Past relationship, Financial habits, where they intend to settle, libido, number of friends of opposite gender..

There isn’t going to be a second meeting after asking libido 😂

Senior Designer

Le me: who is seeing this word for the first time

Software Developer

Project Manager

No really I want to ask her that she can handel pressure while living with my family.🫡

Intern

Even looks don't matter. I meant , just do what you feel like in the meetups and take a decision afterwards. If you prepare and go , you may goof up. Actually I am not into this  marriage stuff. .

😂 but how will decide room temperature 😉

Product Manager

Data engineer

Ask how they spend their 24 hrs of the day. You should be knowing his/her habits. Also, ask what are their goals in life. Don’t just accept a proposal just because he or she watches same movies as you. Broader aspects of life should be discussed. Expectations also.

Chartered Accountant

Spotify playlist.....if songs match then its a match 😅

Software Engineer

What are the few questions we should ask during marriage meetups ?

What are the few questions we should ask during marriage meetups ?- Grapevine

I don't know if this is the right forum to ask this question. How common is it to ask extremely personal questions to your potential partner, in an arranged marriage setting, before marriage?
For example, asking for a blood test report indicating tests done for STDs, sexual orientation,medical issues, criminal charges, personal debt, etc? 
One of my good friends(guy) was asked these questions by a woman's parents. He was caught off guard when the lady's parents asked these questions. He answered them though.
I request people who have had similar experiences to share their stories.

Asking Personal Questions before Marriage

Data Scientist

All of us at some point of time go through this phase, fortunately/unfortunately I am going through it too!

Just wanted to know from experienced people, how do you find the right person on the basis of just a few questions?

Or what questions you should preferably ask when you are choosing for a better half?

Choosing right partner in Arrange Marriage?

DevOps Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Hey guys pls comment down in keywords, things you things one should experience before getting married 
Please write down “male” and “female” while adding the list.

Lets go!!

Things you should explore before getting married ?

Ofcourse the man or groom.
Some of his relations are also important like his mother (how her life has been), his friends, probably his sister

That's my opinion though, any that you suggest or have other opinions than this?

Who all meet before you settle in a marriage?

Founder

A couple of other posts are on what unmarried men / women look for in their potential spouses. 

Married folks, based on your experience, what advice would you give people as they are going through the journey of figuring out the right partner.

Married men / women, what’s your advice on this - what factors should one consider while evaluting a to-be spouse?

Growth Manager

Anybody here who's in their late 20's and family is pressuring them to get married but you're not mentally ready for the responsibility because maybe first you want to achieve something or be in a better place mentally or financially.

For Indian families marriage is just a checkpoint on their long list of responsibilities like science in school, btech in college, gov vs pvt job and stuff. 

I guess marriage is much more than just a wedding. If you're not mentally ready to have a partner reasons could be multiple like maybe you want to achieve something before tying knot or maybe you want to be at a better place mentally or monetary.

Honestly i dont know how to frame this question 
I just need to know the perspectives of married as well unmarried people or maybe any advice. 

I'm 27 btw 🫂

Thoughts on marriage

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work.

During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday.

In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. 

She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. 

We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened.

In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her.

I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. 

Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. 

We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. 

I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. 

Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

When I chose Love over my Career: My Story

... And we will never hear a story a woman doing that much for a guy.

Software Test - QA

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫡.

Are you happy with your marriage?

> at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background 
  
 I'm glad you didn't say "Only candidates from IIT/IIM can apply for this position".

25M. My parents keep on asking to get marry Because I am earning.. But the thing is I am not prepared for this, need to achieve my goals, not sure I will be reaching my goals after marriage. more over there are some trust issues on arranged marriages. Also I do get this on my mind some times, does marriage is mandatory, can't we live without marriage, I feel this when I see married people pretends  that they are happy outside but they are not inside, reasons might differ, lack of understanding, compromises, adjustments, Financial instability . I am in full of confused state. I already rejected few matches because of this mixed feelings and also to achieve my goals.

Marriage in Early Stage Matters ?

This needs to be cleared out :)
To the men & women in there 30's - 60's.

The answers will be guiding light for many. 

Stay flexi♻️
Let's make grapevine the new reddit 💚

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Married people, did you have love/arranged marriage? Did things go as per your expectations?

I mean there is fear of so many things, what if we both don't match the vibe, what if he is not supportive, i mean how should a women take decision?

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What are some points to take care of when getting married through an arranged marriage setup?

Married men, what advice would you give for an arranged marriage?

This question is for folks who have married early or have friends who have gotten married in their early 20s. What are your thoughts on this front?

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