Wedding expenses

This is probably the most personal question I can ask but trying to level set my expectations on the big fat South Indian wedding I will be having this year

After the Ambani wedding fiesta I was wondering how much do people generally spend on their weddings? For context I am 28 M and unmarried so I can't share my expenditures.

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally. Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L. People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

or how much did you already spend ?

What do you think of this split ? What would you change?