I feel so paranoid about shipping anything now.
I have made some mistakes but I have always caught them in staging or working drafts.

Here is what my manager has said to me:
- I lack attention to detail.
- I do not have drive.
- I do not have any ambition.

And the reason I have been told this is because:
I messed up a flow that the Lead PM had come up with in the first place. Then the Lead PM flips back on me and says that it would be "an embarrassment" to ship this.

I find myself immersed in a constant cycle of spending hours each day reviewing work, gripped by the fear of facing criticism or even the prospect of being fired. Despite investing significant time and effort, it seems that the only feedback I receive is overwhelmingly negative. It has reached a point where I question myself and wonder if I should have not been here at all. This toxic work environment is undeniably draining, and I'm left grappling with insane anxiety. Has anyone else faced this?

Am I bad at My Job Or Do I Just Work With Unstable Coworkers?

Just sharing for everybody. I personally meditate every now & then or do NSDR. Since I started this practice, I'm baffled at how anxious/in a rush I used to be about everything.

Examples: 
- Wake up in the morning, be in a rush to take a get ready
- Be in a rush to book Uber, anxiously looking at my phone
- Would get done with lunch/dinner in 5-10 mins, sometimes not even appreciating what had been made

It's gotten much better. But I feel this happens with too many of us. Please, just take a moment of calm. Breathe. The world will move with or without you, you need to find your calm.

Have a good one :)

A friendly reminder for the weekend and beyond: breathe, there's no rush!

Analyst

Today i have gone to doctor as i have headache and little bit of dizziness. She said i got anxious all the time. It is kind of true. But i dont know how to rectify those anxiousness.

For example, i am going get a project where i dont how to work on backend project wrt testing. I got anxious. I got anxious while driving that i have to drive safely. I dont have to go for over speed limit. Even if i pick up tea cup i got anxious that tea should not be spilled on floor.

I have remote job and work is chill. But anxiousness always finds a way in my routine. Due to that i am getting high blood pressure. I am also walking daily except this week due to sickness. 

Any idea how to be less anxious in every work.

I am anxious all the time

Software Developer

Hi Guys, I'm an SDE and I have this weird problem where I stress too much when some work is given to me which I don't understand.

Basically I'm not scared of high workload, as long as I know how to do it. Because then I know IT WILL BE DONE, I just have to work to finish it.

But when I get stuck on a problem, I DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE DONE, I just keep thinking about it even if I close my laptop. The more I think, the more scary the problem becomes and then I start thinking if it continues and I'm not able to deliver more work, I might get fired and then during background verification for the next company, they will see I was fired and then no one will hire me. Basically my thoughts spiral out of control and make my life miserable to the point where I don't feel hungry.

If I'm confident I'm very confident, I feel like i can do any problem but when I see myself failing multiple times, i lose my mental strength

I need help and I want to improve this nature, not get stressed when things go south. Do you guys feel the same or know how to handle it

Any books or words of wisdom or thought process that you follow which helps you deal with job related work stress will be extremely helpful.

Strange work anxiety

At the risk of sounding weak, this has become more and more rampant with me.

It feels as if I am living someone's elses life.

Somedays I just feel like living a life thats pointless. These are the days when I feel very prone to these emotional impulses of sudden "lonlinesss" (despite having few of the most amazing people in my life) or "emptiness" or "anti-gratitude/self-destruction". So much mental lethargy behing these useless chain of thoughts.

Am I the only one? Have I lost it? Am I sensitive? Is it a bad thing? Am I overworked? Am I too critical about my thoughts? 

Man this is so confounding.

How to control sudden outbursts of emotional anxiety ?

Data engineer

Talking to my team members gives me anxiety. 
My brain freezes and I can't work to my fullest. 
Just a random vent

Talking to my team members gives me anxiety

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
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Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
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If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

I have been treating myself like shit lately.

I have 100s of people who root for me but my mind pin points my emotional bandwidth on the ones who only see the "incapable" or "unworthy" side of me. 

Whenever I think highly of myself, a tiny sinister voice creeps in and labels me as "arrogant" or "dellusional" or "overconfident".

PS: I am someone who was at times bullied in school for being too polite (people started to associate it with feminine energy, although now that I am an adult, I feel being softspoken has opened more doors for me than others). This did leave a scar on my self-esteem, given how pampered and protected I was as a child.

How can I stop underestimating myself?

What do you do when you feel like you're betrayed by your best friend who is your friend from last 2 years but all of a sudden acts weird

Very true, and almost gives me anxiety :D

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