JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

What do women look for in a guy before they date one?

Include examples, anecdotes, etc.

13mo ago
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CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

O⁠_⁠o kitna bhi try krlo, uske paas humesha abba nahi maanege wala nuclear hatiyar hota hai

My "best friend" (12lpa dev) just got dumped by "sanskari punjaban girl" (5lpa sales) after their 1+ year thing, just because apparently her dad found a Canada PR rich sardarji 🤮

He moved cities to blr because this girl had in office job in blr, "wasting his WFH" At the end Bro's so hurt he's preparing for foreign MBA to fetch a "high end modern partner" 🤣

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

When rejection happens due to financial status, people take it seriously.

CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

Yeah it kinda shakes the self worth of guy, all this while the girl herself independently is worth lesser.

Does we even have anything else to suggest for him to better cope with, classic yaar dost response is "Bhai wo bhi gold digging r* thi"

GigglyWaffle
GigglyWaffle

Usually it's

  1. Enough salary so he feels like an equal. There's nothing more dangerous than dating an insecure man.
  2. Peaceful vibe. No bullshit talk. A person shouldn't radiate negativity.
  3. I've lived in lots of different places in both north and south india. I'd like a person with similar exposure, it makes me respect them. I don't like people who say "dosa" with a wrong "D"
  4. Respects boundaries, respects my independence.
  5. should want to live a minimalist/simple life. Not a huge a shopper basically.
  6. In-Laws shouldn't be problematic people.

If it's on a dating app first thing i'd look for is consistent texting and common sense. Not someone overly flirtatious right off the bat. It feels a bit off to me.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

Good one. Define enough salary.

SwirlyTaco
SwirlyTaco

@Cringefest finally met a Dosa Nazi 😅 thats quite the list!

PrancingKoala
PrancingKoala

Paisa!

DancingKoala
DancingKoala

Looks like bro only hooked up with strippers.

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

🤣🤣

DizzyMochi
DizzyMochi

Vibe match, easy going, and respectful

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

Define vibe match

DizzyMochi
DizzyMochi

Similar interests I guess? Not sure how to describe vibe. If you can talk to the person about anything and everything I guess that’s vibe match. Conversations shouldn’t feel forced

PerkyDumpling
PerkyDumpling

I looked for similar interests they were top for me and good nature.

QuirkyNugget
QuirkyNugget

Are you with someone now

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin

How did you know their similar interests? Define good nature.

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