JazzyWalrus

Asking Personal Questions before Marriage

I don't know if this is the right forum to ask this question. How common is it to ask extremely personal questions to your potential partner, in an arranged marriage setting, before marriage? For example, asking for a blood test report indicating tests done for STDs, sexual orientation,medical issues, criminal charges, personal debt, etc? One of my good friends(guy) was asked these questions by a woman's parents. He was caught off guard when the lady's parents asked these questions. He answered them though. I request people who have had similar experiences to share their stories.

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JumpyRaccoon

Stealth14mo

Questions on debt are very common. Have gotten asked many times.

I had a brief episode on the sexual orientation part. Met a girl on Bharat Matrimony and we were talking for about a week. Thanks to Bumble (lol, the only useful thing that app did to me) I came to know that she was a Bi! Confronted her and she admitted. I mean why are you even on matrimony wasting the time of so many guys and efforts of parents? 🙄

SillyDonut

TCS14mo

What's wrong on being a bi btw? Curious enough to listen 👂

JazzyWalrus

Stealth14mo

This is good advice. Sexual orientation is never discussed openly.. many queer folks get married because of pressure from their parents or society in general.
Glad you could find this about the woman.

FluffyWaffle

Stealth14mo

It's good to hear people are asking these questions.

SillyDonut

TCS14mo

100

FluffyWaffle

Stealth14mo

It's better than asking kundali questions

ZestyQuokka

Stealth14mo

Please normalise asking these questions, so many sad marriages can be avoided

SillyDonut

TCS14mo

💯

GigglyNarwhal

Stealth14mo

Buddy, I daily read 10 posts by incels on how to get a gf on this app. You're atleast asking valid questions. Having proper medical examination not just for STDs but for general health is a good thing IMO. Don't shy away and ask elders in family to initiate the talks

SwirlyTaco

Stealth14mo

Better answered before the wedding than after.

SillyDonut

TCS14mo

True

SillyDonut

TCS14mo

New fear unlocked cb...

STD call suna tha ab test v krwana pdega.

Ghor kalyug...utha le re baba utha le

Meko nahi ye bumble tinder wale fast Gen bots ko.

DancingWaffle

PhonePe14mo

These are very important questions to ask. Although I would argue this is not the best platform if you’re looking for advice on such a topic.

SwirlyBoba

Stealth14mo

Ask away. It's fine. Just don't do it publicly or in front of family. Also do tell your data to your SO and keep it in spirit of openness than being one sided interrogation. Most people will understand these are genuine questions ( STD/debt). If they blow up, you have a person who cannot control their emotions and think logically

WigglyPanda

Cult.fit14mo

Just imagine not asking any of your doubts because of courtesy and then later discovering the same thing after your marriage.

If your other side is reasonable enough, they will understand and appreciate. Ofcourse you need to make it happen in a very elegant and chivalrous way.

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