Dealing with breakup
How did you deal with a breakup when you were working?
I feel like I should take a break from everything but I really can't afford to lose my job.
My mind's become hell.
I feel like I should take a break from everything but I really can't afford to lose my job.
My mind's become hell.
Blair Taye
Stealth
5 days ago
Deal with it, don't run away from it. Resolve whatever you need to right now instead of just hiding it. Seek therapy.
If you try to just move on with dealing with issues, they will keep coming back again and again
Karilyn Hyrum
Student
5 days ago
Yes, i had the ugliest breakdown 2 months after the breakup last night.
By resolving, do you mean I should go and talk to that person?
Kalan Carmden
Stealth
5 days ago
Was breakup mutual? Or because of some issues or something?
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Jordon Olive
Student
4 days ago
Different people find different coping mechanisms to be useful for them. I can suggest you a few things:
1. Find a new hobby. People tend to remember their ex during those times of the day which they spent together. Pursue your hobby during that time. Watch a sport, or maybe read some popular science books, do whatever makes you happy!
2. Write. Whenever you feel that negative emotions are too overwhelming, just take a paper and a pen, jot down what exactly you are feeling. Later, when you are calm, return to the writing and think of it as a situation, which someone else is facing. Provide your advice, counsel or consolation to that imaginary person in writing.
3. Set aside time in your day for some meditation and exercise. A lot of people also find solace in spirituality, so they often meditate by chanting some religious mantras. Exercising, even as little as walking, right in the morning, sets the tone for the day. Play positive vibe music while sweating, it really feels good.
4. Just remember this one line, I found it on Instagram and it really helped me a lot. We often tend to search for closures, and imagine a lot of what-ifs. Avoid doing it. The line goes like, "The person you are missing today is making a conscious decision each day to not have you in their life and that's all the closure you need".
5. Love yourself, remember that happiness is found from within, and is not derived from someone else. Destiny knows when people will enter and leave our life, not us. We must know that life goes on. You may be facing a hard time today, rainy days for you, but the sun will shine again soon, good times will return! Have faith! This too shall pass.
Thanks, post break up / divorce, people tend to isolate themselves. That only makes the mind more violent.
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Underwent something similar few months back. I had started a new role in the company and life became absolutely mess after I got cheated upon. We were close and were even planning to get married a couple of years down. I had less work as I was new and my mind would just wander towards her...seeking a resolution that never came. I became hysterical..kept to myself and avoided speaking to new ppl.
The only advice I can provide is to keep yourself engaged with work as much as possible. Don't sit idle. If you sit idle your mind will go towards your ex seeking answers that will.never come.
Post work go and talk to your close friends. Maybe stay with with as much as possible. Don't shy away from talking to close people. But avoid revealing things at your workplace.
It does get better with time but you need to stay strong mentally in these situations. Hope you feel better soon.
Blair Olive
Student
4 days ago
thanks mate, I ignored my emotions for 2 months, kept myself busy and had a breakdown last night
Do you think ignoring emotions is the right thing to do?
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Dezi Lee
Stealth
5 days ago
There are better things waiting for you. Take it positively.
Dezi Vernon
Stealth
5 days ago
Just be busy, you overthink when you don't have anything to do, being busy is the only way, or go meet friends and family or just talk with people this is another way🙂
Isaiah Lee
Student
5 days ago
I do that most of the time, but whenever I get free time, I tend to breakdown
Thanks
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