Nah, if cousin’s friend cant take the hint and step back, he aint a brother

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A cousin's friend was hitting on a girl, and she was hinting towards the cousin  Cousin was apprehensive to reciprocate because Bro code  But then, he let it be because Friend was in committed rela...

A cousin's friend was hitting on a girl, and she was hinting towards the cousin

Cousin was apprehensive to reciprocate because Bro code

But then, he let it be because Friend was in committed relationship of 4 years and still out their trying luck

Whats your mark where you leave Bro code?

What's your tipping point to not follow Bro code?

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When a guy breaks up with his girlfriend what is an appropriate amount of time to wait before you make a move?

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- It's hard being the only woman in the leadership, in a room full of older men. If you don't hang out with them, you are excluded. If you do hang out with them, you got to get you act right with nods and smiles along the small talk. If If If If.. thats the loop you are caught in.
- Imagine being the only female developer in the team. BRO code is the default setting. DEV code took a sabbatical. All of you go hang out with beer, smoke and whatever and what if I am not into that? I am not a so called BRO then. And dont even get me started on the casual jokes and me not being into gaming and TT. Go ahead ask me.. How does she even fit in then.. Right??
- Declare I’m taking a "Wellness" Day. Might as well hold a flag and say "Guess who's on her period?! ME ME ME!" So much for your policies
- I can’t even begin to count the number of times I’ve been interrupted, spoken over.. 
- Dress too casually, you're not taken seriously. Dress too nicely, you're trying too hard. I've been judged for my clothes more times than I can count - too much, too little, too fashionable - yep been called that too. It’s exhausting
- I think my presence is acknowledged only when it’s convenient for them. My opinions and insights are ignored until they need a female face to tick a diversity box
- I’ve stayed late and worked weekends just to prove I’m just as dedicated as the others (even when I was doing next weeks work)
- Finding a mentor who truly understands the challenges I face as a woman in tech is nearly impossible. Male mentors often don’t get it, and female mentors are spread too thin
- I was told to speak up but when I did, I was labeled aggressive. I'm expected to be assertive but not too assertive, confident but not too confident. Also if I am progressing too fast, I have someone special rooting for me for something special in return - that the peoples verdict. And then the gossip starts.

A large majority of Orgs, Founders, Leaders, HR are getting by doing the bare minimum.

Things women said that will change the way you look at things around you

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Actually I never dated , never had a girlfriend. In school I liked a girl but she rejected me . In college, I found that girls in my class are not compatible ( I mean they have other interests in their life , I have other interests) . And now I will be graduating from college, have a job of 8.55 lpa but never had a girlfriend. I thought I can date in the office but reality hit me that I can't date in my office. Going forward ( after a year ) I am aiming for a remote job . Then I will go back to my village ( I have reasons for that ) . But I fear that I can't get gf there because my village is conservative. Let me tell you that I am a shy guy and I don't believe in this cliche " go out and talk to women" because I can't start talking rubbish just for shake of talking. So please advise what to do ?

advice for dating life

She had the same reaction, years apart, for me and my sibling 

Kinda cute and irritating 

What's your story?

How did your mother react to you dating?

I'm still hesitant to share that story so please bear with me. I was at Church Street Social yesterday night to meet some of my college friends. After a few drinks and a nice dinner at 12:30ish we decided to leave.

Since, Uber was taking some time I was sitting w/ a few of my friends and talking. As soon as one of our guy friends left for home two women suddenly approached us and demanded for cash. We obviously denied and started walking away from them.

So, I am not a very strong woman and I am slightly anemic, one of them suddenly pushed me back. My friends started helping me recover and also started to verbally fight with them. Thankfully, a security guard from the nearby restaurant shooed them away.

I am obviously very worried about this incident and do not want to discuss this with anyone. I am too scared tbh and have moved in with few of my friends for some emotional support.

This is also the reason why I am venting out because I just want to feel heard and understood rather than be told about what I should or shouldn't do.

My story as a woman in this city

When a long term friend tells you that they like you more than a friend (and maybe want to be more than friends), but you don't reciprocate their feelings, how do you navigate through this to keep your friendship alive?

Telling them that you don't have feelings for them is obvious, but what after that?

How do you navigate friendship when this happens....

So, yesterday was supposed to be all about sibling bonds, but it turned into a reminder of how complicated family can be. You know how some holidays just don't live up to expectations? Yeah, this was one of those.

I've got this tradition of reaching out to my guy cousins for Rakshabandhan since I don't have brothers. Usually, it's a nice little exchange - nothing fancy, just a quick "Hey, thinking of you" kind of thing. But this year? Radio silence from one of them. Let's call him Dev.

At first, I brushed it off. People get busy, right? But then I saw him commenting on stuff in our family group chat. Ouch. Talk about being left on read.

The weird part is, Dev and I generally get along fine. He even made this sweet post about his sister today. It just hit different, you know? Like, oh right, I'm not actually part of that sibling circle.

Mom dropped some truth bombs later, mentioning how this isn't exactly new. Apparently, back in the day when we'd send actual rakhis, they'd never even say thanks. I'd totally forgotten about all the heartfelt letters I used to write too. Guess they're still collecting dust somewhere.

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard not to feel a little... I don't know, forgotten? Unimportant? It's just a text, but sometimes it's the little things that speak volumes.

Cousin ghosted me on Rakshabandhan

Muje toh real sister ne call nhi ki. Aap cousins ki baat kr re ho. 
 I messaged her late night asking if she had been busy. She asked why I am reacting like this. 
 Lol

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If the rumors are true then this is the classic example, not marrying the girl who has past.

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