Matrimony Apps Saga

No matter what people say, your best chance to find someone is in your office, you just need to know how to approach it and manage it.

Having gone through the ordeal myself I would suggest to not rush into things. Every one gives a very rosy picture on their social media, and online profiles. Let it be a natural process and stay the f away from profiles who ask to move fast and get married within a few months. It is a possible red flag.

Very well put. Going through the same ordeal now. Just want to add this: folks will have some problem with almost everything. a) if you are earning big, lack of time for "other stuff in life" is an issue b) job location is an issue. If it's MUMBAI, they prefer Bangalore. if it's abroad, they prefer staying in India c) having some dependents is an issue. You can't have a sister (married / unmarried)

Girl's parents want a highly qualified, high-earning, good-looking guy with decent generational wealth. while the girl wants you to have a chill life, have loads of hobbies, "be friendly, have a good sense of humour, be jovial / not too serious, be okay with making 2-3 international trips a year". FML

Sharing a girls perspective - Tbh, it's quite similar for us women

• Guys have absurd expectations
• Will reject you for the most silliest reasons
• Guys want to sleep with you and then ghost you or reject you (yes that happens through Matrimonial sites as well)
• Are talking to multiple people, so it's like a lucky draw
• With every guy, the bar keeps getting lower

The bigger problem is:

• People lack clarity on what they really want or are seeking, they either don't know or fail to communicate what they want, or afraid to say the truth cos it takes courage to say 'no' backed by reason
• People want the other person to take the effort, but are not willing to put an effort themselves. It's got to be 50:50
• Have ridiculous expectations from the other person, and aren't willing to bend a little to accommodate

Fuck matrimonial sites me toh mummy papa ke bharose betha hu 😂

Guys Gals, low expectations is a key.

Wish you all find your home in your partner.

Don't believe in: "you will get what you deserve", it's a lie. At the end you will lie to yourself that this is what I wanted, you might think you know what you want, but that's just superficial and according to today's you, you will change.

Fully agreeing to the post and adding my 02 cents here:-

1. There is a theory in HR, if you want to know someone in less time then “Dine together, Travel together and then Exchange some money”. You will get to know the true character of that person. “Dine together” was shown in Lage Raho Munna bhai movie as well.
2. We do not find the right person after a certain age because we have matured differently with age and have found/adjusted ourselves to that shell. So our “basic” criteria too would not be met. We may have to lower our current “basic” as per market’s availability. Same as current hike cycles lol.

Many points are true. I m happily married but after marriage I got to know that my husband side/husband lied about my husband age, salary, education and major issues going on in their family life. Got to know everything after 1 year. My family didn't check anything as we were of exact same caste and all. So they were like everything will be true.

Is matrimonial that scary? 😳 That was my last hope