No control over cravings. 
 It still happens. Binge watching the whole series , completing the whole book in 2 days. 
  
 The compounding feeling never got inside me .

Yes, it does happen. But, I wanna know non-obvious things people have done

Consultant

Product Manager

Holding back my thoughts, leading to suppressing my emotions. This emotional bottling up had lead to stress, sense of isolation, and created strained relationships due to unresolved feelings.

Obvious ones can be  1. Not studying for exams / studying 1 day before 2. No control over your emotions / cravings  I'll go first  When I was in 9th, I was depressed and very socially anxious and u...

Obvious ones can be -
1. Not studying for exams / studying 1 day before
2. No control over your emotions / cravings

I'll go first -
When I was in 9th, I was depressed and very socially anxious and underconfident. 

So, on the day of my birthday, I pretended to study in my room for an apparent exam coming in just so that I don't deal with being uncomfortable around the people coming in to wish me

My young brain thought to escape these issues than fight it

What all non-obvious self destructing things you have done in your life?

What all non-obvious self destructing things you have done in your life?- Grapevine

One incident that doesn't affect your life anymore but you still remember it like happened yesterday

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Based on comments Jo career pe focus Kiya use chahiye ladki, aur Jo ladki pe focus Kiya use chahiye career. Grass is always greener on other side.

Product Owner

It can be anything related to not doing something you always wanted to but never did, a mistake you realize you shouldn’t have made, or feelings of not being successful enough. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Do you have any regrets?

Failed to spend enough time with my parents. Life moves really fast. If you're around your parents take care of them, spend time with them and if you're away then make sure you visit them often ☮️

Software Engineer

We've all had some embarassing moments that make us want to crawl into a hole. What's Your Most Embarrassing Moment That Still Keeps You Up at Night?

Name your "I Wish I Could Forget" moments

How did you deal with a breakup when you were working?
I feel like I should take a break from everything but I really can't afford to lose my job.
My mind's become hell.

Dealing with breakup

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I have tried developing strategies, brainstorming solutions, worried to core leading to breakdowns 
While collegeaues from IIT/IIM earning double, don't know basic shit
I have understood there's no point putting that extra effort.
How do I act dumb on purpose? I'm not someone who can stretch work, result and speed are inherent and this is why need advice here.

P.S. company is citing funding winter for no appraisals this year
So another reason

How do I act dumb at work?

for me. i spent college studying for grades and 20s making money in a job I don't like, but never got to make the memories I should've with all my friends. I regret doing all of that

what is your worst mistake professionally?

If we are spiralling, let's spiral right

1. Focused solely on grades in colleges
2. Thought Campus placements were ultimate goal
3. Spent 3 years in a company with 5% increment (once), because it was comfortable
4. Scared to ask even minimum budget while negotiating salary
5. Overthinking every step, still not taking actions to correct or fuck up anything
6. Major major regret - not taking risk of starting own. It also has to do with parenting, but lets not blame.
7. Ran away from public sharing - speaking, athletics, all extracurricular activities for that matter. Kids grow up with zero confidence and looking fat & ugly. (I'm not fat shaming, some fat people look 🤌)

I'll add more, there will be more for sure 😂

Software Developer

A final year student

I made a lot of mistakes in my life
Never ever worked hard to my fullest potential
Didn't studied well even though I had potential during JEE
Keep getting attracted to girls(very few times), even though I am training myself not to.

Becoming emotionally down often
Feeling guilty of not being able to have someone to talk to.

What I simply want is to work to my fullest potential without getting attracted to the other gender so that there are no distractions and becoming mentally strong to the point that I don't need anyone else continuously present in my life for me.

There has to be a way
Almost everyone around me are so strong
My gut believes I don't have that much time left
I just want to fix everything for my parents and my brother
And leaving with a pride and honor of a MAN.

How to Forgive OneSelf?

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What’s the biggest financial mistake you’ve made in your life so far?

Mistakes

Technical Writer

What's one habit that hasn't changed for you since childhood?

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Ok now, good tips on how to stop procrastination and actually get stuff done?

There's no 1 answer to it. It cannot be solved in an instant. I attend therapy to deal with issues in my life. I find Procrastination a single most disastrous thing in my life.  
    When discussed, I was told that focus on self Discipline. Here are things i was told - 
 1. Try to make a timetable which has all the indulgences you do(netflix etc) and also the work you wanna do, experiment with time tables to understand what works. 
 2. Try to get to root of the problem when you procrastinate. Find out why you are doing it. I do it knowingly as in, I am consciously aware of it. I am now in pursuit of finding why I do it when I do it and sticking to a plan I make. 
 3. I have made a note of how harmful Procrastination has been in my life, how it has affected so many aspects of my life 
 4. Procrastination is a way of dealing with your emotions so that you get the immediate dopamine hit instead of a reward far later in your life. So, I am told that it's like having a relationship with yourself. You reason with yourself and understand why you are procrastinating, what emotions are you feeling that is making you procrastinate and how do you solve for it! Remember, being hard on yourself is just gonna make matters worse! Always do truth seeking for these things, be kind to yourself. Little by little you should be able to navigate.  
  
 Unfortunately without knowing what kind of Procrastination you have, it's not advisable to take up my points. I suggest consult with a therapist and talk it out and solve for it!

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What is one career mistake or decision you’re glad you avoided?

One of the best decisions I made was dodging my ex-manager when she moved to CTS as an SD. She pulled her entire previous team under her, tried her best to convince me too, but I’d had enough from the last program and stayed clear, dint go. Now, all those who followed her are struggling, except her little favorites. She joined as a Director and fast-tracked to SD by setting up a COE in just one year. Meanwhile, the others are stuck in a mess, listening to her “I gave you life, be grateful” speech like modern-day slaves, caught between a rock and a “please worship me” wall. that’s one circus I’m glad I skipped!🤣🤣🤣 
  
 From that point on, I decided no more chasing after previous managers. You’ll just end up stuck forever, hearing the classic “I gave you life, I brought you here, and now you’ve betrayed me” drama. Not falling for that trap🤩!

Associate Manager

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

Share some things that you learned later very hard in your life.

Regrets?

what did you do which changed your personality completely or a lot compared to your past, It could be anything related to your physical looks, mental, personal etc. 

Feel free to share stories of your friends as well.

for me it was gym & meditation. I used to be very skinny and now you won't be able to recognise my past photos.

Changing your Personality completely.

Senior Software Engineer

Sometimes I often procrastinate on important tasks but it's not because I don't like it or have no interest in it, mostly maybe due to self doubt about my ability. 

What is your reason for procrastination, if you procrastinate?

What all non-obvious self destructing things you have done in your life?

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