JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

What do women look for in a guy before they date one?

Include examples, anecdotes, etc.

17mo ago
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CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

O⁠_⁠o kitna bhi try krlo, uske paas humesha abba nahi maanege wala nuclear hatiyar hota hai

My "best friend" (12lpa dev) just got dumped by "sanskari punjaban girl" (5lpa sales) after their 1+ year thing, just because apparently her dad found a Canada PR rich sardarji 🤮

He moved cities to blr because this girl had in office job in blr, "wasting his WFH" At the end Bro's so hurt he's preparing for foreign MBA to fetch a "high end modern partner" 🤣

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

When rejection happens due to financial status, people take it seriously.

CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

Yeah it kinda shakes the self worth of guy, all this while the girl herself independently is worth lesser.

Does we even have anything else to suggest for him to better cope with, classic yaar dost response is "Bhai wo bhi gold digging r* thi"

GigglyWaffle
GigglyWaffle

Usually it's

  1. Enough salary so he feels like an equal. There's nothing more dangerous than dating an insecure man.
  2. Peaceful vibe. No bullshit talk. A person shouldn't radiate negativity.
  3. I've lived in lots of different places in both north and south india. I'd like a person with similar exposure, it makes me respect them. I don't like people who say "dosa" with a wrong "D"
  4. Respects boundaries, respects my independence.
  5. should want to live a minimalist/simple life. Not a huge a shopper basically.
  6. In-Laws shouldn't be problematic people.

If it's on a dating app first thing i'd look for is consistent texting and common sense. Not someone overly flirtatious right off the bat. It feels a bit off to me.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

Good one. Define enough salary.

SwirlyTaco
SwirlyTaco

@Cringefest finally met a Dosa Nazi 😅 thats quite the list!

PrancingKoala
PrancingKoala
Amazon17mo

Paisa!

DancingKoala
DancingKoala

Looks like bro only hooked up with strippers.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

🤣🤣

DizzyMochi
DizzyMochi

Vibe match, easy going, and respectful

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

Define vibe match

DizzyMochi
DizzyMochi

Similar interests I guess? Not sure how to describe vibe. If you can talk to the person about anything and everything I guess that’s vibe match. Conversations shouldn’t feel forced

PerkyDumpling
PerkyDumpling

I looked for similar interests they were top for me and good nature.

QuirkyNugget
QuirkyNugget

Are you with someone now

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

How did you know their similar interests? Define good nature.

CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

women would want a man of Higher social status compared with their social circle.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

Social status you mean financially? @Qwerty2398

CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

usually higher social status comes with financial security. But i mean, not just money. Just being rich will not cut it. for eg - having a green card or living abroad has better chances than earning 20 or 25L in India so on... What's higher? that's decided by their social circle.

PrancingCoconut
PrancingCoconut
Amazon17mo

Asides from physique standards that they might look for, they look for someone that can just listen instead of coming up with solutions when they rant. They want someone that can understand emotions and be empathetic.

PrancingSushi
PrancingSushi

I have a hard time doing this. If a girl comes to me telling me about how she can't find a job and is worried as she's on her notice period etc. I say, "Yes that happens. Apply more and meanwhile keep prepping, eventually you'll land something apart from that not much in our control". To me, this looks like a perfectly normal response. What should be done here if I follow the advice of this comment?

GoofyHamster
GoofyHamster
InMobi17mo

Real talk- they will look for a provider initially who's willing to listen to them. I think that's about it. Some might be superficial about looks if it's an arranged marriage setup, in a love marriage that too is glossed over.

That said, be prepared to be judged against an Excel sheet in an arrange marriage setup to see how many tick boxes you meet. Typical ones include salary, working abroad, not living with parents, understanding, not controlling, etc etc

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

@SandyDrake96 The listening is commonly coming across the thread. Is it that underrated? What's the fine line between listening and simping?

CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

listening is simply hearing them talk without offering any comments. Simping is agreeing to whatever nonsense they say.

DancingKoala
DancingKoala

I think this differs woman to woman. What do you look for in a woman before you date one? It depends on that.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

How do we know someone's type before we know them?

DancingKoala
DancingKoala

This works both ways. In your question you have mentioned what do women look for in a guy before they “date” one. Did you mean “meet” one?

FuzzyCupcake
FuzzyCupcake

Women date higher than their looks status

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

@CodingSherlock what does that even mean? Can you give an example?

FuzzyCupcake
FuzzyCupcake

If she is 5/10 she will want to date 6-7/10 of guy in looks same for status

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